Uma ukuxhashazwa kwenzeka, abantu bavame ukubeka icala emahlombe wesisulu. Esikhathini esiningi, bakholelwa ngamanga ukuthi uma isisulu sokuhlukunyezwa ngandlela-thile sihlukile, ukuhlukunyezwa ngeke kwenzeke. Bangase babuze ngisho nesisulu: "Wenzeni ukukwenza?" Kodwa ukuxhaphazwa akuyona neze iphutha lesisulu. Akudingeki ukuthi bashintshe noma bahluke ngandlela-thile ukuze bagweme ukuxhashazwa.
Ukushintsha njalo kuyimfanelo yomxhashazi.
Futhi nakuba kuyiqiniso ukuthi kunezinto ezithile ezingasiza ekuvimbeleni ukuxhashazwa njengokuthuthukisa amakhono omphakathi nokwakha ukuzethemba , iqiniso liwukuthi noma ubani angaba yisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa. Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani izihlukumezi zikhomba ezinye , kodwa akekho kulezi zizathu ezona iphutha lesisulu. Umthwalo wokuxhaphaza uhlale ungowokuxhaphaza. Kodwa abantu abaningi basalokhu behlaselwa isisulu bese bethi ukuthi isisulu senze ukuxhashazwa ngandlela-thile.
Ukuze ugweme ukuhlukumeza isisulu ngesigameko sokuhlukumezeka, zijwayele ngezindlela eziyisithupha eziphezulu abantu ababeka ngazo izisulu ngokuhlukunyezwa. Qinisekisa ukuthi ugweme ukukholelwa lezi zindaba mayelana nezisulu.
Uyakufanelwe
Izikhathi eziningi, lapho abantu bezwa ukuthi othile uhlaselwe, banenkinga yokukhathazeka ngalokho okushiwo yisisulu, ikakhulukazi uma isisulu sinemikhuba yobuntu engalungile noma ecasulayo.
Naphezu kokuthi izisulu zizikhukhumeza, zingenangqondo, zingacabangeli noma zizigovu, akekho ofanelwe ukuhlukunyezwa. Le ngqondo ivumela kuphela ukuziphatha okuxhashazayo.
Kufanele Aguquke
Izikhathi eziningi abantu bazokhomba ukuthi yini engalungile ngesisulu kunokuba siqaphele ukuthi inkinga yangempela ikhona nokuxhaphaza nokukhetha kwakhe.
Ngokuvamile abantu bakuthola kulula ukutshela isisulu ukuthi kufanele ashintshe kanjani ukuze agweme ukuxhashazwa kunokuba abeke umthwalo kumuntu ohlukumezayo. Ngenkathi kukhona amakhono okuphila athile abalulekile abahlukunyeziwe bokuhlukunyezwa ukuze bafunde njengokuzimisela, ukubekezela , nokuqiniswa , ukungabi namakhono akusizathu sokuzilandulela ukuxhashazwa. Esikhundleni salokho, gxila ekufundiseni abaxhaphazayo ukuthi bangayithatha kanjani imithwalo yemisebenzi yabo .
Wenza Kungenjalo noma Wenza Kuye
Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi kuhle ukuba umuntu ohlukumezayo athole "ukunambitheka kwemithi yakhe." Kodwa lolu hlobo lwesimo sengqondo lugcina umjikelezo wokuxhashazwa uhamba. Isibonelo, izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa zibanjwa kulo mjikelezo ononya. Bahlale behlukumezeka futhi kunokuba babhekane nesimo ngendlela enempilo, baxosha ngokuxhaphaza abanye. Kunalokho, kudingeka bafunde ukuphatha ukuxhaphazwa ngendlela enempilo. Kumele futhi babhekwe icala nganoma yikuphi ukukhetha abakwenzayo ukuxhaphaza abanye. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, badinga usizo lokuphulukiswa emiphumeleni yokuhlukunyezwa abaye bahlangabezana nakho. Kodwa iqiniso lokuthi baye bahlukunyezwa akumele balinganise ukukhetha kwabo ukuxhaphaza abanye. Ukuphindiselela akuyona into enhle.
Kufanele Akwaziwa Ngcono
Lesi simo sengqondo sifana nokucabanga ukuthi "uma engazange ahambe ngedwa, akukho okunye okwakungenzeka." Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi abantu kufanele babe nenkululeko yokuhamba emhlabeni ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuhlaselwa noma ukuxhashazwa .
Ukusola isisulu ngokuxhashazwa ngenkathi yedwa ekamelweni lokungena, indlu yokugezela noma ihholo elishiyekile, alibheki ukukhwabanisa okukhulu. Kuyiqiniso, kubalulekile ukugwema ukuxhaphaza izindawo ezivuthayo, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa komuntu ukukhomba umuntu.
Akazange Akulwe Njalo
Abantu abaningi bayomangalela isisulu sokuxhashazwa ngokomzimba ngenxa yobuhlungu nokuhlupheka okukhuthazayo ngoba akenzanga lutho lokuzivikela . Lolu hlobo lokucabanga luphinde lube nesizathu sokuziphatha komhlukumezi. Ngokufanayo, abantu bazophinde basole isisulu uma ezivikela, ekunciphiseni isigameko sokuhlukumezeka esikhundleni sokubheka lokho okuyiyona ngempela - ukuxhashazwa komunye umuntu kanye nalowo muntu ozivikelayo.
Uyakhathazeka kakhulu
Lesi sitatimende isitatimende esikhombisa ukulahlwa isisulu. Lapho abantu bebeka imibono enjengale, baxolisa ukuhlambalaza nokuhlukumeza ngo-bully ngokubonisa ukuthi kunesiphambeko esiswini. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu kuyinkulumo evamile yokuxhaphaza okusho ukuthi ukusabela komuntu oyisisulu akuyona into evamile noma yemvelo. Lokhu kungenzeka into engaba yinto engenzeka kakhulu umuntu angayisho ngomuntu ohlukunyezwayo ngoba inciphise lokho akuhlangenwe nakho.