Indlela yokufundisa izingane ukuba zibone futhi ziveze imizwelo yazo ngezindlela ezinempilo.
Njengomzali, unomthwalo wemfanelo wokukhuthaza ingane yakho ukuba ithuthukise ukuhlakanipha kwayo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukuhlakanipha kwezemfundo-kodwa akuyena kuphela uhlobo lobuhlakani olubalulekile.
Ukuhlakanipha komzwelo kuchazwa njengamandla omuntu okuveza nokuphatha imizwa efanele ngenkathi ehlonipha imizwa yabanye. Kuyisethi yamakhono abantwana abangase baqale ukufunda nganoma yisiphi isikhathi.
Izinzuzo Zokuhlakanipha Kwengqondo
Emashumini eminyaka adlule, izifundo zithole ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo zinikeza izinzuzo ezihlukahlukene ezizosiza ingane yakho yonke impilo yakhe yonke. Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa ezihlakaniphile ezingokomzwelo:
- I-EQ ephezulu ixhunywe ku-IQ ephezulu. Izingane ezinamazinga aphezulu ezihlakaniphile ezingokomzwelo zenza ngcono ekuhlolweni okulinganisiwe. Bavame nokuba namamaki aphakeme.
- Ubuhlobo obungcono. Amakhono ohlakaniphile angokomzwelo asiza izingane ukuphatha izingxabano nokuthuthukisa ubungane obujulile. Abantu abadala abanamazinga aphezulu okuhlakanipha kwengqondo futhi babika ubuhlobo obungcono emiphakathini yabo siqu neyomsebenzi.
- Izingane ze-EQ zixhunyaniswe nempumelelo ephakeme ngesikhathi sabantu abadala. Ucwaningo lweminyaka engu-19 olushicilelwe eMelika Journal of Health Public lwathola ukuthi amakhono ezingane ezingokwengqondo nezomzwelo enkulisa angase abikezele impumelelo yangempela. Izingane ezazikwazi ukuhlanganyela, ukusebenzisana nokulandela izinkomba ezineminyaka engama-5 zithole amathuba amaningi okuthola ama-degree ekolishi futhi ziqale ukusebenza isikhathi esigcwele ngaminyaka engu-25.
- Ukuthuthukisa ingqondo yengqondo. Abantu abanamazinga aphezulu okuhlakanipha kwengqondo abancinci ukuzwa ukucindezeleka nezinye izifo ezingqondweni.
Izinzuzo zokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo zinengqondo. Ingane engakwazi ukuzola lapho ezwa intukuthelo cishe iyokwenza kahle ezimweni ezinzima. Futhi ingane engakwazi ukuveza imizwelo yakhe ngendlela enempilo cishe ingabamba ubuhlobo obunempilo kunengane ekhononda noma ekhuluma izinto ezinzima lapho ethukuthele.
Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi, zonke izingane zinamandla okufunda amakhono okuqonda ngokomzwelo. Badinga nje abantu abadala ukuba bafundise indlela.
1. Bhala imizwa yengane yakho
Izingane zidinga ukwazi ukuthi zizwa kanjani ukuthi zizwa kanjani. Ungasiza ingane yakho ngokubeka igama emizweni yakhe-okungenani umzwelo osolwa ukuthi ingane yakho izwa.
Uma ingane yakho icasukile ilahlekelwe umdlalo, ungathi, "Kubonakala sengathi uzizwa uthukuthele okwamanje. Ingabe kunjalo? "Uma ebukeka edabukile, ungase uthi," Ingabe uzizwa udangele ukuthi ngeke sivakashele umkhulu nogogo namuhla? "
Amazwi omzwelo njengokuthi "ukuthukuthela," "ukucasuka," "namahloni" futhi "abuhlungu" bonke bangakha isilulumagama ukuveza imizwa. Ungakhohlwa ukwabelana ngamazwi womzwelo omuhle, futhi, njengokuthi "injabulo," "ujabule," "ujabule" futhi "uyathemba."
2. Bonisa Uzwela
Lapho ingane yakho icasukile-ikakhulukazi lapho imizwa yakhe ibonakala ingxenyeni enkulu-kungase kube nzima ukunciphisa indlela azizwa ngayo. Kodwa izimpendulo ezilahlayo ziyofundisa ingane yakho ukuthi indlela azizwa ngayo ayiphutha.
Indlela engcono ukuqinisekisa imizwa yakhe futhi ubonise uzwela-ngisho noma ungaqondi ukuthi kungani ethukuthele kakhulu. Uma ingane yakho ikhala ngenxa yokuthi umtshele ukuthi akakwazi ukuya epaki aze ahlanze ikamelo lakhe, tshela okuthi, "Ngizizwa ngithukuthele uma ngingenzi ukwenza lokho engikufunayo.
Kunzima ngezinye izikhathi ukuqhubeka ngisebenza uma ngingathandi. "
Uma ingane yakho ibona ukuthi uyaqonda ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngaphakathi, uzozizwa engaphansi kokuphoqeleka ukukubonisa ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Ngakho kunokumemeza nokukhala ukuze akubonise ukuthi uthukuthele, uzozizwa kangcono uma usuvele ucacise ukuthi usuvele uqonda ukuthi uphelelwe amandla.
3. Hlela izindlela ezifanele zokuveza imizwelo
Izingane zidinga ukwazi ukuveza imizwelo yazo ngendlela efanele emphakathini. Ngakho ngenkathi ethi, "Imizwa yami ibuhlungu," noma ukudweba isithombe sesimo esidabukisayo kungaba usizo, ukumemeza nokuphonsa izinto akulungile.
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokufundisa ingane yakho indlela yokuveza imizwa iwukuzifanekisela lezi zakhono ngokwakho. Sebenzisa ukuzwa amagama enkulumweni yakho yansuku zonke futhi usebenzise ukukhuluma ngabo. Yisho izinto ezinjengalezi, "Ngizizwa ngithukuthele lapho ngibona izingane ziba namandla endaweni yokudlala," noma "Ngiyajabula lapho sithola ukuba abangane bethu beze badle."
Ukuhlola kubonisa ukuthi abazali abahlakaniphile ngokomzwelo cishe banabantwana abahlakaniphile ngokomzwelo. Ngakho yenza umkhuba ukugxila ngokucacile ekwakheni amakhono akho ukuze ube ngumlinganiso ophumelelayo kumntanakho.
4. Fundisa Amakhono Okubhekana Nokubhekana Nezempilo
Uma izingane ziqonda imizwelo yazo, zidinga ukufunda indlela yokubhekana nalezi zemizwa ngendlela enempilo. Ukwazi ukuzincisha phansi, ukuzijabulisa, noma ukubhekana nokukhathazeka kwabo kungaba nzima kubantu abancane.
Fundisa amakhono athile. Isibonelo, ingane yakho ingase izuze ekufundeni ukuthi ungathatha kanjani ukuphefumula okuncane lapho ethukuthele ukuhlisa umzimba wakhe phansi. Indlela enobungane yokufundisa lokhu kuhilela ukumtshela ukuthatha "bubble breaths" lapho ephefumula khona ngekhala lakhe bese ephuluza emlonyeni wakhe njengokungathi ushaya nge-bubble wand.
Ungase futhi usize ingane yakho idale ikiti elimsiza ukuba alawule imizwa yakhe. Ibhuku elimibalabala, incwadi enhle kakhulu yamahlaya, umculo othobileyo, kanye nemisindo ephunga okuhle yizinto ezimbalwa ezingasiza ukubandakanya izinzwa zakhe futhi uzibambe imizwelo yakhe. Beka izinto ebhokisini elikhethekile elihlobisa. Khona-ke, uma ecasukile, umkhumbuze ukuthi uhambe umthole phansi futhi usebenzise amathuluzi akhe ukuphatha imizwelo yakhe.
5. Yakha Amakhono Okuxazulula Izinkinga
Ingxenye yokwakha ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo kuhilela ukufunda ukuxazulula izinkinga. Ngemuva kokuba imizwa ibhalwe futhi iqondiswe, yisikhathi sokusebenza ngendlela yokulungisa inkinga ngokwayo.
Mhlawumbe ingane yakho ithukuthele ukuthi udadewabo ulokhu emphazamisa ngenkathi edlala umdlalo wevidiyo. Msize ukuthi aqaphe okungenani izindlela ezinhlanu angazixazulula le nkinga. Izixazululo akudingeki ukuba imibono emihle. Ekuqaleni, umgomo uwukucabangela imibono nje.
Uma esebonile okungenani izixazululo eziyisihlanu, msize ahlole izinzuzo nezingozi zomuntu ngamunye. Bese umkhuthaza ukuthi akhethe okukhethwa kukho.
Uma ingane yakho yenza amaphutha, sebenzisa ukuthi yini eyenziwe ngokuhlukile nokuthi yini ingane yakho engayenza ukuze ixazulule noma yiziphi izinkinga eziqhubekayo. Zama ukwenza njengomqeqeshi, kunokuba u-solver-problem solver. Nikeza isiqondiso uma kunesidingo kodwa usebenze ekusizeni ingane yakho ibone ukuthi inamandla okuxazulula izinkinga ngokuthula nangempumelelo.
6. Yenza Intelligence Intuthuko Injongo Eqhubekayo
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho ihlakaniphile kangakanani ngokomzwelo, kukhona indawo yokuthuthukisa. Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona okunye okumele kube khona kanye nokwehla kuyo yonke intsha nokukhula. Njengoba ekhula, cishe uyobhekana nezingqinamba ezizokwenza inselele amakhono akhe. Ngakho yenza kube umgomo wokufaka ukwakha ikhono ekuphileni kwakho kwansuku zonke. Uma ingane yakho isencane, khuluma ngemizwa nsuku zonke.
Khuluma mayelana nezinhlamvu zomzwelo ezincwadini noma kumabhayisikobho kungase kube nomuzwa. Xoxa ngezindlela ezingcono izinkinga ezingase zixazululwe noma amasu abalingiswa abangasebenzisa ukuphatha abanye ngenhlonipho. Njengoba ingane yakho ikhula, khuluma ngezimo zangempela zokuphila-kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izinto azihlangabezana nazo ekuphileni kwakhe kwansuku zonke noma kuyinkinga ofunda ngayo ezindabeni. Yenza ingxoxo eqhubekayo.
Sebenzisa amaphutha wengane yakho njengamathuba okukhula kangcono. Uma esephatha ngoba ethukuthele noma ebuhlungu imizwa yomunye umuntu, thatha isikhathi sokukhuluma ukuthi angakwenza kanjani kangcono esikhathini esizayo. Ngokusekelwa kwakho nokuqondiswa kwakho okuqhubekayo, ingane yakho ingahlakulela ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo namandla angqondo okuzodinga ukuphumelela empilweni.
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