Ukuthuthwa kwengane ekuthuthelweni akuyona into engavamile ngemuva kokuhlukanisa noma ukuhlukaniswa. Kodwa kukhona imithetho abazali okufanele bayikhumbule ngaphambi kokuhamba. Ngisho nalapho ubhekene nezikhathi ezinzima zezomnotho futhi uzizwa ungenalo olunye uhlobo, qiniseka ukuthi ulinganisa izinto ezilandelayo ngaphambi kokuba uhambise nezingane zakho:
Isizathu Sokuba Abazali Bacabangele Ukuthuthwa Kwamanye amazwe
Kwabazali abathile, ukuthuthela indawo kumelela okungacabangi.
Kodwa uma ukhathazekile ngoba i-ex yakho iphakamisa ukunyakaza, noma ngabe ulinganisa ukuthi ngabe yini okumele uyiphakamise, yibani engqondweni ukuthi kunezizathu ezizwakalayo zokuthi kungani ukuthutha kungaba kuhle kakhulu kwezingane zakho, isibonelo, ukuthuthela endaweni Kungaba yindlela efanelekayo yokucabangela uma:
- Ukunyakaza kuzokusondeza kumalungu omndeni asele
- Kungakuvumela ukuba ufune umsebenzi ongcono kanye / noma amathuba okuhlala
- Ukuvakashelwa njalo kuzokwenzeka
Intshisekelo Enhle Ngokwezinga Lomntwana
Khumbula ukuthi inhloso eyinhloko yenkantolo ngaso sonke isikhathi isekela izintshisekelo zomntwana. Futhi kaningi, lapho umzali wokulondeka noma umsizi oyinhloko nomzali ongeyena ongabambeli icala beya enkantolo mayelana nokuphikisana okuhlobene nokuthutha, izinkantolo ziyobusa ngokungaziphazamisi izimpilo zabantwana kunoma yini edingekayo. Eqinisweni, akuvamile ukuthi inkantolo icabange ngokuzenzekelayo ukuthi ukuthuthela indawo akuyona into enhle yengane.
Ngakho-ke, umzali ohlela ukuthuthela nengane kufanele aqinisekise ukuthi inkantolo ayiphutha, kanti umzali ongasamuki kufanele aqinisekise ukuthi ukuthutha akuyona into enhle yengane. Ezimweni ezinjalo, bobabili abazali kufanele balindele ukuba nomthwalo obunzima kakhulu wobufakazi enkantolo. Kodwa-ke, ngokuhlelwa nokulungiswa okufanele, izinhlangothi zombili zinethuba elihle lokuwina.
Ukucatshangelwa kweNkantolo
Amakhotho alindele ukuthi umzali othuthele ukwazisa umzali ongasamukeli mayelana nokuhamba esikhathini esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka-mhlawumbe uma umzali othuthela isinqumo sokuthutha. Izinkantolo azibukeli kahle kakhulu umzali othuthayo owazi ukuhamba futhi wakhetha ukungabonakali kumzali ohlangene kuze kube yilapho inkantolo izwa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, izinkantolo zizocubungula izici eziningana uma kunquma ukuthi uvumele umzali ukuba ahambise nengane. Lezo zinto zihlanganisa:
- Ubudala Nokukhula Kwengane - Ezinganeni ezindala, ijaji lingase lifune ukukhuluma nengane ukuhlola ukuthi ingane ingathanda yini ukuhlala noma ukuthutha noma ukuthutha umzali.
- Ukuhamba Phakathi Kokuqala Kwendlu Nekhaya Elidala - Inkantolo izovuma kakhulu ukuhamba okubandakanya ibanga elincane phakathi kwekhaya elidala nelisha.
- Ingabe Izothuthukisa Ikhwalithi Yokuphila? - Inkantolo ingacabangela ukuthi ngabe umntwana uzothola ithuba elifanayo lemfundo nokuzilibazisa endaweni entsha.
Uma umzali angathanda ukuthuthela nengane yakhe, umzali othutha kufanele abe necebo endaweni ngaphambi kosuku lwenkantolo. Isibonelo, kumacala okuthutha izingane, umzali ocela ukuthutha kulindeleke ukuthi azi ukuthi kungenzeka yini izikole nemisebenzi yengane endaweni entsha.
Ukwengeza, umzali kufanele acabangele izinhlelo zokuhamba ezivela ekhaya labo elisha endaweni elula yomzali ongasamukeli. Okokugcina, umzali othuthekayo angase afune ukucabangela ukuvumela ukuvakashelwa okuvakashelwa isikhathi eside nomzali ongenawo umfelandawonye, ukuze aqhubeke futhi mhlawumbe agxilise isibopho esiphakathi komntwana nomzali ongathutheli.
Ihlelwe nguJennifer Wolf.