Kubazali, akukho lutho olungaba yinselele kunokuba uthole ukuthi ingane yakho iyisihlukumezi . Akukona nje ukushaqeka, kodwa futhi kungaba inqubo ekhanga kakhulu uma ezwa ukuthi akenzanga lutho olubi. Kodwa ngokungenelela okufanele kanye nekhono elihle elibekiwe , izihlukumezi zingakwazi futhi zishintshe. Isihluthulelo ukusabela ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho ngokushesha futhi ngokuphumelelayo.
Lokhu kungenelela kokuqala akubandakanyi nje ukuyala kuphela ukuxhashazwa ngenxa yokukhetha kwakhe okubi kepha futhi kumsize ngekhono lokuthatha ubunikazi. Nazi izindlela eziyisikhombisa zokwenza ingane yakho ithwale imithwalo yemisebenzi yakhe futhi iqede ukuziphatha kokuxhashazwa.
Ungenzi Izizathu Futhi Ulahlwe Abanye
Uma abazali bethola ingane yabo kungumhlukumezi noma ukuthi ingane yabo i-cyberbully, ngokuvamile bafuna ukwenza izizathu noma ukunikeza izincazelo zokuziphatha. Kodwa ukusola abanye akusizi ingane yakho ifunde ukuziphatha okubalulekile njengokuzithiba nokuphathwa kwentukuthelo. I-Blame ibuye ikuvimbele ekuboneni ingane yakho ngokuqondile. Khumbula, ingane yakho kuzodingeka isebenze ezweni lomdala ngelinye ilanga. Kungcono ukuthi afunde ukuziphatha ngendlela evumelana nomphakathi manje kunokuba kamuva. Njengoba kunzima kangakanani, kufanele uvume ukuthi ingane yakho ixhaphaza abanye abantu.
Ungavumeli Ukucabanga Abahlukunyezwayo
Ukucabangela ukuhlukunyezwa kuvumela ingane yakho ukuthi ikholelwe ukuthi izenzo zakhe zilungele ngendlela ethile ngoba uhlushwa ngandlela-thile.
Iphinde ikhulume ngamanga ukuthi ayinabo obhekene nokukhetha kwayo. Ukuvumela ukucabanga ngokuhlukunyezwa kuvimbela izingane ekukhuleni nasekushintsheni. Iphinde idale umuzwa wokungabi namandla. Futhi izingane ezivunyelwe ukuzibona njengezisulu ziyisikhathi esinzima kakhulu ukuphila impilo enempilo nokukhiqiza.
Ngisho noma ingane yakho ihluphekile ezandleni zabanye, ukuxhashazwa akuyona impendulo efanelekile. Melana nesifiso sokuzithethelela izinqumo ezimbi ngoba ingane yakho yahlukunyezwa. Kunalokho, umkhuthaze ukuba enze izinqumo eziphilile, ezinesibindi ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe.
Khumbuza Ukuhlukunyezwa Kwakhe Kuyisinqumo
Ukuxhashazwa akubangelwa okuthile okushiwo yisisulu noma okwenzile. Futhi abahlukumezayo kudingeka bafunde ukuthatha ubunikazi balezi zinqumo. Kudingeka futhi bakwazi ukubona ukuthi lokho abakwenzile kwakungalungile nokuthi kwenzeke kanjani ukuthi isisulu sizwe. Ukucindezela ukuthi akekho owenza "ukuba" benze lokho. Ngisho nasezimweni ezihilela ukucindezelwa kontanga , ukuxhaphazwa kweqembu noma imijikelezo yokuhlukunyezwa, lo muntu ohlukunyezwayo unesibopho sokukhetha kwakhe. Ngenkathi kunezindlela eziningi ezahlukene zokuthola umhlukumezi ukuba athathe ubunikazi, ukhiye wukuthi angakwazi ukuveza lokho akwenzile okungalungile futhi athathe ngobuqotho izenzo zakhe.
Yenza Ukuthembeka Kube lula
Uma ufuna ukuya phansi ekukhetheni kwengane yakho ukuxhaphaza abanye, kufanele uhlale uzolile lapho ubonisa ukunganeliseki kwakho ngezinqumo zakhe ezimbi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzola kwenza kube lula futhi kube lula ukuthi uzovuma amaphutha akhe futhi abe nenkulumo eqotho nawe. Futhi, ukucindezeleka ukuthi usamthanda ngokungazi lutho, kodwa ukuthi udumazekile ekukhethweni kwakhe.
Lokhu kwenza ingxoxo elula ngemiphumela ezayo, yokwenza izilungiso nokwenza izinto ngokuhlukile esikhathini esizayo uma eyazi ukuthi uyathandwa naphezu kwamaphutha akhe.
Qinisekisa Imiphumela Efanele
Uma uthola indlela yokuyala ingane yakho ngokuhlukunyezwa, kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi imiphumela ihambelana nobukhulu becala. Isibonelo, uma ingane yakho ibanjwe i-cyberbullying ngomunye umuntu, inkambo engcono kakhulu yokusebenza ingase imthinte ukufinyelela kuma-social media isikhathi esithile. Ukwengeza, kufanele usekele noma yiziphi izenzo zokuqondiswa kwezigwegwe esikoleni esinikeziwe.
Khombisa izindlela zokwenza izilungiso
Enye indlela yokwenza ingane yakho ithathe ubunikazi bokukhetha kwakhe ukuhlukunyezwa ukuxhumana ukuthi lezo zikhetho zithinte kanjani izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa. Ukwenza kanjalo kuzosiza ingane yakho ukuba ibe nozwela futhi ubone ukuthi lezi zigqibo ezimbi zilimaza abanye abantu. Nakuba abantu abaningi becabanga ukuthi ukuxolisa kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokulungisa, lokhu akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngezinye izikhathi isisulu sikhathazekile kakhulu ngenxa yokuxhashazwa ukuthi noma yikuphi ukuxhumana nomenzi wephutha kuyoba okungahambi kahle. Uma ufuna ukuthi ingane yakho ixolise, incwadi ebhalwe kahle ingase ibe usizo. Futhi ungakhuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi izitholele isikhathi sayo enhlanganweni yokulwa nokuxhashaza. Okunye okukhethwa kukho kubandakanya ukumdinga ukukhulisa imali ekusizeni ukuqwashisa ngokuhlukunyezwa, ukwenza ucwaningo ngokuxhashazwa kanye nemiphumela yaso noma ukukhonza njengomeluleki wezingane ezincane.
Sula Imithetho
Ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlukumezeka kwenzeka lapho abazali bevumile kakhulu noma bengenamthetho. Nika ingane yakho isethi yemihlahlandlela mayelana nakho konke okuvela emsebenzini wesikole nemisebenzi engaphandle yokuhlonipha, i- etiquette ye-digital kanye nesikhathi esichithwe ku-intanethi . Futhi qiniseka ukuthi uyazi ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma engalandeli imithetho. Isibonelo, uma i-cyberbullies nezinye izingane, izolahlekelwa amalungelo akhe ezobuchwepheshe. Noma, uma ehlasela izingane zakubo , uzobe esekelwe. Khona-ke, qiniseka ukuthi ulandela uma umthetho uphukile. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuvumelana kwakho kuzokwenza ushintsho ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho.
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Uma uthola ukuthi ingane yakho ixhaphaza abanye, ungavumeli ukushaqeka nokudumazeka ozizwayo kuyimpendulo yakho. Esikhundleni salokho, gxila kokuhlala uzolile futhi usebenzise isimo ukuze ufundise ingane yakho hhayi kuphela indlela yokwenza izinqumo ezingcono, kodwa nendlela yokuphatha abantu ngomusa. Khumbula, izingane zifunda futhi zikhula. Bheka lesi simo njengethuba lokusiza ingane yakho ikhule futhi ishintshe.