Ukubeletha Kungakhathazeka: Nansi isizathu!
Izingane ziletha injabulo, uthando, nezipho ezingenakubalwa empilweni yethu, futhi ayikho isibopho esijulile kunaleyo phakathi komama nengane. Kodwa-ke, ngokuzibophezela ekukhuliseni omunye umuntu kusukela ebusana kuze kube umuntu omdala (nangaphezulu!) Kuza umthwalo owengeziwe wokucindezeleka, futhi ukucindezeleka okuza nomama kungaba okuphawulekayo. Nakuba umama ngamunye angase abhekane nokucindezeleka okuhlukile, izidingo eziningi zobumama kanye nokucindezeleka okuhlangenwe nakho zikhona emhlabeni wonke.
Amaphesenti aphezulu omama abazwa ukucindezeleka ezindaweni ezilandelayo:
Isikhathi Sifuna
Ngayo yonke ukunakekelwa nokukhuliswa okudingwa yizingane, kanye nezidingo ezengeziwe zabanye abengeziwe emndenini, iningi labesifazane bazwa isikhathi esincane. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungenakho isikhathi esanele sokuthola izingubo zokuhlanza, isikhathi sokuchitha nje ukudlala nezingane, isikhathi somuntu siqu, noma isikhathi sezinye izinto eziningi ezibalulekile, omama abaningi bathola ukuthi amahora alanele nje ngosuku yenza konke okudingayo noma ongathanda ukukwenza.
Izimali
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usebenzisa ukunakekelwa kwamasuku, umntanami, noma ukunikela imali engenayo ukuze uhlale ekhaya, ukunakekela izingane kuyabiza. Njengoba zikhula zibe izingubo ezintsha, imisebenzi emisha, futhi ekugcineni zifike ekolishi, ingane ngayinye ingabangela isabelomali somndeni. Nakuba izingane zingaphezu kokubiza izindleko, abazali bavame ukubhekana nokucindezeleka okukhulu kwezezimali .
Izidingo zobudlelwane
Njengoba omama betsha isikhathi esifanele ebuhlotsheni babo nezingane zabo, ngezinye izikhathi ezinye ubudlelwane zithatha isihlalo emuva, ikakhulu uma izingane zisencane futhi zidinga ukunakekelwa okwengeziwe.
Abomama bezingane ezincane bavame ukuzizwa beqhekekile phakathi kokuhlangabezana nezidingo zomntwana wabo omncane futhi besenamandla okuvuselela ingxoxo, izikhathi ezidlalayo ngisho nobulili nomuntu osiza ukudala umntwana. Bangase bakuthole kunzima kakhulu ukuthola isikhathi sabangane babo njengoba behlawula imithwalo yemfanelo yobazali.
Futhi, njengoba izingane zikhula futhi zishintsha, omama bangashintsha futhi bakhule ezinkomba ezintsha, ezingasenza nokucindezela ebuhlotsheni obude. Omama abangabodwa bangabhekana nalokhu ngezinga eliphakeme kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ekuthandeni.
Izivikelo zokuvikela
Ukukhokhiswa ngomthwalo wokunakekela umphefumulo omncane osengozini futhi ukhulise lokhu kuphila okumnandi kuze kube umuntu omdala, omama abaningi banomuzwa wokuthi umhlaba ube indawo eyingozi kunazo zonke. Kusukela ezinsukwini lapho izingane ezincane zikhuphuka ezindongeni futhi zibeka zonke izinto emlonyeni wazo ezinsukwini lapho intsha ishayela khona (ngaphandle kwethu) futhi silungiselela ekolishi, kukhona ubuningi bezingozi izingane zethu ezibhekene nazo, ngakho-ke kugcizelela ukuthi omama babhekana nazo. Omama nabo bakhathazeka ngokuziphatha kwezingane zabo nentuthuko yezenhlalakahle, okwenza zonke izigaba ezintsha zentuthuko kube inselele.
Ukuzethemba
Kukhona nokwesaba ukuthi omama abaningi banakho-ukuthi abenzi umsebenzi omuhle okwanele. Ngoba ingane ngayinye inezici zobungqayizivele ezihlukile, izidingo, kanye neziqu, futhi ngenxa yokuthi izingane zikhula futhi zishintsha sonke isikhathi, akunakwenzeka ukusebenzisa indlela eyodwa-ifanele-yonke indlela yokwenza umama. Lokhu kusho ukuthi omama bahlale behlola kabusha lokho abakwenzayo, befuna ulwazi olusha (kusukela ochwepheshe bamazali abavame ukungavumelani ngezinkinga ezinkulu), futhi bezama ukuhlala isinyathelo esisodwa ngaphambi kwezingane zabo ukuba babe ngabomama abahle kakhulu.
Ngokuvamile, zikhona izimfihlakalo ezizoxazululwa, izinkinga zokusingatha, nemililo ukuze kukhishwe endleleni. Kulula ukuthi omama bazibuze, futhi bagxilile yimiphumela yokwenza iphutha. Konke kuyingxenye yokuba ngumama onembeza.
Isikhathi Sodwa
Okokugcina, phakathi kwalezi zindaba (kanye nabanye abangazange bakhulume), omama abaningi bakuthola kunzima ukwenza isikhathi nokugcina amandla okuzinakekela. Kukho okuningi kwezinqubo zokwelashwa, imisebenzi yokucebisa umuntu siqu kanye nokuzilibazisa kwezinsuku zangaphambi kokuzalwa kwengane kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yesifazane ephindaphindiwe nokufika komama. Ngokudabukisayo, abaningi bethu badinga lesi sikhathi ukuba babe ngabodwa, babonise, bahlole emaphepheni, futhi banakekele ukuba sibe sesikhundleni esihle sokunakekela abanye.
Ngakho, ebhekana nazo zonke izidingo ezicindezelayo zokukhulisa izingane, yini umama ukuze akwazi ukugcina ukuthula nokuthula? Lesi sihloko sabomama nokuzinakekela kuyisiqalo esihle sokuqala, futhi uhlu lwezinsiza ezingezansi lunganikeza isethi esiphelele yemibono ukukugcina ngendlela enhle njengomama.
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