Ngesikhatsi esiphakathi nesikole esiphakeme, izingane zakha ubungane obuseduze futhi zizama ukuthola ukuthi zingobani. Futhi njengoba wonke umuntu ezama ukuthola indawo yakhe, ama-clique nokuhlukunyezwa kuba okuvelele kakhulu. Ngenxa yalokho, ukuhlonza umehluko phakathi kweqembu labangane abahlanganisiwe kanye ne-clique kubalulekile. Nazi umehluko obalulekile phakathi kokubili.
Amaqembu Abangane
Ngokuvamile ubungane bubumba izinto abantu ababa nazo. Ngenxa yalokho, kungokwemvelo kubadlali bebhola ukuba bahlanganyele ndawonye njengama-mathletes. Ngokufanayo, amaqembu angakha i-band, i-drama club, ngisho nokuthanda umculo ofanayo noma ama-movie. Izingane zivame ukuzizwa zisekelwa futhi zamukelwa ngenxa yezifiso zabo ezifanayo.
Kuyinto evamile ukuba izingane zihambe futhi ziphume kumaqembu ahlukene noma zibe ingxenye yamaqembu amaningana ngesikhathi esisodwa. Isibonelo, intombazane ephakeme esikoleni esiphakeme ingase ihambe neqembu le-volleyball ngolunye usuku kanye nabasebenzi bezincwadi ngolunye usuku. Ngisho ngaphakathi kweqembu, izingane zingaba nabangane oyedwa noma ababili abazizwa besondelene nabo. Abantu futhi bangena futhi baphuma emaqenjini njengoba behlakulela izithakazelo ezintsha, benze abangane noma baqaphele ukuthi bancane kakhulu abafana nabo. Njengoba isikhathi sidlula, amanye amaqembu abangani azosondelana kanti amanye ahlukana.
Ungazicabangi ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthi wonke amaqembu abangane angama-clique.
Kuyinto evamile ukuba izingane zifune ukuchitha isikhathi nabantu abanokufana nazo. Futhi kungokwemvelo ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi othile uzoshiywa ngaphandle. Kodwa ebuhlotsheni obuhle , lokhu akukaze kwenziwa ngenhloso. Ukuvame ukumema kumaqembu kanye neminye imisebenzi engaphandle kubalwe ukulinganiselwa kwesikhala.
Amaqembu labangane nawo avame ukusekela omunye nomunye. Bamukela abantu eqenjini labo, ama-quirks nabo bonke. Besekela ukungafani komunye umuntu futhi abaqapheli ukuthi bahambisane nezindinganiso ezithile ukuze babe yingxenye yeqembu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, yini eyenza lezi zingani nje njengeqembu hhayi i-clique yizinga lokulawula ngaphakathi kweqembu. Abantu bakhululekile ukuba babe ngabanye ngaphakathi kweqembu labangane. Akekho obala ukuthi yini okufanele bawagqoke noma ukuthi bangakwazi yini ukugqoka nabo. Futhi bayamamukela lapho behlangana nabanye abanesithakazelo esifanayo.
Khumbula, abangani bangabonisa ukuziphatha okungenamusa ngezinye izikhathi, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi bangabantu abahlukumezayo . Kubalulekile ukuqaphela umehluko phakathi kwabantu abanobuthi nabangane abaqhamukayo nalabo abanoba nosuku olubi.
Cliques
Ngezinye izikhathi iqembu labangane empeleni liyi-clique. Ngokuvamile, izingane ezila maqembu zenza kucace kubangaphandle ukuthi akukhona nje umuntu ongakwazi ukujoyina futhi abe yingxenye yeqembu labo. Esinye isinqumo ukuthi lawo ma-clique avame ukugxila ekugcineni ukuthandwa kwabo noma isimo sabo. Bakwenza lokhu ngokwenza labo abangaphandle bazizwe bengabaluleki kangcono kunelabo abangaphakathi kwe-clique.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abantu abakwi-clique baziwa kakhulu ngokusebenzisa amandla abo ababonayo njengendlela yokulimaza noma yokuxhaphaza abanye. Bavame ukungabandakanyi, ukuxoshwa nokushiya abanye ngenhloso.
I-Cliques nayo iyingqondo . Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi akugcini ngaso sonke isikhathi kulabo abangaphandle. Abantu ngezinye izikhathi bahlukumeza namalungu abo ngokuzama ukulawula noma "ukulungisa" ngandlela-thile. Lokhu kungabandakanya ukunikeza i-makeovers engafuneki, ukubeka izinqumo zokugqoka, ubatshele ukuthi bangenzani futhi banciphise ubungane bangaphandle. Ubuntu abukhokisiwe noma bukhuthazwa ngaphakathi kwe-clique.
Ukwengeza, abantu abakwi-clique bavame ukukholelwa ukuthi uma behlekisa abanye, basakaze inhlebo noma basebenzise nezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwane , ukuthi bayothandwa.
Ngakho-ke, baxhaphaza ukuze bathole ukunakwa, ukuthola lokho abakufunayo nokujezisa abantu abanomona .
Ngokungafani neqembu labangani, ama-clique ngokuvamile awahlali ndawonye ngaphandle kweqembu lawo. Esikhundleni salokho, benza konke ndawonye kuhlanganise nokudla kwasemini ndawonye, behlezi ndawonye ekilasini bese bexhama ndawonye ngemuva kwesikole. Ngokuvamile bayokwamukela umuntu wangaphandle kuleli qembu ngaphandle uma bekholelwa ukwenza kanjalo kuzokwenza inhloso ethile.
Abanye abasha bakhangwa ama-clique ngoba babaluleke kakhulu ekuthandeni noma epholile. I-Cliques ibanika indawo lapho bangafinyelela khona isimo sezenhlalo futhi bazizwe sengathi bayabakho. I-Cliques iphinde ikhangele izingane ezithanda ukuphatha noma ukukhula ekulawuleni. Okwamanje, izingane ezikhetha ukulandela kunokuba ziholele, ama-clique angaba yindawo eyingozi kakhulu. Intsha engabalandeli ngokuvamile izithola zenza izinqumo ezingalungile noma zilandela izinto ezingenzani abavumelani nazo ngempela.
Okokugcina, ama-clique avame ukufaka eceleni izingane ezithandwayo ezibeka ubungozi ebuholini obuchofoza. Ngamanye amazwi, uma abaholi esiqhingini bebona umuntu njengomsongo, lowo muntu cishe uzokhipha futhi mhlawumbe aze ahlukumezwe noma axhumene ne-cyberbullied . I-clique yenza lokhu ngomzamo wokususa amandla okubona komuntu noma ukusongelwa kwakhe. Bangase babe nobuhlobo bomngane abaseduze kakhulu njengendlela yokuhlukanisa umuntu futhi banciphise isimo sakhe somphakathi.
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Ubuhlobo obunempilo yingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila kwentsha. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, abazali kudingeka bakhuthaze futhi bavuselele ubungane ekuphileni kwezingane zabo. Enye indlela yokwenza lokhu, ukukhuthaza ingane yakho ukuba imeme umngane noma ababili ukuba baphume. Ngaphandle kokusiza ingane yakho ukuthi ixhumeke ezweni layo nakwabanye, ubungane obuhle bungaya indlela ende ekuvimbeleni ukuxhaphazwa . Khumbula, izihlukumezi zijwayele ukukhomba izingane ezizimele , kodwa zizocabangela kabili ngaphambi kokuxhashazwa kwentsha enomphakathi oqinile.