Abafowethu nodadewethu balwa. Kuyinto eqinisweni yokuphila. Bashaya ngethelevishini kanye ne-jockey esihlalweni sangaphambili semoto. Bangavumelani ngisho nokuthi bangayidla kuphi isidlo sakusihlwa. Kodwa lapho izingane zingaboni ngaso linye, lokho kungukuhlukunyezwa. Akusekho ukuziphatha okuvamile kwezingane zakubo.
Eqinisweni, ubudlova phakathi kwezingane zakini ungenye yezinhlobo ezivame kakhulu zobudlova emndenini.
Kuvela izikhathi ezine kuya kwezihlanu njalo kaningi njengokuhlukumeza noma ukuhlukumeza ingane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, cishe isigamu sazo zonke izingane ziye zajeziswa, zikhishwa noma zilunywa yizingane zakubo. Futhi cishe amaphesenti angu-15 ahlaselwe ngokuphindaphindiwe. Kodwa ngisho nezigameko ezimbi kakhulu azibikiwe.
Ngokuvamile, imindeni ichithe ukuziphatha njengokudlala kwe-horseplay noma ukuxabana kwezingane zakubo. Noma kubi nakakhulu nokho, bayakukhathalela njengokungathi akukaze kwenzeke nakanjani. Kodwa uma ingane eyodwa imzwisa ubuhlungu noma ihlazisa omunye kungenakuze ilandelwe. Kufanele iqondiswe ngokushesha.
Imiphumela yeSibling Bullying
Ukuxhashazwa phakathi kwezingane zakubo kungalimaza izisulu ngendlela efanayo nalabo abahlukunyezwayo endaweni yokudlala. Eqinisweni, isifundo esisodwa sathola ukuthi ukuxhashazwa umzalwane noma udade kwakunjengokulimaza kontanga. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuxolisa kubaluleke nakakhulu. Ukuthi ukuxhashazwa kwabantwana kungabi nomthelela wokuzihlonipha kuphela kodwa futhi kuhlala nesisulu eminyakeni ezayo.
Uma izingane zihlukunyezwa, ziphazamisa indawo eyodwa ingane okufanele izizwe iphephile - ikhaya.
Ezinye izisulu zokuxhashazwa kwezingane zakini zibhekana nezinkinga zomzwelo ngesikhathi zisencane. Ngokwesibonelo, bangase bazizwe bengenathemba, bodwa futhi bodwa. Futhi bangase bakwazi ukulwa nokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka kanye nezinkinga zobunikazi.
Emva kwalokho empilweni, balwa nemisebenzi yabo kanye nobuhlobo babo konke ngenxa yokuhlazeka abaye babhekana nengane. Izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane zakubo nazo zingase zihlupheke ngokomzimba nakwezemfundo. Amamaki abo awagcini nje kuphela, kodwa futhi angase abhekane nekhanda, ama-stomachaches nezinye izikhalazo ezingokomzimba.
Ukukhomba Ukuxhashazwa Kwezingane
Enye yezindlela ezingcono zokukhomba ukuxhaphazwa kwabakwa-sibling ukwazi lezi zinto ezintathu zokuhlukunyezwa . Lokhu kufaka ukungalingani kwamandla, izenzo ezenzelwe, nokuziphatha okuphindaphindiwe. Ngamanye amazwi, lapho izingane zakini zihlanganyela njalo ekubizeni amagama, ukuhlazeka, ukwesatshiswa, ukuxhashazwa ngokomzimba nezinye izinhlobo zokuxhashazwa, lokhu kungukuhlukunyezwa kwabo. Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha aluvamile. Abantakwethu akufanele bahlukunyezwe ezinye izingane zabo.
Abanye abantu baphazamisa ukuxabana komntakwethu nodadewabo. Kodwa kukhona umehluko. Ukuncintisana kwabakwaSibong kukhuthaza ukuncintisana okunempilo. Kodwa uma ingane eyodwa ihlose ukulimaza noma ukuhlazisa omunye, lokho kungukuhlukunyezwa futhi kufanele kusetshenziswe. Ngamanye amazwi, ingane ehlukumezayo idinga ukuqondiswa futhi imingcele efanele kufanele isethwe.
Khumbula futhi, akusibo bonke ukuxhashazwa kwabantwana abakini okubandakanya ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba. Ngokuvamile izingane zakwethu zihlanganyela ekuhlukuneni okukhulumisana kanye nokubiza amagama , kokubili okungabangela ukulimaza ngokomzimba.
Ngezinye izikhathi abazali badlala indima ekuhlukunyezweni . Ngokwesibonelo, ukuvumela izingane ukuba ziqhubeke nokulwa ngaphandle kokungenelela kuyingozi kubo bobabili izingane. "Ukulwa nalo" akuyona into enhle. Izingane zidinga usizo lokufunda indlela yokuxazulula-ukuxazulula . Uma bengakaze bafundiswe ukuthi basebenze kanjani ndawonye futhi baxazulule izinkinga, bazosebenzisa izenzo ezingenampilo ukuze bathole lokho abakufunayo. Futhi kwezinye izimo, zingase zishayelane.
Abazali nabo banomthelela ekuhlukunyezweni uma bedlala izintandokazi noma bebeka izingane zabo ngokuthi "ohlakaniphile," "oyedwa wezemidlalo," "oyinkimbinkimbi" noma "othulile." Lawa malebuli aholela ekuncintisaneni okungenempilo phakathi kwabafowabo lokho kungathuthuka kube ukuhlukunyezwa.
Khumbula, ikhaya kufanele libe indawo ephephile lapho wonke umuntu ethandwa futhi aphathwa ngokulinganayo. Ngenkathi umona nesibambisene nezingane zakini zivamile, qiniseka ukuthi akupheli. Yenza ngokucophelela ngezingane ezixhashazayo. Beka imingcele futhi ungenele uma ukuphikisana kufaka phakathi amazwi angamahlazo noma ukushaya igama. Cela izingane zakho ukuba ziphathe izingane zabo ngehlonipho. Futhi hamba ngokushesha uma ukungavumelani kube ngokomzimba. Umgomo wukuthi wonke umuntu emndenini uzizwa ethandwa, enakekelwa futhi ephethwe ngenhlonipho.