Yeka ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kubangelwa kanjani ekuthuthukiseni ukukhathazeka kokudla
Ukukhathazeka kokudla yizinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi eziningana ezibangela izinto. Kodwa ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukuxhashazwa kungaba yinto ebalulekile ekuthuthukiseni ukukhathazeka kokudla. Njengoba nje ukuxhashazwa kungaxhunyaniswe nakho konke okuvela ekutheni ukucindezeleka kokucindezeleka kwe-posttraumatic (PTSD), akufanele kusimangaze ukuthi kuhlobene nokukhathazeka kokudla, ikakhulukazi kumantombazane.
Kungani ukuhlukunyezwa kubangela ukukhathazeka kokudla?
Njengoba amashumi amabili kanye nentsha ekhula futhi ethuthuka, asebenza ngezinkinga ezehlukene ezingokwengqondo nezomzimba kubandakanya ukuqwashiswa komfanekiso womzimba. Eqinisweni, iningi lentsha liyazi kahle ngokubukeka kwayo ngokomzimba nokuthi liqondwa kanjani ngabanye.
Ngenxa yalokho, lapho behlukunyezwa futhi behlushwa ngesisindo sabo. bavame ukuzizwa benesihlungu futhi benamahloni. Lokhu kungaholela ekuzweleni kokucindezeleka, ukuzethemba okuphansi, nesimo somzimba esibi. Futhi bangase bagweme ukuhlala nabanye, noma bayeke ukwenza imisebenzi yabo evamile.
Ukuphazamiseka kokudla okunjenge-anorexia kanye ne-bulimia kungathuthuka ekuphenduleni ukuxhaphazwa ikakhulukazi lapho isisulu sesivele sibhekene nokuzethemba okuphansi noma eminye imizwa yokungavikeleki. Ngenxa yalokho, amantombazane asetsheni azosebenzisa izinyathelo ezinkulu futhi ahlanganyele ekuziphatheni okuyingozi ukuze alawule isisindo sabo.
Kwabanye, ukuphazamiseka kokudla kuqala njengoba bezama ukuvumelanisa nalokho abazwa ukuthi abanye bayakwamukela.
Ngakho lapho izihlukumezi zibaqondisa ngobukhulu babo, isimo sabo, isisindo sabo noma esinye isici, lokhu kubeka ingcindezi eyengeziwe kubo ukuze bahambisane. Iphinde idale amazinga angaphezu kokukhathazeka ngesisindo sabo.
Kwabanye, ukuphazamiseka kokudla kubanika umuzwa wokulawula ngesikhathi ukuxhashazwa kwenza impilo yabo ihluleke ukulawula.
Iziqhwaga zivame ukuxosha , zisongela, zisakaze amahemuhemu futhi zihlekise izisulu zazo. Ngakho-ke, iningi labo, ukukhathazeka kokudla kungenza bazizwe benamandla okungenani endaweni eyodwa yokuphila kwabo.
Ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu, ukuhleka umuntu ngomzimba wakhe kubonakala sengathi uyamukeleka emphakathini. Eqinisweni, ukuphawula okuphazamisayo okuqhubekayo ngesisindo nosayizi kuvame ukuhlanganyela futhi kuthathwa ngaphandle kokuzwela. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukuhlaselwa ekubukeni kwentombazane noma isisindo kungabangela ukulimaza ngokobuzwe noma ukuxhashazwa ngokobulili.
Nansi lokho abazali nabafundisi abangakwenza.
Yazi Izimpawu Zokuhlukumeza Isisindo.
Izingane azihlale zitshela abantu abadala empilweni zabo ukuthi zixhashazwa. Ngakho kufanele ubukele izimpawu . Uma ingane yakho ibuya ekhaya isuka esikoleni ikhuluma ngokuthi "i-fat" ingakanani, sekuyisikhathi sokuqaphela.
Ezinye izinkomba azihlukumezayo ngesisindo sakhe zihlanganisa ukukhathazeka ngokuthi ubheka kanjani izingubo zokugqoka, engafuni ukuba phakathi kwabantu ngenxa yokuthi ubheka kanjani futhi ashintshe imikhuba yakhe yokudla. Angase aqale ukudla okuningi, kufihla lokho akudlayo noma adle kancane kancane. Zonke lezi zingase zibe izimpawu zokuqala zesifo sokudla. Qinisekisa ukuthi uyazi ezinye izibonakaliso zokuxhaphaza futhi ezifana nokuguquka kwemizwa, ukulala, namamaki.
Hamba ngokushesha uma usola ukuhlukunyezwa .
Qhathanisa izenzo zakho namazwi akho.
Uma usiza ingane yakho ukuba inqobe ukuxhaphazwa komzimba, iyasiza uma unesithombe somzimba esihle. Uyothola ukwethembeka okukhulu nengane yakho uma uzizwa kahle ukuthi ungubani kunokuba uthanda uma uhlala usola ukuthi ubukeka kanjani.
Yenza Ukuzethemba.
Umqondo omuhle wokuziqhenya nokuziqhenya okuqinile mhlawumbe yizidakamizwa ezihle kakhulu zokudla okuphazamisekile. Siza ingane yakho ukuba ijabule ngokuzikhandla kwengqondo, yezemidlalo nezenhlalakahle - hhayi kuphela ukuzethemba okuqinile kusiza ukulwa nokuphazamiseka kokudla, kodwa kuyasiza nokuvimbela ukuxhaphazwa.
Basize Bathuthukise Umqondo Wabo Wobuhle.
Gcina ukugxila kokubukeka futhi esikhundleni salokhu ugxile kwezinye izici ezenza ingane yakho ibe mnandi. Ngokwesibonelo, uhlambalaza ikhono lakhe lokudlala, ukuhlakanipha kwakhe, ubuciko bakhe, ububele bakhe - izinto ezimayelana naye ezenza kube eyingqayizivele futhi ekhethekile. Ungase futhi ufune ukuhlala phansi ukhulume ngabantu obabili obahlonipha ukuthi awunayo imizimba ephelele.
Khuthaza izindawo ezempilo.
Siza ingane yakho ithole izindlela eziphilile zokuphatha ukucindezeleka nemizwa engathandeki njengokuzivocavoca, ukuzindla, nomkhuleko kunokuba ubheke ukulawula ukudla. Qiniseka ukuthi nawe wenza okusemandleni akho ukumsiza ukunqoba ukuxhaphazwa .
Buka amazwi akho.
Qiniseka ukuthi awudlulisi lokho okuyaziwa ngokuthi ukucwaswa kwesisindo noma ukuqinisa isifiso somntanakho sokuba mncane. Isibonelo, ungakhulumi ngesisindo sakhe kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unkulu noma omncane kangakanani. Ukuthi "awunamafutha" kuyingozi njengokuthi "kuthiwani uma unesisu esiswini." Kunalokho, mkhuthaze ukuba acabange ukuthi kungani esaba ukuthi uyindlala nokuthi yini ocabanga ukuthi angayifeza ngokuba mncane.
Thola Usizo Olwengeziwe Uma Kudingeka.
Uma ubona izibonakaliso zesifo sokudla - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sidla okungaphezu kokuvamile noma ukudla okungaphansi kokuvamile noma ngisho nokuhamba ngokuphindaphindiwe endlini yokugezela ngemuva kokudla - ungase ufune ukuba ingane yakho ihlolwe ngenye indlela yokudla. Ungaphuzi ukuthola usizo. Uma usalinde isikhathi eside, okunye okuzokwenza umkhuba uzoba khona.