Kukhona izindaba ezingenakubalwa ngokuxhashazwa kwentsha ezithatha impilo yazo. Ngokusobala, kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kokuxhashazwa nokuzibulala. Kodwa ingabe kulula njengokuthi ukuxhaphaza kwenza abantwana bazibulale?
Ochwepheshe abaningi bezempilo yengqondo bangase bathi ukuxhashazwa yiyona kuphela imbangela yokuzibulala kuyinto elula kakhulu. Ukuhlukumezeka kugxilisa ukucindezeleka futhi kwandisa ingozi yokuzibulala futhi ukungathí sina kwenkinga akufanele kuncishiswe.
Kodwa, ukwehluleka ukubheka ezinye izinto ezibangela ukuzibulala kuyiphutha. Ukuzibulala kuyinkinga eyinkimbinkimbi ephinde yathinteka ukucindezeleka, imizwa yokungathembeki, ukungabi nokuzethemba, izindaba zomndeni kanye nokuningi.
Noma kunjalo, ngoba ukuhlukumezeka kungase kube yisisusa sokuzibulala, ukubaluleka kwayo akufanele kunganakwa. Uma izingane ezisengozini yokuzibulala ngenxa yokucindezeleka noma ezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo zixhashazwa, imiphumela ingaba yingozi. Ngisho nezingane ezinokuhlanzeka kahle ezihlukunyezwayo zingadangele futhi zibheke ukuzibulala. Ngakho kungenzeka ukuthi ukuzibulala kufanele kucatshangelwe lapho ingane ixhashazwa.
Izibalo Zithini?
- Cishe ingxenye eyodwa kwengxenye yabasebenzi abayishumi ababike ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka nabo babike ukuthi benze umzamo wokuzibulala ezinyangeni ezingu-12 ezedlule, ngokusho kwe-Washington State Healthy Youth Survey.
- Ingxenye yabalimi abangu-12 ababike ukuthi bahlukumezekile nabo babike ukuthi bazizwa bebuhlungu futhi bengenathemba cishe nsuku zonke amasonto amabili ngokulandelana, ngokusho kwe-Washington State Healthy Youth Survey.
- Phakathi kwabantu abaneminyaka engu-15 kuya kwengu-24 ubudala, ukuzibulala kungenye yezimbangela ezibulalayo zokufa, ngokusho kokuzibulala Ukuzizwa Kwezokuzivocavoca. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amaphesenti angu-16 abafundi bacabanga ukuzibulala; Amaphesenti angu-13 enza uhlelo; futhi amaphesenti angu-8 enze umzamo omkhulu.
- Ukuxhaphazwa kwe-Cyberbullying kwenza izingane zibheke ukuzibulala ngaphezu kokuhlukunyezwa kwendabuko ngokusho kokutadisha ku- JAMA Pediatrics .
Yini Abazali Ongayenza?
Yazi izimpawu zokuxhashazwa . Enye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokubona ukuhlukunyezwa empilweni yezingane zakho ubukela imizwa yabo. Uma bekhathazeka ngokuzumayo, bagcizelele noma babonisa ukuthi bayayonda esikoleni, qaphela. Qaphela futhi uma bethi kuningi lodlalwa esikoleni noma ukuthi abanabangane. Ezinye izibonakaliso zokuxhaphaza zifaka ukukhononda kwezinkhanda kanye neziqhwaga, ukweqa isikole , ukulahlekelwa izinto nokugcina amamaki.
Yazi izimpawu zokucindezeleka. Izimpawu ezifana nokuyeka amamaki, ukulahlekelwa inzalo emisebenzini eyintandokazi, ukuhoxisa emphakathini nokulala okungenani kunokujwayelekile okuyizona zonke izimpawu zokuthi umuntu angacindezeleka. Ukukhala okungapheli okuchazayo kubonisa nokuthi ukucindezeleka kungaba yinkinga. Ukufutheka ngokweqile nakho kungaba uphawu lokucindezeleka.
Yazi izimpawu zokuzibulala. Abantu abacabangela ukuzibulala bangase babe namahloni, babonakale bengenathemba futhi banolwazi olushintsha ubuntu. Ngezinye izikhathi abantu abazibulala bazonqamula ukuxhumana nabanye abantu futhi banganakwa emisebenzini. Noma, bangase baqale ukuhlanza izinto, baphonsa noma banikeze izinto eziyigugu. Futhi bangase bavakashele abangane bakudala bese benza izindandatho kumalungu omndeni. Uma ubona noma yiziphi izimpawu zokucabanga zokuzibulala, udinga ukubuza ukuthi kwenzekani.
Ungalibali ukuthatha isenzo.
Siza ingane yakho ukuba inqobe ukuxhaphazwa. Enye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokusiza ingane yakho ukunqoba ukuxhashazwa ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho ikhululekile ukukhuluma nawe. Kufanele futhi uzibophezele ukubasiza ekuxazululeni inkinga. Landela isikole kuze kube yilapho inkinga iqondiswa. Inqubo yokunqoba ukuxhashazwa yinde. Ngakho udinga ukuzibophezela kuhlelo. Kuzoba nezinsuku ezinhle nezinsuku ezimbi. Kodwa qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho ikwazi ukuthola izinsiza ezidingekayo ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakhe futhi ibhekane nalokho okwenzekayo. Futhi, qiniseka ukuthi uhlala esondelene nabasebenzi besikole.
Ukuxhashazwa kuvame ukukhula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi kaningi akupheli ngaphandle kokungenelela okuqhubekayo.
Cela umntwana wakho ahlolwe futhi aphathwe ukucindezeleka. Noma kunini lapho ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho icindezelekile noma ihlolisisa ukuzibulala, kungcono ukuba ihlolwe udokotela noma ingcweti yezempilo yengqondo. Ukuthola ukwelashwa kokucindezeleka kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokutakula. Ngisho noma ungacabangi ukuthi ingane yakho icindezelwe, ungase ufune ukukhuluma nochwepheshe wezempilo. Ukuxhashazwa kunemiphumela ephawulekayo futhi uma kuqhubeka kungaba nomthelela ohlala njalo.
Unganaki izinsongo zokuzibulala. Nakuba kungenjalo wonke umntwana uzosongela ukuzibulala ngaphambi kokuba akwenze, abanye bayakwenza. Ngakho qaphela noma nini lapho umuntu ekhuluma ngokuthatha impilo yakhe. Ngisho noma umuntu osongela ukuzibulala engenayo injongo yokuzilandela, lokhu kuyisikhala sangempela usizo futhi akumelwe neze unganakwa. Vumela ingane yakho ithuba lokukhuluma nomeluleki futhi ugweme ukumshiya yedwa isikhathi eside.