Izingane ezifakaza ukuhlukunyezwa zingase zithinte njengezisulu
Iningi labantu alijabuli ukubona abanye abantu belimala. Ngenxa yalokho, ukubukela omunye umuntu ukuba ahlukumezwe kungaba nomthelela omkhulu. Eqinisweni, ukufakazela ukuhlukunyezwa kubangela imizwelo eminingi kanye nokucindezeleka okungathatha umonakalo kumuntu omelelayo. Ukusuka ekukhathazeka nokungenakuqiniseka, ukwesaba nokwehluleka, ukuxhashazwa kunomthelela omkhulu kubantu abakuleli.
Eqinisweni, ucwaningo lokuqala luveza ukuthi izingane ezifakaza ukuxhashazwa zingase zibe engozini enkulu kwengqondo njengoba izisulu kanye nezihlukumezi .
Futhi okuningi njengezihlukumezi zokuxhashazwa, impilo yabo engokwenyama, impilo yengqondo ngisho nezifundiswa zingathinteka. Nazi izindlela eziyisithupha ababhekene nazo abathinteka ukuxhaphazwa.
Umthelela wokumisa
Abaphikisi nabo bangathinteka yilokho owaziwa njengomphumela wokuphikisa, okwenzeka lapho iqembu labantu libuka isigameko sokuxhashaza futhi akekho ophendulayo.
Ngesikhathi sesigameko sokuhlukunyezwa, umuntu oyedwa kungenzeka asize isisulu. Kodwa eqenjini labantu abathathu noma ngaphezulu, akekho umuntu ozwa sengathi kuwumthwalo wabo wokuthatha isinyathelo. Ngakho njengeqembu, bancane amathuba okuya phambili futhi basize isisulu.
Ngokusho kukaJohn Darley kanye neBibb Latane, ababengabokuqala ukucwaninga lo mcimbi ngo-1968, abantu bayashesha ukuphendula ngenxa yalokho okubizwa ngokuthi ukwehlukaniswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, ababukeli bazizwa sengathi umthwalo wokwenza okuthile wabelwe yiqembu lonke. Ngakho kunciphisa impendulo yabo noma bahluleka ukuphendula nhlobo.
Ukwengeza, ababukeli bangase baphuze ukuphendula ngoba beqapha abanye eqenjini ukuze basabele. Bazama ukunquma ukuthi isimo sína ngokwanele ukwenza okuthile futhi bazobukela ukubona ukuthi omunye umuntu uzoqhubeka yini. Ngezinye izikhathi uma kungekho muntu ohamba phambili, abaphikisi bazizwa benecala lokungenzi lutho.
Lokhu ukungenzi lutho kuvame ukubizwa ngokuthi umphumela wokumelana.
Ukungaqiniseki
Abanye ababukeli babhekene nokungaqiniseki. Babona ukuhlukunyezwa futhi bazi enhliziyweni yabo ukuthi akulungile, kodwa abazi ukuthi kufanele benzeni. Yingakho abazali nabafundisi kudingeka banike amandla abaphikisi ngezindlela ezifanele zokuphendula. Kukhona izinto eziningi ababukeli abangazenza ukuze basize, kodwa kaningi abazi ukuthi lezo zinto ziyini. Ngenkathi isiqondiso esincane, izingane zingafunda ukuthi ziphendule kanjani lapho zifakazela ukuxhashazwa.
Ukwesaba
Ukwesaba kungenye isizathu esenza abaphili abahluleka ukwenza noma yini lapho bebona ukuhlukunyezwa. Abanye ababukeli besaba ukusho lutho ngoba besaba ukuhlazeka noma ukuhleka usulu. Futhi bangase bakhathazeke ngokuthi bazosho noma benze into engalungile futhi bahlukumeze kakhulu. Ngakho-ke bahlala bathule. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, abanye ababhekene nazo bayesaba ukulimala noma aba yizinhloso ezilandelayo uma befika ekuvikeleni kwesisulu. Abanye besaba ukulahlwa. Bakhathazeka ngokuthi abanye eqenjini bazobavulela, bahlekise noma baxoshe uma bemela isisulu.
Ukuziphendulela
Ngemuva kwesigameko sokuhlukumezeka sesiphelile, ababukeli abaningi banzima benecala. Akuzona nje ukuthi bazizwa kabi ngalokho okwenzekile kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe, kodwa futhi banecala elikhulu ngokungangeneli.
Futhi bangazizwa benecala ngokungazi ukuthi benzeni noma besabe kakhulu ukungena kuwo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo mthetho wecala ungalimaza izingqondo zabo isikhathi eside emva kokuhlukunyezwa sekuphelile.
Ukungqubuzana kokusondela-ukugwema
Ukuhlanganiswa kokwesaba nokwehluleka kungabangela ukuthi yini eyaziwa ngokuthi ingxabano yokugwema indlela. Lokhu kwenzeka uma kunesifiso esiqotho sokusiza ngesimo kodwa nesifiso esinamandla esifanayo sokugwema isimo. Uma kuziwa ekuhlukunyezweni , izingane zingazizwa zinecala ngokungasizi futhi ziyesaba kakhulu ukusiza ngesikhathi esifanayo. Kufana nokuthi badonswa ngezindlela ezimbili ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ngezinye izikhathi isifiso sokusiza sinamandla futhi sinqoba.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukwesaba imiphumela kuphakeme. Umphumela ukungaqiniseki, okuholela ekuzizwa kungabikho kokulawula futhi kuveza amazinga aphezulu okucindezeleka nokukhathazeka komuntu omelayo.
Ukukhathazeka
Abaphikisi nabo bangahlakulela ukukhathazeka ngokuxhashazwa. Ngemva kokufakaza isenzakalo sokuhlukumezeka, abanye abaqalile ukuqala ukukhathazeka ukuthi bazoba yizinhloso ezilandelayo ikakhulukazi uma ukuxhashazwa kunzima noma ukuqhutshwa okuqhubekayo esikoleni. Lokhu kungakhathazeka futhi kungabangela ummeli ukuba akhathazeke ngokuphepha nokuphepha esikoleni. Lokhu kwenza kube nzima ukuhlushwa. Abaphikisi ngezinye izikhathi banqotshwa ukukhathazeka ukuthi bagwema izindawo lapho ukuxhashazwa kwenzeka. Futhi bangase bagweme izenzakalo zomphakathi kanye neminye imisebenzi ngenxa yokukhathazeka ngokuxhashazwa.
Ngezinye izikhathi, ngomzamo wokubhekana nokukhathazeka nokugwema ukuba yizibhebhe, abagibeli bangase bajoyine ama-clique noma bangene ekucindezelweni kontanga . Abaphikisi bangase babe izihlukumezi nje ukuze bagweme ukuhlukunyezwa ngokwabo.