Ukukhathazeka okukhulu ngokomzwelo kungenzeka ukuthi okuphawuleka kakhulu kwe-Kazimier Dabrowski kuka-five over-excitability. Eminye emine yiyo ingqondo , i-imaginational, i-sensual, ne -psychomotor . UDabrowski wayengumqondo wezokwelapha wasePoland owabona ukuthi abantu behluke kanjani ePoland phakathi neMpi Yezwe II. Abanye bangenza izenzo zobuhlukumezi obungenakwenzeka kanti abanye bebeka ukuphila kwabo engozini ukuze basindise abanye.
Kusukela ekuqaphelisweni kwakhe, ekugcineni waba nombono wakhe weNtshumayelo Yokuhleka Kwemvelo . Lezi-excitability, ngezinye izikhathi ezibizwa ngokuthi izinzwa ezinkulu ziyingxenye yalokho mbono.
Kuyini Ukukhululeka Kwengqondo?
Ukukhathazeka okungokomzwelo kubonakala kalula ngabazali abanezingane ezinezintuthwane nabanye ngoba izingane ezinayo zibonisa imizwelo ephakeme futhi ejulile kanye nezimpendulo zemizwelo ezenzakalweni kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho.
Izingane ezine-OE zinamandla okujula okukhulu ngokomzwelo. Bahlakulela okunamathiselwe okuqinile kubantu, izindawo, nezinto. Ngenxa yobuthakathaka babo obungokomzwelo, bavame ukusola ukuthi baphelelwa ngokweqile noma beba nomlomo. Noma kunjalo, imizwa abazizwa ngayo ingokoqobo. Ama-molehill kubo yizintaba ngempela.
I-OE ngokomzwelo ibonakaliswa nokukhathazeka okujulile kwabanye. Ngisho nabantwana abathintekayo abaphezulu kule-OE bangabonisa ukukhathazeka ngokukhala komntwana noma ngokucindezeleka komntwana omncane oye wahlukumezeka noma othukuthele.
Akuzona nje kuphela lezi zingane ezizwelana nabanye, kodwa zizwa uxhumano nezilwane kanye. Lezi zingane zingase zibe izitshalo lapho zisencane ngoba zingeke zithwale ukudla okwakukade kuyisidalwa esiphilayo.
Izingane azikhuli kulokhu kuzwela. Ingane enemizwa ejulile engokomzwelo izothola ukujula okufanayo komzwelo njengomuntu omdala.
I-Upside of the Overloading emotion
Labo abane-OE ngokomzwelo bangaqonda futhi babone izinto abanye abangase baphuthelwe noma abakwazi ukuzicabanga. Kubonakala sengathi bahlelwe ezweni futhi kwabanye ngendlela ebenza babe nokujula okucebile kokuqonda ukwazisa. Bavame ukufunwa ngabangane kanye nalabo ababajwayele usizo nosizo ngenxa yokuxhumana okujulile abayifomayo.
Ngenxa yemizwa yabo ejulile nesihawu kwabanye, labo abane-OE ngokomzwelo bathambekele ekubeni nobuhlobo obuqinile. Imizwa yabo ngabangane bayo ijulile futhi bayoba phakathi kwabangane abaqotho kakhulu.
Labo abane-OE ngokomzwelo banamathuba amaningi kunokuba abanye baqaphele imizwa yabo, futhi ukuqwashisa kuzobavumela ukuba benze imisebenzi ehamba phambili yobuciko, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubhaliwe, umculo, ukusebenza, noma ubuciko.
I-Downside ye-Overexcitability Emotional
Ngenkathi labo abanokuzwela okukhulu ngokomzwelo benesihawu esikhulu kwabanye, abanesihawu kancane kubo. Bazicabangela kakhulu futhi banomqondo ojulile wemithwalo yemfanelo - ngisho nezinto ezingabhekene nazo. Lokhu ukugxeka kanye nomqondo wemithwalo yemfanelo kungabangela ukukhathazeka, umlandu, kanye nomuzwa wokuhluleka.
Amazinga okukhathazeka ababhekana nawo angaphazamisa imisebenzi elula njengemisebenzi yasekhaya noma ngisho nokuqeda umsebenzi wesikole . Bangakwazi futhi ukuthuthukisa izimpawu ze-psychosomatic ezinjengama-aches esiswini noma abacindezeleka.
Ukucindezeleka kulabo abane-OE ngokomzwelo abavame ukubhekana nokucindezeleka okukhona , okusho ukuthi bacindezelekile mayelana nezindaba eziphathelene nemibuzo eyisisekelo yokuphila: isibonelo, ukufa, ububha, impi nezifo, isibonelo. Ama-bouts wokucindezeleka okukhona angabangelwa ukuhlangenwe nakho okuqondile, kodwa kungenzeka nje ukuba avele ngokuzenzekelayo.
Izingane ezine-OE ngokomzwelo nazo zinzima kakhulu ukulungisa ukushintsha futhi zikwazi ukubhekana namazinga aphezulu okukhathazeka lapho zifakwa ezimweni ezintsha noma endaweni engazijwayele.
Bangase babe namahloni futhi bephuze ukuhlanganyela emisebenzini yomphakathi.
Ongakwenza Njengomzali
Mhlawumbe into ebaluleke kakhulu ongayenza enganeni yakho ethintekayo ngokomzwelo ukwamukela yonke imizwa yakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyini amandla. Ukusabela kwakho kokuqala kungase kube ukufuna ukutshela ingane yakho ukuthi imise ukuphendula noma imise ukukhipha izintaba ezikhunjini. Kodwa khumbula, lezo zimvukuzane zibonakala zifana nezintaba kumntwana ozwela kakhulu.
Gwema ukunciphisa noma ukuxosha imizwa yengane yakho. Isibonelo, ungamtsheli ukuthi "uzwela kakhulu ngokwabo" noma ukuthi "konke kuyoba kuhle." Ingane yakho ayikhethi ukuzwela kunokuba ungase ukhululeke, futhi ngeke ikholelwe ukuthi konke kuyoba kuhle, noma ngabe ulungile bayoba-futhi ungaqiniseka ngempela yini?
Lalela okushiwo ingane yakho ngaphandle kokudlulisa isinqumo. Ngezinye izikhathi ingane yakho ifuna nje ukuyiqonda. Akafuni inkulumo noma iseluleko, futhi ngokuqinisekile akafuni - noma kudingeka - uzizwe ehlulelwe. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kubafana abancane ngoba ngokuvamile kulindeleke ukuba bangabi ngokomzwelo kunamantombazane amancane. Ngokuvamile izingane ezile-OE zibonakala zibuthakathaka, ikakhulukazi abafana abancane. Gwema noma ukugxeka ingane yakho ngokuzwela noma ukuyivikela emhlabeni. Akunakusizo.
Siza ingane yakho ukuba iqonde ukuthi ukuphakama kwakhe ngokomzwelo kuvamile kubantwana abanesipho. Lesi yisinye sezizathu kuhle ukuxoxa ngesipho sakho nengane yakho. Ungasiza ingane yakho isebenzise ingqondo yakhe ukuze isebenze futhi iqonde leyo mizwa ejulile. Enye indlela yokwenza lokhu ukudala izinga lokuphendula ngokomzwelo. Yiqiniso, kufanele usebenze nengane yakho ukudala lelo zinga uma engathukutheli. Khona-ke angacabanga ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo lomcimbi olungabalulekanga (a) ukuya emcimbini ongeke ube yingozi (10). Khona-ke lapho ingane yakho icasukile, ungasebenzisa leso silinganiso ukumsiza ukuba abeke umbono.
Khumbula ukuthi izingane ezinamandla ngokomzwelo zingakhungatheka futhi zithukuthele uma zingenamandla okwenza lokho abafuna ukukwenza. Isibonelo, oneminyaka emithathu ubudala angase abone umsebenzi omuhle wezobuciko, kodwa amakhono akhe amakhono amakhono akhulumi ngokwanele ukuze amvumele ukuba awenze. Ungamtsheli ukuthi kuhle. Kuye, akunjalo. Kodwa dumisa imizamo yakhe futhi ugcizelele amandla akhe.
Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi isebenze imizwelo ngokugcina iphephandaba, ukubhala izindaba noma izinkondlo, ukubhala noma ukudlala umculo, ukudala umsebenzi wobuciko, noma ukwenza umsebenzi othile, njengokusebenza noma ukudansa. Le misebenzi yindawo enkulu yokuzizwa.
Ungalindeli ingane yakho ibe umuntu omdala omncane. Ungalindeli ukuthi abe nokulawula komzwelo omdala okungenzeka ngoba nje ngezinye izikhathi angacabanga futhi akhulume njengeyodwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, gwema ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuba ihambe ngokuziphatha okungalungile ngoba icasukile. Ukuphulwa kwemithetho kufanele kube nemiphumela. Kodwa-ke, akufanele bajeziswe nje ngokuba nomzwelo omkhulu. Akusiyo impendulo engokomzwelo yinkinga; kungukuziphatha okubi. Isibonelo, ingane akufanele ihlupheke noma yimuphi umphumela wokukhathazeka ngokomzwelo, kodwa kufanele ukuphonsa ithoyizi komunye umuntu ngoba icasukile.
Ngezinye izikhathi, ingane ingase ingakwazi ukunikeza ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo. Uma ukholelwa ukuthi ingane yakho ingase izuze ngokululekwa okuthile, qiniseka ukuthi uthole umeluleki owazi kahle ubuphiko kanye nezingane ezinesiphiwo.