Umbuzo wokuthi uzozizwa nini lapho ingane yakho ishukunyiswa isheshe ishintshwe ngokushesha "Ngabe omunye umuntu uzokwazi nini ukuzwa ukunyakaza kwengane?" Ngenkathi kuthatha umama cishe amasonto angu-24 ukuqala ukuzwa ukunyakaza kwengane , kuzothatha isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba omunye umuntu abe nomuzwa wokuthi umntwana ukhalele ngaphandle. Kuzodingeka usebenzise amasonto ambalwa ngaphambi kokuba wabelane ngalolu phiko nomngane wakho womshado, umndeni noma abangane.
Ngesinye isikhathi phakathi kwamasonto 28 kuya ku-32 kokukhulelwa abanye abakuzungezile bangase baqale ukuzwa ukunyakaza kwezingane uma bebeka izandla zabo esiswini sakho ngesikhathi esifanele futhi endaweni efanele. Ngenkathi kungenzeka ukuthi uzwa ukunyakaza kwamasonto amaningana, ingane idinga ukuba ibe mkhulu ngaphambi kokuba ibonakale kusuka ngaphandle.
Kodwa-ke, ukunyakaza kungaba yinkimbinkimbi futhi kungase kubonakale sengathi ingane yakho igwema ukuzwa omunye umuntu kodwa wena. Kungase kudingeke ukuba babe nesineke futhi balinde uze uqhubeke nokukhulelwa.
Okuvimbela Abanye Ukuzwa Ukuthi Ingane Yakho Ihamba
Kunezici ezingenza kube lula ukuthi abanye bangase bazizwe ukunyakaza kwengane yakho. Lokhu kufaka:
- Ukweqa okungeziwe: Uma ukhuluphele ngokweqile noma uthwala isisindo esingaphezu kwesisu sakho, kungathatha isikhathi eside ukuzwa umntwana ngoba ukunyakaza kufanele kube namandla futhi kukhulu ukuzwakala ngaphandle. Lokhu akusho ukuthi akunakwenzeka, cishe kancane kancane ekuqaleni.
- I-placenta yangaphakathi: Uma i-placenta yakho ikhona ngaphambi kwesibeletho sakho, ukunyakaza komntanakho kuyodingeka kube mkhulu futhi kunamandla ukuzwa nge-placenta. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube kamuva ukuthi uzizwe ingane yakho ishukunyuka okokuqala, ungayeki abanye.
- Isikhundla somntwana: Ezinye izikhundla ingane yakho ezithathayo kusho ukukhahlela nokunyakaza kwazo kalula kunezinye. Lokhu akuyona into embi kumntanakho, kunzima ukuchaza kahle, kodwa izihlobo eziphikisanayo ngempela, zifuna ngempela ukuzwa ukuthi izingane zikhahle.
Ukuvumela Abanye Bazwe Ukuthi Umntanakho Uhambe
Ungase ujabule ukwabelana ngokukhahlela ingane yakho nomyeni wakho, umlingani, izihlobo, nabangani bakho. Kodwa abanye abantu bayanqikaza ukukuzwa. Kungenzeka bangathandi ukuthinta umzimba wakho ngendlela esondelene yokuzwa ukunyakaza kwezingane. Bangase babe nokuphazamiseka abakwazi ukukuchaza, noma ngabe basekela ukukhulelwa kwakho.
Uma umyeni wakho noma umlingani wakho efuna ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi ingane yakho ikhalele, lokhu kungase kwamukelekile, okungenani kubumfihlo bendlu yakho. Kodwa kwabanye, noma emphakathini, ungafuna ukubeka imithetho ethile. Kuzodingeka unqume ukuthi uzimisele kangakanani ukuzama ukubenza bazwe isisu sakho. Ungase ubatshele ukuthi kuvunyelwe uma uvakashele.
Kungenxa yokuthi uthi yebo kubo abazwa sengathi umntwana uhamba kanye, akusho ukuthi ubanikeze ukudlula konke okufinyelela. Unobunikazi obuphelele ngaphezu komzimba wakho futhi usho ukuthi ubani othinta wena lapho futhi kuphi.