Indlela Yokusiza Izingane Zakho Ukubhekana Nokucindezela Kontanga
Intsha ithonywa nsuku zonke yiontanga. Eqinisweni, njalo lapho i-middle or teen yakho ichitha isikhathi nontanga yabo, ithonywa. Ngisho noma bangase bangaziqondi, nje ngokuchitha isikhathi ndawonye bafunda kusuka komunye nomunye. Ngezinye izikhathi izithonya zontanga zingaba kuhle njengokukhuthazana komunye nomunye ukuzama izinto ezintsha noma ukuphuma endaweni yazo yokududuza ngendlela enhle.
Kodwa ukucindezela kontanga nakho kungaba okungalungile, ikakhulu uma kuhlobene nezidakamizwa, ukusetshenziswa kotshwala, ngisho nokuxhashazwa.
Indlela Ukucindezela Kontanga Kusabela Ngayo Ukuxhashazwa
Ukucindezela kontanga ukucindezelwa kwabanye ukuhambisana nezimo zokuziphatha, isimo sengqondo nemikhuba yomuntu siqu yeqembu noma i-clique. Ngezinye izikhathi izingane ezingaphansi kwe-clique zizocindezela ezinye izingane ukuba zibambe iqhaza ekuhlukunyezweni. Lokhu kuxhaphaza kungabandakanya yonke into ngokushiya amanothi ashoyo kanye nokubiza amagama ukuze kuhlaziye ubuhlobo bomunye nomunye ngenhlebo, amanga namahemuhemu . Eqinisweni, ukuhlukumezeka okuningi ngokobudlelwane nokuxhaphazwa kwe-inthanethi kuhilela ukucindezela kontanga.
Ngezinye izikhathi, ama-tweens kanye nentsha bazozwa ingcindezi yangaphakathi yokwenza izinto abacabanga ukuthi ontanga yabo bayenza. Isibonelo, ezinye izingane zizohlanganyela ekuthumeleni imiyalezo ye-SMS ngoba bacabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu uyayenza futhi. Ngamanye amazwi, ukucindezela kontanga kubangela izingane ukuba zenze izinto ezingenakuzenza ngethemba lokuzibandakanya noma ukunaka.
Uma kuziwa ekuhlukumezeni, izingcindezi zokuxhaphaza abanye zivame ukuqala ngengqondo yepakethe futhi zivame kakhulu kwi-intanethi. Izikhathi eziningi, izingane zizocindezela noma zikhuthaze abanye ukuba baxhumane ne- cyberbully . Lokhu kungafaka izingcindezi zokubamba iqhaza kuyo yonke into kusukela kuhlu lokuzonda inthanethi oluzosho ukuthunyelwe kwezokuxhumana kwezenhlalo .
Okwenza izingane zinikeze ukucindezela kontanga
Ngokuvamile, lapho izingane zivumela ukucindezela kontanga kungenxa yokuthi bafuna ukuthandwa noma ukungena kuzo.
Besaba ukuthi uma bengaphumi neqembu noma i-clique, ezinye izingane zingase zihlekise ngazo. Ngenxa yalokho, ukuxhashazwa ngezinye izikhathi kuyisenzo sokuzivikela. Izingane ziyesaba uma zingabandakanyi abanye, zihlanganyele ekuhlekeleni, zisakaze amahemuhemu futhi zihlekise abanye, ngakho-ke nazo zizoxoshwa noma zihlushwa yizihlukumezi .
Ukwengeza, ezinye izingane zamukela umqondo wokuthi "wonke umuntu uyakwenza" futhi ngokuvamile uzizwa engafanele ukucindezeleka lapho eseqedile njengeqembu. Ngalolu hlobo lwengqondo yepakethe, izingane zivame ukushiya isahlulelo esingcono nokuziqonda ngemuva. Ngenxa yalokho, abazizwa bezisola kakhulu njengoba bekungenjalo.
Indlela Abazali Abangasiza Ngayo Abantwana Ukubhekana Nokucindezela Kontanga
Uma kuziwa ekucindezelweni kontanga, abazali bavame ukuzizwa sengathi balwa nempi ehlulekayo. Kodwa empeleni, abazali banethonya elikhulu kunalokho abaqaphelayo. Nakuba abantu abayishumi nambili bekhulile kule minyaka futhi bezama ukuzimela, bafuna kakhulu abazali babo. Ngakho ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokungena.
Xoxa nezingane zakho. Zama ukuqonda izingcindezi ababhekana nazo. Buza mayelana nezingcindezi abazizwayo zokuzihlukumeza ngokobudlelwane , ukuxhaphazwa kwe- cyberbullying nezinye izinhlobo zokuxhashazwa .
Uma ungakwazi ukuxhuma nezingane zakho ngokuxhashazwa, nakakhulu uzokwazi ukuthonya ithonya elihle. Nika izingane zakho imibono ukuthi ungaphendula kanjani ukucindezela kontanga. Futhi qiniseka ukuthi bahlomile ukuzethemba , amakhono okuqinisekisa kanye namakhono omphakathi. Lezi zici zisiza izingane ziphendule ukucindezela kontanga ngendlela enhle.
Futhi, faka imithetho nemiphumela uma kuziwa ekuhlukumezeni bese ulandela. Uma unenqubomgomo yokungaxhasi abanye futhi uthola ukuthi ingane yakho iyisihlukumeza-ngisho noma iphoqelelwe kuyo-kufanele ulandele izinyathelo zokuqondisa izigwegwe . Uma ungenjalo, ingane yakho izocabanga ukuthi imithetho ayisebenzi noma ayiyona into enkulu.
Ngenxa yalokho, ukuhlukumezeka kungase kuqhubekele kuze kube yilapho kuphuma ukulawulwa noma kulimaza omunye umuntu. Khumbula, ukubheka enye indlela kuyingozi kuphela ingane yakho ekugcineni.
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Qonda ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumzali wakho kahle kangakanani, ophakathi kwakho noma osemncane uzozihlaziya ngezikhathi ezithile. Esikhundleni sokukhala noma ukugxeka, bazisize bathathe imithwalo yemisebenzi yabo. Ngokwesibonelo, uma behlukumeza omunye umuntu, bacele uxolise. Noma uma bemboza i-eydijithali ngegraffiti elimazayo, bahlanze. Iphuzu ukuqinisekisa ukuthi benza izilungiso zokuxhashazwa. Futhi, melana nesifiso sokubiza ingane yakho umhlukumezi. Kunalokho, umkhuthaze ukuba ayeke ukuhlukunyezwa futhi agxile ekubeni nomusa , uzwela futhi uhloniphe. Lokhu kungathatha isikhathi, kodwa ngosizo lwakho, ingane yakho ingafunda ukwenza izinqumo ezingcono ngisho nalapho uhlangabezana nokucindezela kontanga.
> "Ukucindezela Kontanga Ukuthinta Ukuziphatha Kanjani?" I-Pacer's National Bullying Prevention Centre, ngo-2018. http://www.pacer.org/bullying/resources/questions-sweredwe/peer-pressure.asp