Thola ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze noma ukusho esikhundleni sakho
Kunzima ukuthola amagama afanele lapho ingane yakho ixhashazwa. Eqinisweni, imizwelo yakho ingaba yinto eluhlaza kangangokuba uthi into yokuqala efika engqondweni. Kodwa, ngeshwa lokhu kungaba nemiphumela eyinhlekelele. Kunalokho, zama ukunciphisa bese ukhetha amagama akho ngokucophelela. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi impendulo yakho ibalulekile ekubuyiseleni kwentsha yakho.
Ngenxa yalokho, gwema ukugxeka noma ukunciphisa lokho okuhlukunyezwayo okuhlukunyezwayo .
Kunalokho, qinisekisa imizwa yakhe. Mtshele ukuthi uyaziqhenya ngaye ngokukhuluma nawe futhi ugcizelela ukuthi kwakudinga isibindi ukuhlanganyela okuthile okubuhlungu kakhulu. Khumbula, izingane ngokuvamile aziwabi abantu abadala ngokuxhashazwa . Ngakho ufuna ukumkhuthaza ukuba aqhubeke ekhuluma nawe.
Futhi, thatha isikhathi esiningi sokulalela futhi isikhathi esincane sokunikeza iseluleko. Futhi uma usho into ethile, gcina ugxila kumuntu ohlukumezayo , ozikhethela ukuxhaphaza nokuthi yini angayenza ukuze adlulisele ngaphesheya kwesigameko. Mkhumbuze ukuthi akekho ofanelwe ukuhlukunyezwa nokuthi akayedwa. Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi bagxila kulokho okwenzekile noma okukhulunywa ngakho ngesikhathi sesigameko. Kodwa lena akuyona indlela enhle futhi ibizwa ngokuthi isisulu-ukusola . Ungalokothi usole isisulu sokuxhashazwa okuthile okungawutholi. Futhi qiniseka ukuthi ugweme ukwenza okushiwo amahlanu akulandelayo kumuntu ohlukunyezwayo nentsha.
"Wenzeni ukukwenza?"
Uma ingane ifika kuwe mayelana nesigameko sokuhlukumeza, enye yezinto ezimbi kakhulu ongayenza ukusola isisulu.
Ukubuza lokho akwenzile ukukwenza kubonisa ukuthi ngandlela-thile unomthwalo wemfanelo yokhetho luka-bully. Khumbula, ukuxhashazwa akukona ngesici esisisulu, kodwa mayelana nokukhetha okwenziwa yi-bully. Qinisekisa ukuthi umthwalo wokuxhashazwa ufakwa emahlombe okuxhashaza hhayi kumuntu ohlukunyezwayo. Uma wenza umsolwa wokuthi kunendaba endabeni kunalokho okushiwo yisisulu, cela imibuzo evulekile kodwa ungacabangi ukuthi unesibopho saleso sigameko.
"Kungani ungazimeleli?"
Esikhundleni sokusola isisulu sokwenza okuthile okungalungile, msize afunde ukuthi angaphatha kanjani lesi sigameko sokuxhashaza . Ukuxhaswa komnikelo, kubika lesi sigameko futhi umsize uthole isisombululo sokuqeda ukuxhashazwa. Khumbula ukuhlukumezeka kuhilela ukungalingani kwamandla kanye nezisulu zingase zizizwe zingenasici. Ukulindela isisulu sokuxhashazwa ukuzivikela ngaphandle kokuqeqesha indlela yokuphendula ngeke kusebenze. Futhi khumbula ukuthi izimo zokuxhashaza ziyesabeka futhi ngisho nezisulu ezilungiselelwe kangcono zingabanjwa. Indlela ephumelela kakhulu ukusiza isisulu ukuba sinqobe noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka okubi kulokhu.
"Udinga ukuphoqa."
Izitatimende ezisho ukuthi kukhona okungalungile ngesisulu ukunciphisa izenzo ze-bully. Babuye bakhulume ukuthi isisulu asinaphutha noma "sizwela kakhulu" ngoba uyakhathazeka ngokukhetha okungalungile komunye umuntu. Nakuba kuhle ukugxilisa amakhono nokukhuthazela, ukulimazwa yizenzo zokuxhaphaza kuyisimo esivamile. Esikhundleni sokugxekwa isisulu, zama ukumkhuthaza. Mkhumbuze ukuthi kwakudinga isibindi ukubika ukuxhashazwa.
"Dlula kuyo."
Ukuxhashazwa akuyona into umuntu ayikhohlwayo. Ukuxhashazwa kunemiphumela ebalulekile futhi kungaba nomthelela ohlala njalo, ngisho nokuba umuntu omdala.
Ukulindela ingane ukuthi nje ukhohlwe ngalesi sigameko futhi "uyifinyelele" kuyinzuzo. Kunalokho, funa izindlela zokusiza isisulu. Ezinye izinketho zihlanganisa ukumsiza ukuba ahlakulele ubungane , afundise amakhono omphakathi kanye nokwakha ukuzethemba . Ngokufanayo, uma enenkinga yokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka noma ngisho nokuzibulala, qiniseka ukuthi uthintana nochwepheshe wezempilo ngokushesha. Ungalokothi unganaki imizwelo yengane yakho. Esikhundleni salokho, thola izitolo eziningi ezinempilo ukuze asebenze imizwa nemizwelo yakhe.
"Mhlawumbe kufanele ushintshe."
Uma ukhumbule into eyodwa ngokuhlukunyezwa, khumbula lokhu: Isisulu sokuhlukunyezwa akudingeki sishintshe, lowo ohlukunyezwayo uyakwenza.
Ukulindela isisulu ukuthi sihluke noma siphumelele ukuthi ubani onika amandla amandla okuxhaphaza. Iphinde ikhulume ukuthi lo mhlukumezi ngandlela-thile ulungile futhi kukhona okungalungile ngempela ngisisulu. Ngisho noma kukhona izinto ukuthi isisulu singenza ngokuhlukile ukugwema izihlukumezi zesikole , ungayeki ukukhuluma ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngaye. Izitatimende ezifana nalezi zizolimaza kuphela isisulu ngaphezulu. Kungcono ukwakha ukuzethemba kwakhe kunokuba usho ukuthi uyavumelana nodlamezi.
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Ukubhekana nesimo sokuxhashaza akulula neze. Kodwa akudingeki nokuba kube sekupheleni kwezwe. Qinisekisa ukuthi ulalela ingane yakho njalo lapho efuna ukukhuluma (noma ngabe izwa sengathi ukhuluma izinto ezifanayo kaningi). Ngesikhuthazo sakho nozwela, ingane yakho ingathola izindlela eziphilile zokubhekana nokuxhashazwa nokuqhubeka.