Enhliziyweni yakho, uzibophezele ukunqoba ukugcinwa kwengane. Kodwa uyazi yini okudingeka ukwenze-futhi ungenzi-ukwenza lokho kwenzeke?
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Lezi zinsuku nezokungakusiza kuzokusiza ukuba uzibonise ezinkantolo ngokukhanya okuhle futhi kukusize uqoqe icala lakho lokugcinwa kwengane yakho:
- Khombisa ukuzimisela ukusebenza ne-ex yakho. Abanye abazali baye balahlekelwa ukugcinwa kwengane ngoba babonisa ukungathandi ukusebenzisana nomunye umzali. Ngakho khumbula ukuthi ngenkathi ungase ungathandi i-ex yakho, uyingxenye yempilo yabantwana bakho, futhi udinga ukukhombisa inkantolo yomndeni ukuthi uzimisele ukusebenza ndawonye.
- Zisebenzise amalungelo akho omzali. Uma unikezwe amalungelo okuvakasha nezingane zakho, zisebenzise. Sebenzisa isikhathi esiningi nabo njengoba unakho, futhi uqiniseke ukuthi wenza izinto ezivamile, zansuku zonke-kubandakanya umsebenzi wesikole kanye nemisebenzi .
- Cela isicelo sokuhlola esisekhaya. Lokhu kungaba usizo kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma ukhathazekile ukuthi i-ex yakho izozama ukwethula umqondo omubi wokuphila kwakho kwasekhaya.
- Qaphela ukuthi ukubuka konke. Enye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke okumele ukwazi ukuyiqonda empini yokugcina iwukuthi akukhathazi ngempela uma lokho okushiwo ngawe kuyiqiniso noma cha; okubalulekile ukuthi inkantolo ikholelwa ukuthi iqinisile. Yenza konke ongakwenza ukuze uzethule enkantolo njengomzali onamandla, ohilelekile, onothando. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukufika ngesikhathi, ukugqoka enkantolo, nokukhombisa isithunzi esifanele sejaji phambi kwejaji.
- Uzifundise ngomthetho womndeni. Funda phezulu emininingwaneni yokugcinwa kwengane esifundazweni sakho ukuze ukwazi kusengaphambili ukuthi yini ongayilindela.
- Lungiselela amadokhumenti. Ezimweni lapho ukholelwa ngokwethembeka ukuthi izingane zakho zingaphephile ngomunye umzali-isibonelo, ngoba unomlando wokuhlukumeza ngokomzimba-kufanele ubhale ngokucophelela ukuxhumana kwakho ne-ex yakho, kanye nokusebenzisana kwakhe nezingane zakho . Nokho, qaphela ukuthi omunye umzali angase azizwe ngendlela efanayo ngawe futhi angase alungiselele amadokhumenti afanayo ezinkantolo.
- Yenza umsebenzi nommeli ogciniwe wokugcinwa kwengane. Ngisho noma ungacabangi ukuthi ungakwazi ukukhokhela ummeli, qalisa ukubonisana mahhala ukuxoxa ngezinketho zakho. Ungaphinda ubuke imitholampilo yomthetho yamahhala endaweni yakho, thintana nesahluko sendawo ye-American Bar Association, noma ubuze i-Legal Aid Society usizo.
- Ungalokothi ukhulume kabi ngezingane zakho. Ngaphambi kwezingane zakho, zama ukugcina imibono nemizwa yakho mayelana ne-ex yakho kuwe. Vula ukukhungatheka kwakho kumngane othembekile, kunalokho.
- Ungapheli isikhathi sokuvakashelwa noma ukukopisha. Izinto ezincane ezifana nokubonisa isikhathi sekwephuzile zingasetshenziswa ukudala umqondo omubi wokuzibophezela kwakho.
- Ungenzi umkhuba wokuphindaphinda isikhathi nezingane zakho. Ukuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiwe isikhathi sakho sokubeletha kungenza ukuba kubonakale enkantolo ukuthi usanda kufaka isitoreji ngaphandle kwesizathu - hhayi ngoba ufuna ngempela ukugcinwa. Ngakho qiniseka ukuthi ukhona lapho uthi uzoba khona ukuze i-ex yakho ingakwazi ukwethula iphethini eqoshiwe enkantolo ebonisa kabi kuwe.
- Ungasebenzisi kabi utshwala noma izidakamizwa, ikakhulukazi uma unabantwana bakho. Nakhu okunye okungabhalwa futhi kusetshenziswe ngokumelene nawe. Qinisekisa ukuthi akukho ngisho nokusikisela ukuthi wenza okuthile okuzobeka izingane zakho engozini.
- Ungenqabe ukwenza noma yini enkantolo ayicela kuwe. Lesi yisikhathi sakho sokubonisa izinkantolo ukuthi uzibophezele kangakanani. Ngakho uma befuna ukuthi uthathe amakilasi omzali noma ufune ukululekwa, yenza njalo ngokushesha. Buka njengethuba lokubonisa ukuthi uzimisele kangakanani ukuya emantwaneni wakho.
- Ungafaki izingane zakho enkantolo. Ungase ulingeke ukuba wabelane ngemininingwane yecala nezingane zakho, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi zibe izingane manje futhi zingabeki umthwalo wemibandela yabantu abadala emahlombe abo.
- Ungasunguli izindaba ezimbi emzamweni wokuwina. Ungalokothi uphelelwe izinsolo ezingenasisekelo zokuhlukunyezwa noma ukuphishekela ukwehluleka kwakho kokuqala ukuze ugcine ukunakekelwa. Noma yikuphi amanga owenzayo azobuya futhi asetshenziswe ngokumelene nawe enkantolo.