Imisebenzi Engcono kakhulu Yengqayizivele yezingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile

Akuzona zonke izinhlelo zesikoleni esilandelayo ezidalwa ezilinganayo

Phakathi kwezinkinga zesikole, ukwelashwa, nezinselelo "zokudlala izinsuku," kungaba nzima ukucabanga ingane yakho ngezidingo ezikhethekile ukuhlanganyela emisebenzini emva kwezikole. Kodwa-ke, okuyiqiniso ukuthi izinhlelo ezifanele emva kwesikhathi esikoleni zingase zibe amathuba amabi kakhulu ekuboniseni amandla akhe, ukwakha ukuzethemba, ukwenza abangane, nokuthola izithakazelo ezintsha.

Okwenza Imisebenti Ngemuva Kwesikolweni Imicimbi

Ngokuvamile, abazali abafanelekile ukwenza imisebenzi yesikole ngemuva kwezingane zabo ezidinga izidingo ezikhethekile. Bangase bagxile kakhulu emfundweni yengane yabo noma ngemithi yokwelashwa noma bazizwe ukuthi akusiyo isikhathi noma imali yokukhathazeka ngezikhathi ezithile. Ngenkathi lesi simo sengqondo sizwakala, kunethuba elihle lokuthi uzophanga ingane yakho yamathuba angenza umehluko omkhulu empilweni yakhe. Nasi isizathu:

• Izingane eziningi ezinesidingo esikhethekile nazo zinekhono elimangalisayo, kungakhathaliseki ukukhubazeka kokufunda, izinkinga zomphakathi, noma ukubambezeleka kokukhuluma okungase kube nakho. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi angeke agijime njengomoya, udwebe njengoPicasso, noma ube yimpumelelo ye-Girl Scout. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela nokwakha la matalente, ikakhulu uma izinselele zezingane zakho zivame ukugxila kwengxoxo.
• Imisebenzi yangaphambilini ingakwandisa amathuba omntanakho okwenza abangani futhi athole i-niche yomphakathi. Izingane eziningi ezinezidingo ezikhethekile zinezinselele zokuxhumana zenhlalo. Futhi ake sibhekane nakho: kunzima ukwenza abangane ngenkathi ufunda ekilasini, ebhasini, noma uhamba ngendlela yokudlela. Imisebenti ye-emva-school yithuba lokuxhumana nezinye izingane ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele. Khetha inhlangano efanele, futhi ingane yakho izokuthola ngokuzenzekelayo isethi esakhelwe ngokuxhumana nabantu.

• Amakhono ingane yakho efunda ngemuva kwesikole ingaba ebaluleke kakhulu (noma ebaluleke kakhulu) kunamakhono afunde esikoleni. Esikoleni, ingane yakho isebenza ngokubhala ngesandla, imile emgqeni, amakhono okufunda, ukuziphatha okufanele eklasini. Ngemva kwesikole, ingane yakho ingase ifunde ukuba yingxenye yeqembu, ukusekela nokukhuthaza abanye, noma ukuzama izinto ezintsha. Angase afunde nemithetho yemidlalo eyaziwa kahle, athole inhlonipho, futhi akhe ubungane. Lawa amakhono azohlala isikhathi eside.

• Impumelelo yangemva kwesikolo yenza ukwakha nokuhlonipha. Lapho ingane yakho ihlasela ekhaya, idlala upiyano kumuntu obala, noma ihola ibhande eliphezulu ekhathini, kokubili wena futhi uthola ukuthi angaphumelela futhi aphumelele.
• Iminye imisebenzi yangemva kwesikole ingaba izithakazelo zomhlaba wonke. Uma ingane yakho ithola isithakazelo kumculo, ubuciko, ezemidlalo, umdanso, chess, noma yimuphi omunye umsebenzi wezamasiko ngenkathi esikoleni, ukuthi isithakazelo singanikeza umkhiqizo empilweni yakhe yonke.

Amathiphu Wokukhetha Imisebenzi Yasekupheleni Kwesikoleni Ngezingane Nezidingo Zakho Ezikhethekile

Abazali abaningi bavame ukuphoqa izingane zabo ukuba zenze lokho abakuthandayo lapho beyizingane noma ukuthi izingane zabo zenzani. Ngokuvamile, ngokuvame ukuthuthukisa izingane, lokhu kusebenza kahle. Nokho, izingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile, kubalulekile ukukhetha ngokucophelela ngezici eziningana engqondweni:

• Yiba nempumelelo. Iqiniso lokuthi ingane yakho ingabaleka ibhola akusho ukuthi usekulungele iqembu lebhola eligcwele. Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka, ukulungele okuthile okuyinselele encane. Cabanga ngokucophelela ngalokho ingane yakho ekwazi ukukuqonda ngempela, yenza kahle, futhi ugxile esikhathini eside. Bobabili wena nomntanakho nizohlupheka uma uqala into engakwazi ukuyiqedela.
• Gcina ukukhathazeka okunengqondo engqondweni. Izidingo eziningi ezikhethekile zezingane zizwela ngokungazwakalayo umsindo omkhulu, ukushisa, iphunga elinamandla, nezibani ezikhanyayo. Uma lokho kuchaza ingane yakho, vula imisebenzi ehilela "ukuhlaselwa" okuzwakalayo.

• Cabanga ngezidingo ezikhethekile emva kwezinhlelo zesikole . Ezinye izingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile zikhula ezinhlelweni "ezikhethekile" ezifana ne-Challenger Club, kanti ezinye zingathola izinhlelo ezinjalo zithinta noma ziphazamise. Uma ungaqiniseki, hlola kokubili izinguquko ezijwayelekile futhi "ezikhethekile" zemisebenzi ingane yakho engase ithole ithakazelisayo.
• Khetha umsebenzi lapho ingane yakho isivele isithakazelo khona . Izingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile zingase zisebenze kakade nemithi engathandeki, inselele izilingo zesikole, izihlukumezi zesikole, nokubi kakhulu. Imisebenti ye-ngemuva-esikolweni kufanele ibe yintfo labatsandza kakhulu.
• Khetha umsebenzi owenza kahle ingane yakho. Uma ingane yakho ishiya esikoleni, kufanele ikwazi ukukhanya. Ingabe umkhulu ekubhukuda? Ngabe unamandla kakhulu ekudwebeni? Thola ingane yakho ithuba lokubonisa lokho angakwenza kahle.

• Faka ingane yakho esinqumweni, kodwa yiba nempumelelo . Indodakazi yakho ingase ifune ukuthatha isigaba sokudansa, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi ayinalo amakhono noma isiyalo ohlelweni olugcwele lwe-ballet owaziyo. Cabanga ukuthola inkinobho ephansi, ukwamukela uhlelo lokudansa lapho engahlanganiswa ngokugcwele ngisho noma i- jete yakhe enkulu idinga ukusebenza.
• Cabanga ngezinhlelo ezihleliwe ngokuphambene nezinhlelo ezivulekile . Izingane eziningi ezinesidingo esikhethekile zenza kangcono kakhulu ezinhlelweni ezihlelekile kakhulu ezifana ne-Boy noma i-Girl Scouts kunezingxoxo "zokuhlola" eziphelile. Nakuba ukungabikho kwesakhiwo kubonakala ngokwengeziwe ukwamukela, kungaba yinto enzima kakhulu kunoma yimuphi ingane ongeke abe namakhono aqinile ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangokwenhlangano.
• Khetha izinhlelo ezinemithetho elula nokuncintisana okuncane . Imidlalo yeqembu eliyinkimbinkimbi (isibonelo) idinga amazinga aphezulu okusebenza ngokomzimba, ezenhlalakahle, ezokuhamba, namakhono okuqonda. Kuyafana nemisebenzi eminingi yokuncintisana, kusukela kumidlalo yaseshashalazini (izingxoxo ezidingekayo) ukuya eqenjini lokudansa.
• Qonda ukuthi ingane yakho ingena kuphi . Yini ekulindelwe ngempela kwengane ejoyina i-Boy Scouts noma i-ligi lebhola lebhola lokuzilibazisa? Uma ingane yakho idinga ukusekela, ingabe iyatholakala? Uma ingane yakho igijima ezinkingeni, umfundisi noma umqeqeshi uzophendula kanjani? Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho iyakwazi ukwenza okulindelwe (noma inokusekelwa okudingekayo uma kudingeka).
• Khuluma nomuntu noma abantu abaqhuba uhlelo . Chaza amandla nezinkinga zezingane zakho. Umqeqeshi noma umfundisi uzoyiphatha kanjani uma ingane yakho inenkinga noma ingabe iqubuke? Mhlawumbe uzohamba uhambe uma uyazi ukuthi kungumdlalo omuhle yini.
• Cabanga ukuba isithunzi somntanakho noma umsizi okwesikhashana . Ezimweni eziningi, izidingo ezikhethekile zidinga izingane zidinga usizo njengoba ziqala emsebenzini, kodwa uma ziyazi ukuthi izintambo zihamba kahle. Uma unesikhathi nekhono, cabanga ukuthi umnikelo uzoba khona endaweni yengane yakho emasontweni ambalwa okuqala. Ngaphandle kwalokho, qasha "isithunzi" esiwusizo esingasisekela ingane yakho futhi ingene lapho kuphakama inkinga. Lokhu kuzokwehlisa ukukhathazeka komuntu wonke futhi kungenze kwenzeke ukuthi ingane yakho ibe yingxenye egcwele yenhlangano.
• Unganaki ukugoba ngokobulili noma izinketho ezingenayo ubulili . Ngokuqinisekile, "abafana" abaningi kufanele bathande imidlalo futhi "amantombazane amaningi" ajabulele ukudansa. Kodwa izingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile kungenzeka zingazi, zikhathalele, noma zihlangabezane nalabo abathandanayo. Uma indodana yakho ithanda ukudansa noma indodakazi yakho ithanda i-baseball, cabanga ngalezo zindlela.
• Khumbula ukuthi "ngemuva kwesikole" kungasho ukuthi "esikoleni" noma "esekelwe emphakathini." Ngezinye izikhathi izinketho ezitholakalayo emphakathini (ezemidlalo ezithandwayo ezihambisana nezemidlalo zesikole, isibonelo) zingumdlalo ongcono wezingane ezinezidingo ezikhethekile.

Imisebenzi Engcono kakhulu Yengqayizivele yezingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile

Uma ukhumbula izeluleko ezingenhla, cabangela izinketho ezingase zihlangabezane nezidingo zomntanakho. Lezi zenzo yizo zonke izinketho ezijwayelekile ezijwayele ukugubha izikhwebu zomuntu ngamunye ngenkathi kunciphisa isidingo samakhono okuxhumana nabantu asezingeni eliphezulu. Njengoba uzobona, ezinye zalezi zenzo zingadinga ukuzibandakanya kwabazali bakho ekuqaleni noma kulo lonke:

1. Imidlalo Yomuntu ngamunye: Uma ingane yakho ijabulela imidlalo, cabanga ngamaqembu lapho ingane yakho iyenza yedwa futhi iphikisana nemiphumela yakhe emihle. Izinketho kubandakanya ukubhukuda , ubuciko bokulwa, i-bowling, ithrekhi nensimu, igalofu, ukushaya umnsalo, nokunye okuningi.
2. AmaClub kanye namaHlelo aKholwa aBantu abadala: Abantwana abaningi abanesidingo esikhethekile balwela izinhlelo ezifana neB Boy Scouts ne-Girl Scouts no-4H. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi izinhlelo zihleleke kakhulu, izingane ziqhubekela phambili ngokwezifiso zazo, imisebenzi ziyizandla, futhi izinhlangano ngokwazo zizinikezele ekubandakanyeni izingane kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zikwazi noma imvelaphi.
3. Izinhlelo zokucula kanye nezinsimbi: Esikhundleni noma ngaphezu kokuthekisana komculo, cabanga ukubhalisa ingane yakho ohlelweni lokucula noma lwezinsimbi empeleni elifundisa nokugubha amakhono. Uma ingane yakho ingafunda ukuhlabelela, iyohlale iyakwamukela ku-chorus. Uma engakwazi ukudlala ithuluzi, angakwazi ukujoyina ibhande. Lezi akuzona kuphela ukungenelela ezikoleni ezisekelwe esikoleni, kodwa futhi ukuzijabulisa ukujabulela konke ukuphila.
4. Imisebenzi yokuzithandela: Imiphakathi eminingi ilayishwa ngamathuba abantwana (ngezinye izikhathi nabazali) ukuzinikela isikhathi sabo. Izingane zingasiza ukuhlanza udoti epaki, ukusiza ukukhulisa amakhanda, ukuvakashela amakhaya asebehlengikazi, noma ukusiza ukukhulisa imicimbi yezikole ngokugeza izimoto noma ukuthengisa. Ngokuzibandakanya kwabazali, bangaba ngamalungu anenani lomphakathi noma izinhlangano zesikole.
5. Indawo yaseshashalazini: Izingane eziningi ezinenkinga enzima ezikhetha amagama nezenzo ezilungile zenza kahle kakhulu uma zisebenza kusuka kwiskripthi. Amaqembu asebenzayo namakamu awadingi ukuhlolwa futhi kungaba yindlela enhle yokuqalisa. Ezinye izingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile zithola ukuthi zine talent langempela lokwenza.
6. Ubuciko bokubukwa: Izingane eziningi ezinezidingo ezikhethekile zinekhono ngempela kwezobuciko. Izikole kanye nezikhungo zobuciko zomphakathi zivame ukuhlinzeka ngezinhlelo ze-school ngemuva kokudweba, ukudweba, ubumba, ngisho nemidwebo yezindaba eziningi.
7. Ividiyo ne-A / V: Iningi lezinkulungwane ezingu-13 kanye nezintsha ezinesidingo esikhethekile zinentshisekelo enkulu namakhono kuvidiyo naku-v. Izikole eziningi eziphakathi nendawo eziphakeme zinamaqembu wevidiyo nama-A / V, futhi amadolobha amaningi aneziteshi zendawo ze-TV lapho izingane zingakwazi ukuzibandakanya khona. Ngisho noma ingane yakho ingeyona i-videographer yokudala, ingathola amathuba okuba nethemba futhi ahlonishwe ngemuva kwekhamera noma ukuphatha amakhompyutha.
8. I-Cosplay ne-Fantasy Games: I- Cosplay ifushane "yezingubo zokudlala," futhi iba yithandwa kakhulu. Bobabili izingane kanye nabantu abadala bakwenza futhi bagqoke izingubo ezimnandi ngokusekelwe encwadini yamahlaya noma abalingiswa befantasy abavela ku-TV noma kuma-movie bese beza "imiyalo" (imihlangano) lapho bebonisa khona lokho abakwenzile, bathole amasignesha kubalingisi abazithandayo, bancintisane ngezigqoko zokugqoka, futhi ngokuvamile ujabulela ukuba yi-geeks ndawonye. Imidlalo emangalisa njenge-Dungeons ne-Dragons nazo ziyizindlela ezinhle zezingane "ze-geeky" ukuthola abangane abanomqondo ofanayo abazimisele ukukwakha futhi bahlanganyele ekwakheni umhlaba wonke.
9. Amakilabhu Okuthandayo: Izingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile zivame ukuthakazeliswa yindawo ethile ezithakazelisayo futhi kunzima ukuthola isithakazelo kunoma yini enye. Uma lokhu kuchaza ingane yakho, cabanga ukuthi uyamsiza ukuba ahlanganyele neqembu elikhethekile lezintshisekelo ezindaweni ezivela kumathematics nokudlala ividiyo kuya enhlalakahleni yezilwane, i-Quidditch, noma i-chess.
10. Ukugibela ngamahhashi: Ukugibela amahhashi kungabiza, kodwa kuhlanganisa izinto eziningi ezimangalisayo ezingase zilungele ingane yakho. Abalingana bafunda ukukhulumisana ngokuphumelelayo, ukwakha amandla nokulinganisela, futhi bathole amakhono emdlalweni othakazelisayo ongaba ngabanye, iqembu elisekelwe emacembu, ukuncintisana noma ukungabi nokuncintisana. Buza mayelana nokufundela noma izinhlelo ezikhethekile zezingane ezinezidingo ezikhethekile.

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Uma ungumzali wengane enezidingo ezikhethekile ungase uzizwe "kunzima ngokwanele ukuthola ingane yami ngokusebenzisa esitolo; kungani ngingathanda ukungeza enye ingqimba yobunzima empilweni yethu?" Uma lokhu kuchaza wena, khumbula ukuthi izithakazelo zangaphandle zingashintsha inkambo yokuphila kwengane yakho (futhi, ngokwandisa, impilo yakho kanye). Ingane enesimo sangempela samandla, iqembu labangane, nomqondo wokuba nomuntu kungenza izinto ezinhle. Manje yithuba lakho lokuthola ingane yakho iqale kunentshisekelo engahlala isikhathi eside.