Ukufundisa ingane yakho indlela yokukhomba abangane abangalungile futhi ugweme ukuxhaphazwa
Kuzo zonke izindawo oziphendukelayo, kunezimo zokuxhashazwa nokuxhaphazwa kwe-intanethi ezenzelwe amantombazane ashoyo, ama-fren enemy, ngisho nabangane abaqhamukayo. Lawa abizwa ngokuthi abangane bangukukhwabanisa okusebenzisa abanye abantu. Futhi bavame ukuba yinye-nhlangothi futhi ingxenye yama- clique . Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukuthi izingane zikwazi umehluko phakathi kwabahlobo bangempela nabangalungile.
Akuyona nje ubungane nomngani okhohlisayo ongenampilo, kodwa ukuhlanganiswa nomngane okhohlisayo ngokuvamile kuholela ekuhlukumezweni.
Ngenxa yalokho, kubalulekile ukuthi izingane zakho zikwazi ukubona izici zobungane obuqanjiwe. Nasi uhlu lwezici eziyisishiyagalombili ezizobuyekezwa nezingane zakho. Uma abangane babo banezici, sekuyisikhathi sokuqala ukwakha ubudlelwane obusha.
"Abangane abangenalutho bangobandlululo."
Ngokuvamile, umngane okhohlisayo uzoxhumana kuphela nengane yakho uma befuna noma badinga okuthile. Abavamile ukuthumela noma ukubiza ezinye izizathu. Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho iyazi ukuthi uma umngane engakaze abize noma imibhalo ukuze ahlole khona ngaleso sikhathi lowo muntu akayena ngempela umngane. Kungenzeka ukuthi lowo muntu usebenzisa ingane yakho ngandlela-thile.
"Abangane abangenamahloni bayajabula ngokuhleba nokudlala."
Ukucindezela izingane zakho ukuthi uma othile ejabulela ukuhleba ngabanye, khona-ke bangase babe nokuhleba ngemuva kweminyango yabo. Ukuhleba nokuhleka kwamahemuhemu kunemiphumela emibi futhi kuyisisekelo sokuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwane nezinye izinhlobo zokuxhashazwa . Qinisekisa ukuthi izingane zakho ziyazi ukuthi kufanele zigweme ubungane nabantu abaphumelela ekuhlekeleni noma ngomdlalo.
Kufanele futhi bagweme ukwabelana ngemininingwane yomuntu mayelana nokuphila kwabo. Uma benza, bafaka ingozi yokuba babekwa nabanye abantu.
"Abangane abakhohlakele badinga ukuthi uzenze."
Okuphawulekayo kobuhlobo obuhle ukuthi ingane yakho ingaba yedwa. Uma izingane zakho zizwa sengathi kufanele zigqoke imaski noma ayikwazi ukuyiqiniso, khona-ke lokho kuyisibonakaliso sabangane abayiqiniso.
Ngamanye amazwi, uma ingane yakho kufanele ikhulume noma igqoke ngokuhlukile ukuze ivumelane nalaba bangani, ke abangebona abangane beqiniso. Kungenzeka ukuthi bayingxenye ye-clique esikhundleni seqembu labangane. Khumbula, abangane abakhohlisayo bavame ukusebenzisa ukucindezela kontanga , okuholela ekuhlukunyezweni, ekuxosheni nasezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwane . Ukucindezela izingane zakho ukuthi abangane beqiniso bathanda kubo ukuthi bangubani.
"Abangane abangenalutho bangamanga."
Izikhathi eziningi, abangane abangamanga abajabuli ngokuthi bangobani ngakho baqamba amanga mayelana nokufezeka kwabo, amamaki abo, izingubo zabo, izinto zabo - noma yini eyenza bazenzele kangcono. Futhi uma beqamba amanga, bazokulala nomntwana wakho. Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho iyazi ukuthi uma ibamba umngane ngamanga amaningi, cishe akuyona ubungane obuhle. Kulula ukwethemba umqambimanga nokwethemba kubalulekile ebuhlotsheni obuhle .
"Abangane abangenalutho babalulekile."
Uma abangane babo behlala bebagxeka, sekuyisikhathi sokubheka ubuhlobo obuseduze. Abangane bangempela bayasekela futhi bakhuthaze, kodwa abangane abaqamba amanga bavame ukugxeka. Amantombazane, ikakhulukazi, anecala lokugxeka ngesisindo. Benza amahloni amanoni noma bahlekise ngomuntu omncane.
Lolu hlobo lokuxhashazwa luyingozi kakhulu ngoba lungabangela ukuphazamiseka kokudla noma ukuziphatha okulimazayo. Siza ingane yakho ithole abangani abakhuthazayo esikhundleni sayo.
"Abangane abangenalwazi abajabuli uma uphumelela."
Uma abangane bezingane zakho benento ehlambalaza ukusho njalo lapho izingane zakho ziphumelela, abangebona abangane bangempela. Abangane bangempela bagubha okufeziwe komunye nomunye. Ukuhawukela, ngenkathi umuzwa ovamile, kungabangela ukuhlukunyezwa uma kungasetshenzisiwe ngendlela enempilo. Uma abangane bomntanakho behlukumezela umona futhi bethintana lapho ingane yakho ihlangabezana nokuphumelela, lokhu akuyona ubungane obuhle.
"Abangane abangenalwazi bangathembeki."
Ngokuvamile, abangane abahle bazogcina izimfihlo zomunye nomunye. Ngamanye amazwi, abangane bangempela abatshele umhlaba ukuthi ingane yakho iphoqa. Uma abangane bezingane zakho bechitha njalo ubhontshisi, sekuyisikhathi sokubuza ukuthi lowo mngane ungumhlukumezi . Ukucindezeleka ezinganeni zakho ezithembayo isithako esibalulekile ebuhlotsheni obuhle.
"Abangane abangenalutho abanenhlanhla emuva."
Abangane bangempela bayonamathelana, ikakhulu uma bebhekene nokuhlukunyezwa. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, umngane ongeyena uzoba ummeli othulile ekuhlukumezeni noma angase ahlanganyele ekuhlukunyezweni. Uma lokhu kwenzeka njalo, ingane yakho kufanele icabange ukukhuluma nomngane wayo ngokungahambi kahle noma ukuqala ukuthola elinye iqembu labangani.
Ngokuvamile, ubudlelwane nabantu abanobugebengu abukho ubungane obuhle. Abangane abangenalutho ngokuvamile bavikelekile ngokwanele kulabo okufanele babe ngabangempela nabangempela. Balwa nobugovu, umhawu nokungaqiniseki okubenza bangaba umngane weqiniso. Siza ingane yakho ukuthi iqaphele lokhu futhi iqhubekele phambili.