Ukuqonda into yentombazane enhle
Njengoba i-movie ye- Mean Mean Girls iqale ngaphezu kweminyaka eyishumi eyedlule, umphakathi uye waqaphela kancane kancane izinkinga zamantombazane asho. Ku-movie, izibukeli zizibonela ngokuzindlela izindlela amantombazane abumba ngayo ama-cliques , akhuphuke isiteleka sezenhlalo futhi asebenzise ukuhlukumeza ngokobudlelwane ukulimaza nokulawula abanye.
Ukuhlukunyezwa yintombazane enhle kuyisimo sokuhlukunyezwa kwezenhlalakahle okuvame ukukhona ngaphandle kwabazali nothisha ngisho nokuqaphela.
Amantombazane asebenzisa ukuhlehliswa, ukuxosha , ukusabalala ngamahemuhemu, ukubiza amagama kanye nokuxhashazwa ukuze kubangele ukulimala okukhulu kwengqondo ezintweni zabo. Umphumela uvame ukushiya amantombazane ajabule futhi athukuthele ngaphandle kokuqonda okucacile ukuthi kungani bebhekiswe.
Futhi manje abezindaba bezenhlalo baye banikezela ukuthi amantombazane abe yindlela entsha ngokuphelele yokulimaza abanye. Ngaphezu kokuhlukumezeka komuntu, amantombazane asho futhi ahlanganyela ekuqhumeni kwe-cyberbullying . Bahlasela abanye ku-intanethi besebenzisa inhlebo, ukuhlukunyezwa, ukuphawula okulimazayo kanye nokuhlambalaza ngamathambo . Amantombazane nawo ahlukunyezwa lapho izithombe zezenzakalo nemisebenzi yenhlalakahle ebeyishiywe ngaphandle noma ingabandakanyi kuyo kuthunyelwe kuma-social media. Esikhathini esidlule, lolu lwazi kungenzeka ukuthi aluzange lube njalo ku-radar yabo.
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani amantombazane enza ubudlova obuhlobene nokuhlanganisa konke okuvela ekukhuphukeni kwesiteleka sezenhlalo ekucindezelweni kontanga . Futhi nokho abantu abadala abavame ukubuka ukuhlukunyezwa kobudlelwano njengendaba enkulu.
Eqinisweni, iningi labantu abadala abanesihawu esincane kakhulu kumantombazane ahlosiwe futhi ngokuvamile bacabanga ukuthi ukukhuluma kuyinto evamile yokuziphatha kwentombazane.
Kodwa ucwaningo luye lwabonisa imiphumela yokuxhashazwa kungabhubhisa futhi kuhlale isikhathi eside - ngisho namantombazane ashoyo. Ngokwesibonelo, amantombazane ahlobene nobudlova ngokuvamile ayenonya, alawula futhi aqondise.
Lezi zici zingaholela ekungabikho kwenjabulo yesikhathi eside ngisho nokucindezeleka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amantombazane asho ukuthi akanelisekile ngokwabo noma kwabanye, okungaholela ekuziphatheni okuluthayo ngisho nokudla okuphazamisayo .
Ukubona ukuziphatha kwentombazane enhle, bheka ukuthi intombazane ixhumana kanjani namanye amantombazane futhi unake indlela azizwa ngayo ngaye. Nazi izibonakaliso eziyisithupha eziyisixwayiso ezingaphezulu kwezintombazane ezibandakanyeka ekusebenzeni kwentombazane enhle.
Ubhekana nomona . Amantombazane asho afuna amanye amantombazane. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yizingubo, ubukeka, amantombazane noma amamaki, amantombazane asho ukuthi azimisele ukuhamba ubude obukhulu ukulimaza umuntu onakho okufunayo. Ngokwesibonelo, intombazane enhle ingase isakaze amahemuhemu , ihlasele amaqembu amantombazane, ikhulume ngemuva kwayo noma ithathe izinyathelo zokubhubhisa ubuhlobo bayo namamaki. Amantombazane asho futhi ahluleka ukuvuma noma yini enhle ngabanye abantu ngenxa yomona .
Ubheke phambili . Amantombazane asho njalo avame ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngezinwele zabo, izingubo zabo, ubuso babo, ukwakheka kwabo nesisindo sabo. Ngokufanayo, zikhetha lezi zinto kwabanye zikhomba zonke izinto ezivela emanzini nasezintweni zokugqoka ekukhethweni kwezembatho nezindandatho. Amantombazane ashoyo aze avimbele ubungane ngokusekelwe kulezi zinkinga.
Futhi uma intombazane enentombazane ikhuluma, iyovame ukukhuluma ngamanye amantombazane ngendlela yokuhlekisa nokuhlekisa.
Ugxilwe ngomumo . Amantombazane asho njalo avame ukukhathazeka ngalokho abanye abakucabangayo ngabo. Babheka ukuthi konke kubukeka kanjani kwabanye kubandakanya ukuthi bahlalaphi nokuthi bazigqoke kanjani, bayiphi imoto abayidayayo nokuthi yimuphi umfana ababa naye. Futhi banesifiso esinamandla sokuthandwa . Umgomo wabo ukuba phezulu kwesiteleka somphakathi. Ngenxa yalokho, bazokwenza noma yini ukuze bafike lapho kuhlanganise nokusebenzisa abanye abantu. Kuyinto engavamile ukuba intombazane enhle ibe umngane nomuntu ngokusekelwe lapho ehlala khona nokuthi igqoka kanjani.
Ukwengeza, kusho ukuthi amantombazane azohlukumeza abanye abasongela isimo sabo. Ngokwesibonelo, uma bebona ukuthi enye intombazane isongela isimo sabo noma ukuthandwa kwabo, abanakho ukuhlukumeza ubudlelwane bayo ukuze baqede usongo.
Unenkinga yobungane . Enye indlela ephephile yokubona intombazane enhle ukubuka ukuthi ukhuluma kanjani namanye amantombazane. Uma ehlala emincane amantombazane noma ehambele idrama, kungase kube nokuningi kunengxabano evamile . Kusho ukuthi amantombazane asho njalo afana nezinhlanzi kunokuba abangane bakhohlise futhi bahlebe ngamantombazane abathiwa bangabangani babo. Amantombazane ashoyo uhlobo oluthile lwabantu abakwenza uzibuze ukuthi bakusho ngani ngawe uma ungekho.
Ungowokuqhafaza . Amantombazane asho njalo aneqembu elilodwa labangane abenza konke. Bangase bagqoke ngokufanayo ngezikhathi ezithile. Uzokwazi ukuthi iqembu liyi -clique yokuthi kunzima ukwamukelwa yiqembu. Ukwengeza, ngokuvamile kunezimiso ezingabonakali ukuba yingxenye yeqembu elifana nokubukeka komuntu, izinwele zezinwele noma izinketho zokugqoka. Okokugcina, amantombazane asho ukuthi awunasithakazelo ekwenzeni ubungane namantombazane amasha noma ukuxhuma nanoma ubani ongeyona ingxenye yeqembu.
Unenkinga ngokulawula . Amanye amantombazane asho ukuthi alawula kakhulu. Ebudlelwaneni babo, ngokusobala yibo abaphethe. Ngenxa yalokho, amanye amantombazane alandela ngokuzithandela ukuhola kwabo noma ingozi yokuphoqelelwa ngaphandle kweqembu. Laba baholi banquma ukuthi ubani omenyiwe futhi ongekho. Okwamanje, enye isho ukuthi amantombazane kuleli qembu abalandeli. Bazokwenza noma yini ukuze bahlale beyingxenye yeqembu kubandakanya ukuhlukumezeka . Kula makantombazane, lokho abanye abakucabangayo futhi abakushoyo kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubo. Bakhathazeke ngokukhethekile ngalokho umholi akushoyo. Ngenxa yokuthi la ma-mantombazane akhulumi, anecala lokuziphatha kwentombazane njengomholi weqembu. Bavumela ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa isimo sabo eqenjini kubalula izenzo zabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bavame ukufaka eceleni noma ukuxhaphaza abanye ukuze bavumelane noma bamukeleke.