Thola ukuthi izihlukumezi zikhetha kanjani izinhloso zazo
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani umuntu angase ahlukunyezwe. Zihlanganisa konke kusuka ekuhlukeni komuntu kube endaweni engafanele ngesikhathi esingalungile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, noma ubani angaba yisihluthulelo sokuxhashazwa, ngisho nokuqina, kwezemidlalo, nezingane ezidumile.
Ukuhlukumezeka kungokhetho olungalungile okwenziwe yi-bully, hhayi ukukhubazeka okubonakalayo ekuhlosweni. Umthwalo wokuhlukumezeka njalo uwela emahlombe omhlukumezi , hhayi isisulu .
Noma kunjalo, kunezinhlobo zezinhlobo zezingane ezivame ukuhloswa kwezihlukumezi.
Okuhle kulokho abakwenzayo
Izikhathi eziningi izingane zizoxhashazwa ngoba zithola ukunakekelwa okunengi kontanga nakubantu abadala. Lokhu kungase kube yinto yonke kusukela ekuphumeleleni kwezemidlalo , okwenza iqembu le-cheerleading, noma ukuthola isikhundla somhleli esikhwameni sezikole.
Iziqhwaga zihlose laba bafundi ngoba zizwa ziphansi noma zikhathazeka ngokuthi amakhono abo aphethwe amandla amathekisthi. Ngenxa yalokho, baxhaphaza laba bantwana benethemba lokubenza bazizwe bengalondekile kanye nokwenza abanye bangabaze amakhono abo.
Ihlakaniphile, izimisele futhi i-Creative
Esikoleni, laba bafundi baya esikoleni esingaphezu kwalokho. Noma bafunda ngokushesha futhi bahambisane nemiklamo nemisebenzi ngokushesha kunabanye abafundi. Isibonelo, abafundi abanesiphiwo sobuchwepheshe bavame ukuhloswe ukuze baphumelele esikoleni. Iziqhwaga zivame ukuzihlukanisa ngoba zikhwele lokhu.
Ukulimala komuntu siqu
Izingane ezethulwa, ukukhathazeka, noma ukuzithoba zingase zihlukunyezwe kunabantwana abaphikisanayo futhi abafakazela. Eqinisweni, abanye abacwaningi bakholelwa ukuthi izingane ezingenalo ukuzethemba zingadonsela izingane ezithandwayo . Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane ezihlanganyela nabantu abazithokozisayo zivame ukuhloswe yizihlukumezi ngoba kulula ukuzenza.
Okokugcina, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izingane ezibhekene nokucindezeleka noma izimo ezihlobene nokucindezeleka zingase zibe namathuba amaningi okuhlukunyezwa, okuvame ukwenza isimo sibe sibi nakakhulu. Iziqhwaga zikhetha lezi zingane ngoba zilula futhi cishe zikwazi ukulwa. Iningi labantu abahlukunyezwayo bafuna ukuzizwa benamandla, ngakho bavame ukukhetha izingane ezibuthakathaka kunabo.
Bambalwa noma Abekho Abangane
Izisulu eziningi zokuxhashazwa zivame ukuba nabangane abambalwa kunabantwana abangenalo ukuhlukunyezwa. Bangase banqatshwe yizontanga zabo, ngaphandle kwezehlakalo zomphakathi , futhi bangase bachithe ukudla kwasemini futhi baphinde bahlale bodwa.
Abazali kanye nothisha bangavimbela ukuhlukumezeka kwabafundi abangabodwa abantu ngokubasiza ukuba bathuthukise ubungane . Abaphikisi bangawasekela laba bafundi ngokubambisana nabo.
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi uma ingane ingenani umngane oyedwa, amathuba akhe okuxhashazwa anciphisa kakhulu. Ngaphandle komngane wokuzivuselela, lezi zingane ziyakwazi ukubhekwa yizihlukumezi ngoba akudingeki zikhathazeke ngomuntu oza kusizo lwaso.
Okudumile noma Okuthandwa Kakhulu
Ngezinye izikhathi izihlukumezi zikhomba izingane ezithandwayo noma ezithandwa kakhulu ngenxa yengozi abazondayo. Amantombazane asho ukuthi kungenzeka athole intombazane esongela ukuthandwa kwakhe noma ukuma kwayo.
Iningi lokuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwane lihlobene ngokuqondile nomzamo wokukhuphuka kwesiteleka somphakathi. Izingane zizosabalalisa amahemuhemu, zibandakanye ekubizeni amagama, futhi zize ziphendukele ekuqhumeni kwe- cyberbullying ngomzamo wokuqeda ukuthandwa kwabo. Uma lezi zilwane zihloselwe, umhlukumezi ubheka ukuhlambalaza izisulu futhi azijabulise kakhulu.
Izici Zemvelo Eziheha Ukunakwa
Cishe noma yiluphi uhlobo lwezinto ezibonakalayo ezihlukile noma eziyingqayizivele kungadonsela ukunakwa kwezihlukumezi. Kungenzeka ukuthi isisulu sincane, side, sincane, noma siphulile. Bangase bagqoke izibuko noma babe nama-acne, ikhala elikhulu, noma izindlebe ezithintekayo.
Akukhathaleki ngempela ukuthi yikuphi, umhlukumezi uzothatha isici futhi ayiphambukise ekuhlosweni.
Ngezikhathi eziningi, lolu hlobo lokuxhashazwa lubuhlungu kakhulu futhi lulimaza ukuzethemba komuntu osemusha. Iningi labantu abahlukunyezwayo elihlose lawa bantwana lithola injabulo ethile ngokuhlekisa abanye. Ngezinye izikhathi, bafuna ukuhleka izindleko zomunye umuntu.
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokulwa nomhlukumezi ohlose lolu hlobo lomuntu, ukukhipha izethameli zakhe.
Ukugula noma ukukhubazeka
Iziqhwaga zivame ukubhekelela izingane ezidinga izidingo ezikhethekile Lokhu kungahlanganisa izingane ezine-Asperger, i-autism, i-ADHD, i-dyslexia, nanoma yisiphi isimo esibahlukanisa. Izingane ezinezimo ezinjengezifo zokudla, i-asthma, i-Down syndrome, nezinye izimo nazo zingabhekiswa yizihlukumezi. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, abahlukunyezwayo babonisa ukungabi nesihawu noma benza amahlaya emalini omunye umuntu.
Kubaluleke kakhulu othisha nabazali ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lezingane zineqembu lokusekela elinabo ukusiza ukuvikela ukuhlukunyezwa. Kubuye kusize uma inani labantu labafundi elijwayelekile lithinta kakhulu lolu hlobo lokuxhashazwa ngokukhethekile. Uma izihlukumezi ziyazi ukuthi lokhu kuyingozi, bancane amathuba okukwenza.
Ukwabelana ngocansi
Ngokuvamile kunalokho, izingane zixhashazwa ngokuba gay. Eqinisweni, ezinye zezigameko ezihlukumezayo ezihlukumezayo zihilelekile izingane ezihlukumezwayo ngokobulili. Uma kushiywe kungahlosiwe, ukuhlukunyezwa okubandlulula , kungaholela ebugebengu obunzima bokuzonda. Ngenxa yalokho, kubalulekile ukuthi abafundi be-LGBT banikwe inethiwekhi yokusekela eqinile ukuze bahlale bephephile.
Izinkolelo Zenkolo noma Zenkolo
Kuyinto engavamile ukuba izingane zixhase izinkolelo zabo zenkolo. Esinye isibonelo salolu hlobo lokuhlukumezeka kuhlanganisa ukwelashwa kwabafundi abangamaSulumane okwamukelwa ngemuva kwengozi ye-9/11. Noma kunjalo, noma yiliphi umfundi angahlushwa izinkolelo zabo zenkolo. Bobabili abafundi abangamaKristu nabafundi abangamaJuda bavame ukuhleka usulu ngenxa yezinkolelo nezenzo zabo.
Ukuxhashazwa okusekelwe ezinkolelweni ezihlukahlukene zenkolo ngokuvamile kubangelwa ukungabi nokuqonda kanye nokungabi nokubekezela kokukholwa okuthile okuhlukile.
Umjaho
Ngezinye izikhathi izingane zizoxhaphaza abanye ngenxa yokuthi zihlukile kohlanga. Isibonelo, abafundi abamhlophe bangabashaya abafundi abahlukumezekile futhi bahlukumeze. Noma abafundi abamnyama bangabashaya abafundi abahlophe bese bebaxhaphaza.
Kwenzeka kuzo zonke izinhlanga nakuzo zonke izinkomba. Akekho uhlanga olungenakuhlukumezeka, futhi akukhohlanga olutholakali ukuba ne-bullies. Njengalabo abahlukumezayo benkolo, laba bafundi baqokelwe ngaphandle kwesizathu esithile sokuthi bahlukile.
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Ngenkathi ngayinye yalezi zici ingase iqhutshwe yizihlukumezi, azikho neze amaphutha ukuthi izisulu kufanele zishintshe. Khumbula, ukuhlukumezeka kumayelana nokuhlukunyezwa okwenza ukukhetha okubi. Kubalulekile ukuthi leli qiniso lidluliselwe izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa. Kudingeka bakhunjuzwe ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile kubo futhi akufanele babekwe icala lokubhekiswe.
> Umthombo:
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> Mishna F, et al. Umnikelo Wokusekelwa Kwezenhlalakahle Kwabantwana Nezingane Zengqondo Yokuzikhumbuza: I-Mediate Role of Bullying Victimization. Ukubuyekezwa Kwezinsizakalo Zezingane Nezintsha . 2016; 63: 120-127. doi: https://doi.org/10.1016/j.childyouth.2016.02.013.
> UMnyango wezeMpilo waseMelika kanye nezinsizakalo zabasebenzi. Ukuhlukunyezwa: Ubani Osesengozini. I-StopBullying.gov. 2018.