Kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuthatha "uma usuxhaphaza, njalo uxhaphaza." Kodwa ukunamathela umuntu ohlukunyezwayo nge-label "ye-bully" impilo yakhe yonke akusizi ukuvimbela ukuxhashazwa. Eqinisweni, ngokusebenza kanzima abanye abantu abaxhaphaza abanye bangakwenza futhi baguqule. Isihluthulelo ukubamba ukuxhashazwa kusenesikhathi futhi ukungenelela. Lokhu kungenelela kokuqala akubandakanyi nje ukuyala kuphela ukuxhaphaza ngenxa yokukhetha kwakhe okungalungile , kodwa futhi kumnikeza amakhono adinga ukusebenzisana nabanye ngezindlela ezinhle.
Nazi amakhono ayisikhombisa wonke umuntu owenza izidingo zokuxhaphaza ukuze aguqule okuhle.
Isibopho
Ukuxhashazwa kuyisinqumo. Akubangelwa yilokho okushiwo yisisulu noma esikwenzile. Futhi abantu abaxhaphaza abanye kudingeka bafunde ukuthatha ubunikazi kulezi zikhethelo. Kudingeka baqaphele ukuthi lokho abakwenzile kwakungalungile nokuthi kwenzeke kanjani ukuthi isisulu sizwe. Ukucindezela ukuthi akekho owenza "ukuba" benze lokho. Ngisho nasezimo ezihilela ukucindezela kontanga , ukuxhaphazwa kweqembu noma imijikelezo yokuhlukunyezwa, lo muntu ohlukumezayo unesibopho sokukhetha kwakhe. Ngenkathi kunezindlela eziningi ezahlukene zokuthola umhlukumezi ukuba athathe umthwalo wemfanelo, ukhiye wukuthi angasho ukuthi yini akwenzile okungalungile futhi azenzele izenzo zakhe ngobuqotho.
Uzwela
Enye yezindlela ezingcono zokubhekana nokuziphatha ngokuxhaphaza ukufaka ukuzibandakanya kokufunda komphakathi nezomzwelo ohlelweni lokuziphatha. Umgomo wukuthi izingane ezixhaphazayo ziyokhulisa ukuhlakanipha kwabo ngokomzwelo kule nqubo. Abantu abaningi abaxhaphaza abanye bazizwa banelungelo lokuziphatha ngendlela abazenza ngayo.
Ngenxa yalokho, bafundise ukubheka isimo ngendlela ehlukile. Bacele ukuthi bakhulume nawe ngokuthi bazozizwa kanjani esimweni esifanayo. Ukuthuthukisa uzwela kuyobe kuhamba phambili ekuvimbeleni izigameko zokuhlukunyezwa ezizayo.
Ukuphathwa Kwentukuthelo
Intsha eningi ehlukumeza abanye ibhekene nokuphathwa kwentukuthelo futhi ngokuvamile iqhuma ngaphandle kokucabanga.
Ngenxa yalokho, kungase kuzuze ukufaka amathiphu wokuphatha intukuthelo ohlelweni lokuqondisa. Siza umuntu ohlanganyela ekuhlukumezeni afunde ukuqaphela ukuvutha kwentukuthelo futhi athuthukise izixazululo ezinempilo zokubhekana nalolu daba. Mkhumbuze ukuthi intukuthelo yimizwa evamile, kodwa ukuthi unendlela yokuzikhethela ukuthi uveza kanjani lowo mzwelo. Ukukhetha ukuveza intukuthelo yakhe ngezindlela ezilimazayo akuvumelekile. Kubalulekile ukuthi uyakuqonda lokho.
Ukulawula umfutho
Ngezinye izikhathi izihlukumezi azikwazi ukulawula ukucindezela. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi phakathi kwama-cyberbullies abathumelayo asho izinto ezintanjeni ngaphandle kokucabanga ngemiphumela nokuthi zingathinta kanjani abanye. Sebenzisa nomuntu ohlukumezayo ukuze uthole izindlela zokulawula izifiso zakhe futhi wenze izinqumo ezingcono nezinqumo ezingcono.
Ukuzethemba
Ezinye izingane ezibandakanya ukuxhaphazwa zibhekiswe kwabanye ngoba azizitholi. Ngenxa yalokho, baxosha abanye ngomzamo wokuzizwa beba ngcono ngawe. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kulabo abahlukunyezwayo. Bazizwa benqotshwa kangangokuthi baphendukela intukuthelo yabo nokukhungatheka kwabanye abantu. Ukuze ulwisane nezindaba zokuzethemba, sebenzisana nomuntu ohlukunyezwayo ukuze uthuthukise amandla akhe futhi uthuthukise ubuthakathaka bakhe. Thola ukuthi yiziphi izinto azidingayo ukuze asebenze njengamakhono omphakathi , ukuqinisa , ukubekezela nokuqina .
Lawa makghono akha isisekelo sokuzihlonipha ngcono.
Kuhlanganisiwe
Izikhathi eziningi izingane ezixhaphazayo ziyashukunyiswa isifiso esinamandla sokuthandwa. Ngakho-ke baxosha noma ubani ongasongela umgomo wabo. Yilapho ukuziphatha kwentombazane enhle kanye nezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwane kuvela. Uma umuntu ohlukumezayo abanye egxilile ngesimo nokuthandwa, mkhumbuze ngezingibe zokuthandwa; futhi usebenze naye ekuthuthukiseni ubungane obunamahloni . Izikhathi eziningi, ukuxhashazwa kubangelwa ukufuna ukuvumelanisa ne- clique noma umuzwa ophoqelelwe ukuhlukunyezwa . Khuluma ngalezi zinkinga ngokusiza u-bully ukuba athuthukise ubungane obuhle.
Hlonipha
Lokhu mhlawumbe kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuvimbela ukuxhashazwa . Uma othile ohlukumeza abanye eqala ukuqaphela ukuthi wonke umuntu ufanelwe ukuhlonishwa, akakwazi ukuhlanganyela ekuhlukunyezweni. Isihluthulelo ukumbonisa ukuthi angasebenzisa amandla akhe ngezindlela ezinhle, kunendlela engafanele. Isibonelo, uma umuntu ehlukumezeka ejwayele ukukhomba izingane ezibuthakathaka kuye, angaziphendulela lokho. Angakwazi ukusekela nokusiza labo bafundi ababuthaka kunokuba bahlukumeze. Lena indlela yokugcina yokubonisa inhlonipho.
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Khumbula ukuthi ekugcineni, ukuguqulwa kunqunywe ukugqugquzelwa komuntu ocindezelwe abanye abantu. Ukuxhashazwa kuyisinqumo. Futhi uma othile ohlukunyezwa abanye efuna ngempela ukuguqula, udinga ukhetho oluhlukile. Ngenkathi ungeke ukwazi ukwenza umuntu ushintshe, ungafundisa ukuziphatha okunempilo akudingayo ukuze enze ushintsho oluhlala njalo. Isihluthulelo kufanele sibe njalo futhi siqinise isimo sengqondo esifanele nesimilo esiphilayo esikudingayo ukuze sibhekane nezimo ngokuhlukile.