Uma usanda kuphazamiseka noma ufunde ukuthi uzokuphutha kabi, cishe uzobhekana nezigaba ezinhlanu zesimiso. Imizwelo evamile ingaba yinto eshaqisayo noma intukuthelo ekudabukeleni noma ekuguleni. Noma yini oyizwayo ilungile. Wonke umuntu uphenduka ngokuhlukile ekulahlekeni kokukhulelwa, futhi ukuphendula okuncane kakhulu kungokwemvelo.
Ukudabuka Okuqine Kakhulu Kakhulu
Esikhathini esilandelayo ngokushesha, ukuzwa kwakho usizi cishe kuyoba namandla kakhulu.
Ama-hormone awela emzimbeni wakho angakwandisa ngisho nokudabuka kwakho ukuthi kunzima kakhulu, kepha lokhu kufanele kube ngcono emva kwesikhathi sokubuyela esikhathini sakho futhi umzimba wakho uphinde uvuselele .
Abantu bavame ukuxoxisana nosizi ngokulandela izigaba ezinhlanu, inkolelo eyayivela encwadini yesifo sengqondo sika-Elisabeth Kübler-Ross sika-1969 ethi "Ekufeni nasekufeni." Abesifazane abaningi bathola usizi emva kokukhulelwa kwesisu ngendlela efanayo.
Abanye besifazane bazohamba kuzo zonke lezi zigaba; abanye bayodlula ezinye zazo noma bazozibona ngendlela ehlukile.
Ukulahla nokuzihlukanisa
Abesifazane abaningi banethemba elincane lokuthi udokotela wayephutha futhi ukuthi, empeleni, abahambanga kahle. Ungase utholakale wenza amahora okucwaninga kwi-Inthanethi efuna enye incazelo mayelana nezimpawu zakho zokukhulelwa kwesisu .
Mhlawumbe awufuni ukubona noma ubani - ngisho nomlingani wakho noma umlingani wakho. Ungamcasula noma ubani okhuluma nawe.
Ungase ufune ukugoba ekhaya futhi ungathathi izingcingo noma uya emsebenzini. Ukuxhumana komphakathi kungase kuzwe kunzima, futhi ungase nje ufune ukuba yedwa.
Intukuthelo
Ungase ubheke umuntu ukuthi abekwe icala lokukhulelwa kwesisu. Abesifazane abaningi basola odokotela babo ngokuba bengaboni izibonakaliso ngaphambili futhi bengakwazi ukuvimbela ukulahleka okungenakwenzeka.
Ungase usole umlingani wakho noma uthole isizathu sokuzibeka icala. (Zama ukukhumbula ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwesisu akunakwenzeka neze iphutha lomuntu futhi ngokuvamile alikwazi ukuvinjelwa.)
Ungase uthukuthele emtholampilo wezokwelapha oya kuyo uma ukukhulelwa kwakhe ukusekelwa kokusekelwa kweprotocol kungeneli. Abangane bakho nezihlobo bangakucasula ngamazwana angenangqondo nangenhloso. (Zama ukuba mnene nabantu ebomini bakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi bavame ukuhlose ukukulimaza - ngokuvamile bazama ukusiza.)
Ukuxoxisana
Uma unenkolo, ungase uzame ukuhlangana nabantu abakhulu futhi uthembele izenzo ezinhle ezithile uma uphinde ukhulelwe futhi ungenalo ukukhulelwa kwesisu okuphindaphindiwe. Noma, ungase usebenze amahora amaningi ocwaningo mayelana nendlela yokuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa nokucinga noma yini ongayenza ukuze unciphise ingozi yokulahlekelwa okunye, njengokuhola impilo enempilo noma ukuzama ezinye izindlela zokwelashwa.
Uma unesithakazelo, khumbula ukuthi mhlawumbe akenzanga lutho olubangela ukukhulelwa komzimba wakho nokuthi ukukhulelwa kwesisu okuyinhloko kubangelwa ngokuphelele. Ukusebenza ngokuphila impilo enempilo kungcono ngaso sonke isikhathi umqondo omuhle kunoma yimuphi umuntu, kodwa qaphela ukudala noma yikuphi okulindelekile kuwe futhi ukholelwa ukuthi kukhona okuthiwa "ukwelashwa okuyisimangaliso."
Ukucindezeleka
Ungase uzibuze ukuthi uzoke uhlale nengane. Ungase uqiniseke ukuthi awuhlosi nje ukuba umama, noma ukuthi ujeziswa ngesizathu esithile. Uma uzama ukukhulelwa futhi, futhi awusakhulelwe ngokushesha ngendlela ongathanda ngayo, ungase ukhohlwe ukuthi ngeke kwenzeke. Uma uphinde ukhulelwe futhi, ungase uzizwe ukhathazekile okukhulu futhi ukholelwa ukuthi uzophinda ulahleke futhi.
Izithombe zezingane noma ukukhulelwa emphakathini nakuma media kungakhathaza, kukuholela ekutheni uphenduke lapho ubona imindeni enezingane ezincane noma abesifazane abanezimo ezikhulelwe ezibonakalayo. Ngeke ukwazi ukusingatha izikhumba zamantombazane osebenza nabo nezihlobo noma ukuvakashela izingane ezisanda kuzalwa.
Ungaqeda ukuphoqa isiteshi lapho ukuthengisa kuvela khona okufaka ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa .
Ukwamukelwa
Nakuba ubuhlungu bokukhulelwa kwesisu kwakho kungase kube nawe, kuzokwenzeka kube lula ukubhekana nakho. Uzokwazi ukubheka emuva futhi udabuke ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwesisu kwenzekile, kodwa imizwa yakho yokudabuka ngeke ibonakale igxilile njengoba beyenzile ekuqaleni. Abesifazane abaningi ngeke bafinyelele lesi sigaba kuze kube sekupheleni kokubeletha enye ingane.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, sicela ukhumbule ukuthi kuvamile nokuthi ngeke uzizwe unzima njalo njengoba kuqala ekuqaleni. Uzothola ukuthi unamandla kunokuba ucabange nokuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukubhekana nokukhulelwa komzimba kuzoba lula.
Umthombo:
Isibhedlela iSikhumbuzo, "Izinyathelo Zokuzizwa." 2006. Memorial Hospital, Inc.