Ukuhlukunyezwa kwenzeka nsuku zonke nakuzo zonke izikole. Ngenxa yalokho, amathuba aphakeme ukuthi ingane yakho izobona ukuxhashazwa okungenani kanye ngesikhathi sokuphila kwakhe. Kodwa ingabe uzokwenza noma yini ngakho? Kungcono nakakhulu, ingabe uzokwazi ngisho nokuthi kufanele akwenze? Nakhu kungani ukunika amandla ingane yakho ukuphendula ukuxhashazwa kubalulekile.
Kungani Ababukeli Badingeka Ukuphendula Ukuxhaphaza
Kuzo zonke izigameko zokuhlukunyezwa, kunomuntu oyedwa okuthinta ukuxhashazwa okuvame ukushiywa indiva-ummeli.
Nakuba abaphikisi abazona izinhloso eziyinhloko zokuxhashazwa, basuke benomthelela. Ezinye izifundo zize ziphakamise ukuthi abagibeli bangase bahlupheke ngaphezu kwesisulu sangempela. Eqinisweni, abaphikisi bangabhekana necala, ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, nemizwa yokungabi namandla.
Abaphikisi nabo bangase bazi ukuthi yini eyaziwa njengomphumela wokuphikisana okwenzeka lapho abantu bebona umcimbi onjengobudlova lapho iqembu elikhulu labantu likhona. Akunamathuba okusiza isisulu ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi omunye umuntu uzokwenza. Ngenxa yalokho, kubalulekile ukuhlomisa izingane zakho amandla okubona ukuthi ukuxhashazwa akulungile. Kungumqondo omuhle ukubanika amathuluzi afanele ekuphenduleni ukuxhaphazwa.
Amathiphu Wokuphendula Ukuhlukunyezwa
Ukuphendula okufanelekile ekuhlukunyezweni kungasiza kuphela isisulu, kodwa kuyasiza ingane yakho ukuba igweme imiphumela emibi yokufakaza isenzakalo sokuhlukunyezwa . Khuluma nabantwana bakho ngalokho abangakwenza uma bebona ukuxhaphazwa kwenzeka esikoleni.
Bese unikeza imibono yokuthi ingane yakho ingasabela kanjani ekuhlukunyezweni esikoleni . Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso.
Gwema ukujoyina noma ukuhleka . Ngezinye izikhathi izingane zizongena noma zihleke lapho kwenzeka ukuhlukunyezwa. Kodwa ngisho nokuhleka kokukhathazeka kwenza u-bully abe impendulo ayifunayo. Chaza kubantfwana bakho ukuthi ulindele ukuba bangajoyina ukuxhashazwa.
Ngisho noma bengazizwa benesibindi sokwenza okuthile ngaleso sikhathi, bangakwazi ukugwema ukuvumela ukucindezela kontanga nokuhleka nabanye.
Hamba kude . Ngezinye izikhathi izihlukumezi zimane zifuna ukunakwa. Futhi, uma bengenayo izilaleli, bazoyeka. Tshela izingane zakho ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi konke kuthatha ukusiza isisulu ukuthi uhambe esenzakalweni noma ungamnaki loxhashazi. Noma kunjalo, khumbuza ingane yakho ukubika ukuxhaphaza kumuntu omdala ukuze kungabe kwenzeka futhi.
Tshela umhlukumezi ukuthi ayeke . Ngokujwayelekile, uma umhlukumezi engakutholi ukunakekelwa okuhle esixukwini, uzoyeka lokho akwenzayo. Kuthatha kuphela umuntu oyedwa noma ababili ukukhombisa ukungavumi futhi ukuxhashazwa kuzophela. Tshela izingane zakho ukuthi zisebenzise le ndlela kuphela uma zizizwa ziphephile ngokwenza kanjalo. Uma umhlukumezi ebangela ukusongeka ngokomzimba, enye inketho ingase ibe ukuthola usizo.
Thola umuntu omdala . Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba ihambe ngokuzenzekelayo isigameko sokuhlukumezeka bese uya ukuthola usizo. Lokhu kufanele kwenziwe ngokuhlakanipha ukuze ugcine ingane yakho ingekho ngendlela eyingozi. Kodwa uma ukuhlukunyezwa kungabika ukuthi kuzoqhubeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ingane yakho ingufakazi wokuhlukunyezwa futhi izimisele ukutshela umuntu lokho akubonayo, lokhu kuhamba phambili ekusekeleni isisulu.
Sebenzisa ifoni ukushayela noma umbhalo ukuze uthole usizo . Uma ingane yakho inomakhalekhukhwini, mtshele ukuthi angakwazi ukubiza njalo noma ukuthumela umuntu omdala futhi acele usizo. Eqinisweni, Ezinye izikole ziye zasebenzisa nezinsiza zokusiza lapho izingane zingakwazi ukuthumela imiyalezo noma ukubiza ngokungaziwa uma othile ehlukunyezwa. Ukwenza kanjalo, kumvimbela ukuthi angasho okuthile ngqo kumuntu ohlukumezayo, kodwa umnike indlela yokusiza isisulu.
Cela amanye ama-standbyers aphakamise futhi . Ngezinye izikhathi kuphephile futhi kuphumelele uma iqembu lezingane libhekene nalesi sihlukumezi. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lapho ontanga bengenelela esenzakalweni sokuxhashaza, ukuxhashazwa kuyeka cishe amaphesenti angu-60 yesikhathi.
Khumbuza izingane zakho ukuthi zinamandla ezinombolweni futhi zikhuthaze ukuba zihlanganise nabangani bazo ukuba ziqede ukuxhaphazwa esikoleni.
Ikheli le-cyberbullying . Khumbula, ingane yakho akudingeki ibe khona ngokomzimba ukuze ihlaselwe ukuhlukunyezwa. Ukufakaza komuntu ofunde naye ekilasini okuhlosiwe ku-intanethi kungathinta ingane yakho futhi. Mfundise indlela yokubika i- cyberbullying uma ebona kuyi-intanethi. Isibonelo, ingane yakho kufanele ilondoloze okuthunyelwe futhi ibike umuntu omdala ngokuxhunywa kwe-cyberbullying. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amasayithi amaningi wezokuxhumana ezenhlalo anezinhlelo zokubika ukuhlukunyezwa. Msize ajwayele indlela yokubika ukuhlukunyezwa.
Sisekela isisulu . Ngezinye izikhathi indlela engcono kakhulu yokusiza ukuthi ube ngumngane wesisulu. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi okungenani umngane oyedwa angakwazi ukuvimbela ukuxhaphazwa . Nika ingane yakho imibono yokuthi ungaba kanjani umngane wezisulu zokuhlukunyezwa. Lokhu kungase kusho ukuhamba ekilasini ndawonye, uhlezi nabo kwasemini bese ubamema emibuthanweni yomphakathi.
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Ukufundisa izingane zakho ukuthi zingaphendule kanjani ukuxhaphazwa uma zibona zizohamba isikhathi eside ekuthuthukiseni isimo sezulu esikoleni sabantwana bakho . Ngaphezu kwalokho, ufundisa izingane zakho isifundo sokuphila esibalulekile. Ukufunda ukumelana nokuhlukumezeka nokusiza abanye abaswele kuyabangela ukuzwelana . Kuphinde kusize ukuqinisa umlingiswa wengane yakho futhi kumsize afunde okulungile nokungalungile.
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