Funda izibonakaliso eziyisixwayiso ingane yakho ehlukunyezwayo
Uma kuziwa ekuhlukumezeni, izingane eziningi azisho lutho. Akugcini nje ukuthi bayigcina kubangane babo, kodwa futhi bavame ukutshela abantu abadala ekuphileni kwabo, kuhlanganise nabazali babo. Esikhundleni salokho, bavame ukuthulisa ngokuthula bevumela ukuhlukumezeka ukuba kwande. Nakuba le nkinga ingahle idideke kubantu abadala, inengqondo kumuntu osemusha.
Okokuqala, ukuhlukumezeka kuyamahloni futhi kuyabuhlungu izingane.
Le mizwelo iyancipha lapho etshela omunye umuntu ukuthi ihlukunyezwa. Futhi uma bebalandisa okwenzekile, bangase bazizwe sengathi baxolisa ukuxhashazwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bangase bakhathazeke ngokuthi abanye bazovumelana no-bully noma bakholelwe ukuthi bafanelwe ukwelashwa.
Okwesibili, izingane ngezinye izikhathi zikhathazeka ngokuthi ukutshela umuntu kuzokwenza isimo sibe sibi nakakhulu. Futhi kwezinye izimo, lokhu kungenzeka kube yiqiniso. Ukuziphindisela kuyingozi enkulu ngempela uma kuziwa ekuhlukunyezweni. Okwesithathu, izingane zingesaba ukuthi abazali bazo noma abanye abantu abadala bayodumazeka kubo. Esikhundleni sokubeka icala lokuxhashazwa ku-bully, bavame ukubeka icala.
Yiziphi Izibonakaliso Izingane Zakho Ezihlukunyezwayo?
Ngenxa yalokho, njengomzali, kufanele ukwazi ukubona izimpawu ukuthi ingane yakho ihlukunyezwa. Awukwazi ukuwabala ukuze abelane ngolwazi nawe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buqinile kangakanani.
Nazi imibono eyisishiyagalombili yokubona amaflegi abomvu ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho.
Lalela lokho ingane yakho ikutshela khona. Izingane eziningi ngeke zisebenzise igama elithi "ukuxhashazwa" ukuze zichaze ukuthi ziyini. Qaphela uma izingane zakho zithi sekukhona "umdlalo" omkhulu esikoleni noma ukuthi abanye "bahlukumeza" nabo.
Bacele ukuthi bachaze ukuthi kwenzekani nokuthi bazizwa kanjani. Zama ukuqoqa amaqiniso azungeze lesi simo. Uma ingane yakho ikutshela isifuba sakho, unganciphisi, unciphise noma uhlathulule okuhlangenwe nakho. Qinisekisa izingane zakho ukuthi azibanga imbangela yokuhlukunyezwa. Kunalokho, banikeze imibono yokunqoba ukuxhashazwa .
Buka "abangane" abaqedwayo. Njengomzali, cishe ujwayele abangane bezingane zakho. Qaphela uma abangane bakho abangejwayelekile bengasabibizi noma bebacela. Ngezinye izikhathi ubungane bahlukana ngoba izingane ziyahluka. Ngezinye izikhathi, abangane abadlulayo bangabonisa ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka kuyenzeka. Buza izingane zakho mayelana nabangane babo. Uma ingane yakho iphendula, "Anginabo abangane," lelo lizwe elibomvu elikhulu futhi udinga ukuthola okuningi.
Qaphela imizwa yengane yakho. Bheka ushintsho olubalulekile ekuziphatheni komuntu kanye nobuntu bakho obujwayelekile. Ngezinye izikhathi izingane ezixhashazwayo zibonakala zikhathazeka, zibopha, zikhukhumeza noma zihoxiswa. Kungase kubonakale kudabukisayo, ukukhathazeka, ukuphefumula noma ukucindezeleka, ikakhulukazi ngemuva kwesikole noma ngemuva kokusebenzisa inthanethi. Bamba ngokujulile lapho izingane zihlushwa ukuzithoba, zilalele ngokwabo izinto noma zithi azikho kahle. Futhi ungalokothi uphazamise ukuziphatha okulimazayo okufana nokubalekela ekhaya, ukusika noma ukukhuluma ngokuzibulala.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuxhashazwa yiyona imbangela eyisisekelo, lezi ziphathamandla akufanele zikhishwe.
Qaphela izikhalazo zempilo yengane yakho kanye nokulimala. Uma izingane zixhashazwa zizokhononda njalo ezinhlokweni zekhanda, izigubhu noma ezinye izifo zomzimba. Ezinye izibonakaliso zokuxhaphaza zihlanganisa ukusikeka okungahlongozwayo, ukuvunwa, nokukhwabanisa. Izingane zingase zibonise izinguquko ekudleni okufana nokudla ukudla noma ukudla okudliwayo. Bangase babuye ekhaya bevela esikoleni belambile ngoba beqa ukudla kwasemini ukuze bagweme ukuxhaphazwa. Enye incazelo kungenzeka ukuthi othile wabhubhisa noma wathatha isidlo sakusihlwa. Uma ubona noma iyiphi yalezi zimpawu, sekuyisikhathi sokuthola ukuthi kwenzekani empilweni yengane yakho.
Buka imikhuba yokulala yengane yakho . Izinguquko kumaphethini okulala zivame ukukhombisa ukuthi kukhona okungajabulisi empilweni yengane yakho. Izingane ezihlongozwa yizihlukumezi zingase zibe nenkinga yokulala noma zingase zithole ubusuku bokulala uma zilala. Ezinye izinkomba zihlanganisa ukulala okungaphezu kokuvamile, ukukhala ngokulala nokulala. Ngenxa yokuthi ukulala kwekhwalithi kuyinto ebalulekile yokuphila okunempilo, uphenye noma yiziphi izinguquko emaphethweni okulala kwengane yakho.
Bheka ngokujulile uma amamaki wengane wakho eqala ukuwa. Izingane ezixhashazwayo zivame ukuthola kunzima ukugxila emsebenzini wesikole. Ngenxa yalokho, bangase balahlekelwe isithakazelo esikoleni futhi amamaki angase ahlehlise. Ngokuvamile cela izingane zakho ukuthi zithanda noma zingathandi esikoleni. Uma ingane yakho ithi "bayayonda" isikole, thola ukuthi kungani. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlukunyezwa kuzoba yingcenye yenkinga.
Qinisekisa ukuthi uyazi isimiso somntanakho. Ukweqa imisebenzi yesikole noma ukufakazela ukuthi imisebenzi ejwayelekile ikhanseliwe kungabonisa ukuthi ingane yakho ixhashazwa. Futhi, qaphela uma ingane yakho ilahlekelwa intshisekelo kumdlalo ozithandayo, umdlalo noma umsebenzi. Ukuhlukana nomkhuba wabo ovame ukukhombisa ukuthi kukhona okungalungile. Thola ukuthi kungani izinto zishintshile.
Buka imibiko yezinto ezilahlekile. Ukufika ekhaya kusuka esikoleni ngaphandle kwempahla yomuntu kanye nempahla yakho kungabonisa okungaphezu kokuziphatha okungenakuziphendulela. Izikhathi eziningi izixhwanguxhwangu zizolimaza noma ziba impahla yomuntu oyisisulu. Ngakho-ke uma ingane yakho ibuya ekhaya enezingubo zokugqoka, ezonakele noma ezingekho, izincwadi, amathoyizi, izinto ze-elekthronikhi nezinye izinto, gcina kancane kancane. Ungathola ukuthi ingane yakho ixhashazwa.