Indodana yami ibonakala ikhulu kakhulu. Wahamba phezu kwesonto elilodwa futhi wayehamba ngezinsizakalo ezinyangeni ezinhlanu futhi ehamba egijima eyedwa ezinyangeni eziyisikhombisa. Manje useqa futhi eqa futhi angalingisa izinyathelo zokudansa zezingane ku-TV. Wayehlanganisa amagama amabili lapho eneminyaka engu-15 ubudala, ngakho-ke inkulumo yakhe ibonakala ihamba phambili. Udonsa imibuthano bese ebamba ipensela yakhe ngendlela efanele! Ngidinga usizo lokugcina ingqondo yengane yami ivuselelwe!
Ngingayithathaphi inyanga engama-18 ubudala ukubona ukuthi unesiphiwo?
Ngokuqinisekile kubonakala sengathi unezingane ezinesiphiwo ezandleni zakho. Izingane ezinezinwele ngokuvamile zihlasela izinyathelo zokuthuthukiswa ngaphambi kwezinye izingane. Akuyona into engavamile kubazali bezingane ezincane abanesifiso sokufuna ukwazi ukuthi ingane yabo isinekhono nokuthi kufanele benzeni ngakho.
Abazali abanezingane abafinyelela ezinkundleni zentuthuko bavame ukukwazi ukuthi bangazitholaphi izingane zabo ukuhlolwa. Kunezizathu eziningi ezinhle zokuthola ingane ihlolwe, kodwa kufanele kube khona eyodwa. Isibonelo, ungase ufune ukuthi umntwana wakho avunyelwe ohlelweni olukhethekile lwezingane ezineziphiwo ezinamakhono noma ungathola ukufuna ukuqonda izidingo zemfundo yengane yakho.
Abanye abazali bafuna ukuba ingane yabo ihlolwe nje ukuze iqinisekiswe. Kungase kube nesikhathi esinzima ukwamukela noma ukuqonda ukuthi ingane yabo ihambile kakhulu kunezinye izingane. Noma mhlawumbe abanye abantu baqhubeka bebatshela ukuthi bonke abazali bacabanga ukuthi banomntwana onesipho.
Bangase batshelwe ukuthi badinga ukuvumela ingane yabo ibe yintsana bese ibaxwayisa mayelana "nezingozi" zokuba umzali ohlukumezayo.
Impendulo yombuzo wendawo ongayithola ukuze uthole i-18-ubudala ubudala ubudala evivinyelwe ubuphiko iqala ngomunye umbuzo: kungani ufuna ukuhlola ingane yakho? Ngisho noma unezizathu ezizwakalayo zokuhlola, kunezinye izinto okufanele uzikhumbule.
Ukucatshangelwa okunye ukufaneleka kwezivivinyo ezenziwa kubantwana abanjalo. I score ye-IQ yengane ngeke ibe yomelele kuze kufike eminyakeni engama-5. Lokhu kusho ukuthi amaphuzu angahluka kancane futhi ungase ungatholi uhlobo lokuqonda kwengane yakho olufunayo. Ukuhlolwa kwangasese kungabiza kakhulu, ngakho-ke ngaphandle uma unesizathu esihle kakhulu sokuhlolwa kokuhlakanipha kwezingane, kuhle kakhulu ukulinda iminyaka embalwa.
Lokho ofuna ukukwenza kuleli phuzu uzibuze ukuthi ungaphatha kanjani ingane yakho ngokuhlukile uma ngabe ingane yakho ihlolwe futhi ukuhlolwa kubonise ukuthi unesipho. Ungamthanda yini kancane? Ungamthanda yini futhi? Ungabe uqala ukuzama ukumfundisa ngaphezu kwakho manje? Ungabe uzama ukumnikeza amathuba amaningi okufunda nokuhlola umhlaba? Ungambhalisa kuzo zonke izinhlobo zekilasi ongayithola? Angicabangi ukuthi ungamthanda noma ngaphasi kunokwenzayo manje. Ngicabanga nokuthi uzoqhubeka uzama ukuthola izindlela zokuvuselela ingqondo yakhe.
Uma wazi ukuthi ingane yakho idinga ukuvuselelwa engqondweni, khona-ke ufuna ukuyihlinzeka. Zonke izingane zidinga ukuvuselelwa kwengqondo - kubonakala sengathi izingane ezinamakhono zifuna. Yingakho abazali abaningi abanezingane ezinamakhono, kude nokucindezela izingane zabo, bazizwa sengathi izingane zabo zibahudula ngemuva kwabo.
Ukuhlinzeka ngokuvuselela akulula njengokungathi kubonakale okwamanje, kodwa kuthatha umzamo futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuklama okuncane. Kunezindlela ezithile eziyisisekelo zokukhulisa ingane yakho enezintandokazi eziwusizo kubazali abanezingane ezinesiphiwo sawo wonke ubudala, kodwa kuneminye imibono ecacile yokuhlinzeka ngengqondo yengane yabantwana abanesipiliyoni nabasenkulisa .
Vele ulandele ukuhola kwengane yakho futhi ujabulele isikhathi sakho naye. Lokho kuzokusiza ukuba ungamcindezeli ingane yakho uma usho ukuthi uzomondla. Uma ingane yakho ikhulile futhi ufuna ukuyihlola, khona-ke ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuthi uyazi ngokuhlola ingane yakho enesipho .