Izinyathelo okufanele zithathe uma uyala izihlukumezi esikoleni
Ukuba necebo elicacile endaweni yokuziphatha ngokuhlukumezeka nokusebenzisa izinyathelo zokulungisa, kuyisici esibalulekile sokuvimbela ukuxhaphazwa esikolweni . Ukwenza kanjalo, kusiza izikole ukuqinisekisa ukuthi azigcini nje ngemithetho ecacile mayelana nokuxhashazwa, kodwa bese ubeka njalo lezo zimiso njalo . Ekugcineni, lokhu kubangela izinhlelo eziningi zokuvimbela ukuxhaphazwa .
Ngokuvamile, izinqubo zokugwema eziphumelela kakhulu ziphothulwe ngokwemvelo. Ngamanye amazwi, njengoba ukuhlukumezeka kwanda ngokweqile ngakho kufanele isinyathelo sokujeziswa. Ngokuphambene, izinqubomgomo zokubekezela zero ngokuvamile azisebenzi. Isibonelo, uma ukumiswa kwesikole kuwumphumela kuphela woluhlobo oluthile lokuhlukunyezwa, abafundi kanye nothisha bangesaba ukuthi kunzima kakhulu futhi baqaphe ukubika izinhlobo ezincane zokuxhaphaza. Umphumela wukuthi ukuxhashazwa okwengeziwe kuzokwenzeka ngoba kubika izigameko ezimbalwa. Esikhundleni sokunciphisa ukuxhashazwa, izinqubomgomo zokubekezela zero ngokuvamile zithinta. Baye bavame ukushiya abafundi nabafundisi bezwa sengathi nje kuphela amacala ahlukumezekayo okuhlukumezekayo e-radar yesikole.
Okokugcina, izinhlelo zokuvimbela ukuxhashazwa zizophumelela, isiyalo kumele sibe njalo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi akekho umfundi okhululekile ukujeziswa ngokuhlukumezeka kubandakanya abafundi abanekhono, abadlali bezinkanyezi ngisho nabantwana abanabantwana abasebenza esikoleni.
Ngenxa yalokho, imiphumela yokuxhaphazwa kufanele iqaliswe ngaphandle kokubheka ukuthi ubani umfundi. Uma isikole sihluleka ukwenza lokhu, abafundi bazocabanga ukuthi akuwona wonke umfundi ophathwa ngokulinganayo nokuthi abafundi abathile bayakhululwa isenzo sokuqondiswa kwezigwegwe. Ngamanye amazwi, angaphezu komthetho. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, ukuxhashazwa esikoleni kuyanda.
Futhi akekho ofuna ukubona lokho kwenzeke. Uma ukhokhisiwe ngokuthuthukisa uhlelo lokuqondisa izidakamizwa esikoleni sakho, nansi iziqondiso eziyisishiyagalombili ezikoleni okufanele zilandele uma zisebenzisana nezihlukumezi.
Hlola zonke izikhalazo zokuxhashaza ngokushesha .
Uma lesi sikole sithola isikhalazo mayelana nokuxhashazwa, kubalulekile ukuthi uphenyo luqale ngokushesha. Lesi sinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile asibonisi nje ukuthi uyazi isimo, kodwa futhi ukuthi ukuxhashazwa akuvunyelwe futhi ngeke kubekezelelwe. Ibuye ibonise abafundi nabazali ukuthi uthatha ukuxhaphaza ngokweqile nokuthi ngeke kuqhutshwe ngaphansi komugqa noma kunganakiwe.
Khuluma ngokuxhashazwa ngokushesha .
Uma uthatha isinyathelo ngokushesha, ubonisa izisulu zokuxhashazwa, kanye nabanoma ngubani, ukuthi isikole sakho asibekezelelani ukuxhaphazwa. Ukwengeza, ikhuluma nabahlukunyezi , kanye nabangenakho ukuxhaphaza, ukuthi isikole siyothatha isinyathelo lapho ukuhlukunyezwa kwenzeka. Uma kunemiphumela yokuxhashazwa esikoleni, lokhu kusiza ukuvimbela ukuxhashazwa esikhathini esizayo. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, ukwehluleka ukwenza noma yiluphi uhlobo lwemiphumela yokukhetha okungalungile kusebenza kuphela ekugqugquzeleni abaxhashazayo ukuba bathathe izingozi ezinkulu futhi bahlose abafundi njalo.
Bhekisana nomuntu ohlukumezayo ngasese .
Uma uhlala phansi nomuntu ohlukumezayo, mazise ukuthi ngeke ubekezelele ukuziphatha kwakhe kokuxhaphaza, nokuthi uma ubona ukuthi kukhona lokhu okungeyona isenzakalo esizimele, kuzoba nemiphumela eyengeziwe kubandakanya ucingo kubazali bakhe nokuvakashela ihhovisi lekhanda.
Ukukhuluma nomuntu ohlukumezayo kungamenza aphinde aphonse isisulu. Noma, kungase kube uhlobo lokunakwa ayekufuna ngaso sonke isikhathi. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukugwema ukunakekelwa ngokweqile noma ukwandisa ukwethembeka phakathi kontanga yakhe.
Khumbuza umhlukumezi ukuthi ukuxhashazwa kuyisinqumo .
Iziqhwaga kudingeka ziqaphele ukuthi kungakhathaliseki isizathu sokuziphatha kwakhe kokuxhashazwa, ukuxhaphazwa kwaba yisinqumo asenzayo. Futhi nguye obangela izenzo zakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, kudingeka uqiniseke ukuthi umhlukumezi ungumnikazi wakhe futhi uyakwamukela umthwalo wemisebenzi yakhe. Ngezinye izikhathi izingane zenqaba ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo. Ungavumeli ukuthi lesi simo sengqondo sigxilile.
Bhekisela ku-bully ehhovisi lokuqondisa aze akwazi ukuxhumana ukuthi uyaqonda umthwalo wakhe. Iziqhwaga zingashintsha uma zinikezwa amakhono afanele.
Thuthukisa imiphumela enengqondo .
Uhlelo lokuqondiswa kwezigwegwe olwenzelwe umhlukumezi kufanele lunengqondo. Ngokwesibonelo, uma ukuhlukunyezwa kwenzeka ebhasini, lowo ohlukumezayo kufanele alahlekelwe amalungelo akhe okugibela ibhasi isikhathi esithile. Noma, uma lo mhlukumezi esebenzisa isimo sakhe eqenjini lebhola ukuze ahlukumeze abanye noma ahlukumeze abanye ngoba uyingxenye ye-clique, kufanele alahlekelwe leso simo isikhathi esithile. Ungase ukhethe ukummisa emdlalweni noma amabili noma ungamvumeli ukuba adle kwasemini nabangani ayezama ukumjabulisa. Uma umhlukumezi eqondisa abafundi ekamelweni lokungena ngemuva kwegym yokuzivocavoca ke ungavumeli umuntu ohlukumezayo ukuba asebenzise ikamelo lokungena. Kumdinga ukuba ashintshe izingubo zakhe endlini yokugezela ehhovisi. Khumbula ukuthi isimo ngasinye sokuhlukunyezwa sihlukile futhi ngenxa yalokho imiphumela iyohluka. Iphuzu ukukhombisa ukuthi ukuziphatha ngokweqile kunemiphumela futhi ngeke kubekezelelwe.
Qaphela ihhovisi lokuqondisa mayelana nokuxhashazwa .
Ngokuvamile, ihhovisi lokuqondisa liyoba nemibono nezinsiza ezingadluliselwa kubahlukunyezwa. Uma kunikezwa ikhono elihle elisethiwe, iningi labantu abahlukunyezwayo lingashintsha . Qinisekisa ukuhlinzeka ngamagama ezisulu kanye nabeluleki nabo bangafinyelela kubo. Kodwa akukaze kube nomqondo omuhle ukuba ne-bully kanye nesisulu emhlanganweni ndawonye. Ukubambisana akusebenzi phakathi kokuhlukunyezwa kanye nezisulu ngenxa yokungalingani kwamandla. Ukwengeza, izisulu zivame ukwesatshiswa ngokuhlala egumbini elifanayo ne-bully ukuthi libalula. Gwema ukunikeza abahlukunyezwa ngezimo lapho bengasebenzisa khona amandla abo abahlukunyeziwe.
Thintana nabazali baka-bully .
Nakuba ukushaya ucingo kubazali akuyona into elula, yiyona edinga ukukwenzeka. Chaza ukuthi ingane yabo ihlukumeza abanye abafundi futhi ibacele ukuthi ikusize ungenele. Buza abazali ukuthi batshele ingane yabo ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakhe akumukeleki nokuthi kusebenze imiphumela ekhaya. Ukugcizelela ukubaluleka kwenhlonipho esikoleni. Ngesikhathi abanye abazali beyokhathazeka ngokuziphatha kwengane yabo, abanye abazali bazophika ukuthi ingane yabo yenza okungalungile. Bangase babe nezizathu zokuzilandulela, bashiye icala noma bathole ukulwa. Yima umhlabathi wakho. Qiniseka ukuthi u-bully uthola imiphumela yokuzikhethela naphezu kokuphikisana nokusongela okuthola kubazali. Uma abazali bengasisekeli, uzoba nesikhathi esinzima ukuze u-bully ashintshe, kodwa usalokhu ufanele uhlale futhi ulandele uhlelo lwakho lwesenzo.
Qhubeka ukuqapha isimo .
Ngezinye izikhathi lapho ukuhlukunyezwa kubanjwa ekuqaleni, ngeke kwenzeke futhi. Kodwa ungacabangi ngokuzenzakalelayo lokhu kuyindaba. Esikhundleni salokho, qapha ukuziphatha komhlukumezi futhi uqhubeke nokuyala uma kunesidingo. Kungumqondo omuhle ukuhlola nesisulu futhi. Qinisekisa ukuthi ulungisa kahle futhi ululame. Ukwengeza, uma umhlukumezi enesimo sengqondo esibi noma engathwali umthwalo wokukhetha kwakhe, qhubeka ufuna umsebenzi kule ndawo.