I-10 Custody Conservation Tips I-Tips for Parents Single

Indlela yokuqapha ukuhlolwa kwengane yakho

Inqubo yokuhlola ukugcinwa kwesitoreji isisindo se-nervous for any parent. Qinisekisa ukuthi ulungisiwe kahle ngalawa amathiphu wokuhlola wesitokisi:

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Lalela ummeli wakho

Siza ngokucophelela iseluleko sommeli wakho. Uzochazela inqubo yokuhlola futhi uzokunikeza imiyalelo ethize okufanele ulandele. Qinisekisa ukuthi ulandela isiqondiso sakhe.

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Qaphela Umsebenzi Wokuhlola Umhloli uyisazi esizimele. Akayena umngane wakho, umeluleki, noma ummeli, noma ngabe ungumuntu ocele ukuhlolwa. Ngakho-ke, ungalokothi ucabange ukuthi umhloli "uhlangothini lwakho." Umsebenzi wakhe ukuhlola ngokulinganayo lokho okungcono kakhulu kwengane yakho.

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Qiniseka Hlonipha ngokuphelele. Ungalokothi, ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo, uqamba amanga kumhloli. Lochwepheshe uqeqeshwe ukuqoqa ekuziphatheni okuhlobene nokuqamba amanga. Uma ekholelwa ukuthi awukho iqiniso, kuzodalula kabi emphumela wokugcina kuwe.

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Yilungiselele Umhlangano Wakho Kuzo zonke izindleko, gcina zonke izikhundla ezifanayo nomhloli, futhi ufike masinyane noma ngesikhathi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ulungiselele uhlu lwemibuzo onayo. Ungase uthole ukuthi kuyasiza ukuhlela noma yimiphi imibuzo eyengeziwe ngesikhathi sokuxoxisana. Lokhu kungakusiza uhlale ucacile ngesikhathi yengxoxo bese uvumela ukukhathazeka ukuthi uzokhohlwa ukubuza okuthile.

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Yenza Ukuvelela Okuhle

Yazi ukuthi ukuqala kokuqala kuyisihluthulelo. Qiniseka ukuthi yonke indlu yakho ihlanzekile futhi ihlelekile. Kungase kubonakale kuyinto encane, kodwa empeleni kubalulekile kuwe ukuba ucabange umbono ongase ube nawo amakhono akho wokubeletha jikelele ngokubheka nje esiqandisini sakho noma ekamelweni lokuhlanza. Futhi, marekhodi ezinkolo zezingane zakho kanye namarekhodi wezokwelapha afinyeleleka kalula futhi ahleleke, uma umhloli efuna ukubhekisela kuzo ngesikhathi sokuvakashela kwakho ekhaya.

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Yiba nesimo sengqondo esifanele Uyoba nethuba lokuveza noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka onakho mayelana nomunye umzali. Qinisekisa ukuthi awukho "umlomo omubi" kuye nganoma iyiphi indlela. Esikhundleni salokho, yenza umzamo wokuhlanganyela ngokwahlukana amandla nezibuthakathaka ozibonayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungenzi izinsolo ngomunye umzali ongakwazi ukusekelwa ubufakazi obuthile.

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Namathela ezimpikiswaneni zabazali Ungaxubani ngokukhathazeka komshado ngokukhathazeka komzali. Ukuba ngumlingani ompofu akumenzi umuntu umzali omubi. Ukusebenzisa i-interview yakho nomhloli ukubikezela ukukhetha kwakho okungalungile kanye nokungahloniphi ngokuphathelene nomshado wakho ngeke kukusize ukugcina ingane yakho. Kungase kube nokwenza ukuthi ungeke ukwazi ukusekela ukuxhumana kwabo nomunye umzali.

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Bambisana Yibambisane futhi uphendule yonke imibuzo ebuzwa ngumhloli. Futhi, qiniseka ukuthi ulandela noma yikuphi konke nakho konke umhloli akubuza kuwe ngaphambi komhlangano wakho olandelayo. Cishe, kuzodingeka unikeze ngolwazi lokuxhumana kubantu abaningana abakwazi wena nomndeni wakho kahle, futhi kuzodingeka usayine ukukhishwa ukuze uvumele umhloli ukuba akhulume nalaba bantu.

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Gxila kwizinto ezithandwa kakhulu ezinganeni zakho

Yilungele ukuxoxa ngobuqotho ukuthi yini ezuzisa izingane zakho. Kungaba usizo ekwenzeni umdlalo lolo phiko nomngane ongadlala "ummeli kaDeveli" futhi aveze izindawo lapho ukuphawula kwakho kubonisa khona okuzuzisa kakhulu, hhayi okungabantwana bakho.

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Iba nguwe

Okokugcina, yiba ngokwakho! Xhumana ngokufudumele nezingane zakho. Futhi, unomsebenzi wezintandokazi zezingane zakho, njengemidlalo yebhodi nezincwadi zokubala, ezisebenzayo ngesikhathi sokuvakashela ekhaya ukuhlola ekhaya. Ukubona izingane ziphumelela ekuhlelweni kwakho kwasekhaya, ngokungafani nokufakwa kuhlelo lwe-TV noma ividiyo yegeyimu, izoshiya umhloli ngomqondo wangempela womkhathi ofudumele osebenze kanzima ukudala.