Ukhungathekile ngokuzama ukufakazela ukuthi ungumzali ongcono emehlweni enkantolo? Ukuqonda izinga 'lomzali ongcono' nalokho izinkantolo ezikubheke ngempela kuzokusiza ukunqoba ingane enkantolo futhi ubeke ukucindezeleka kwesimo sakho samanje sesitokisi ngemuva kwakho.
Ukunakekela Izingane Zomuntu
Abazali abanethemba lokunakekela ingane kufanele baqale bajwayelene nemithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana emandleni abo futhi balungiselele ukuzibonakalisa enkantolo ukuba babe ngumzali ongcono.
Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi inhloso yenyunyana yenyunyana yinto enhle kakhulu yengane, okungenzeka noma ingabandakanyi isinqumo sokugcina kuphela.
Qonda izinga 'lomzali ongcono'
Abazali abaningi bangena esitokisini sokuzwa ingane ngenhloso yokufuna ukugcinwa kuphela. Abanye abazali, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi bakholelwa ukuthi omunye umzali "akafanelekile" ukukhulisa ingane yakhe. Abanye bangathanda ukugcinwa ezinye izizathu kuphela. Kodwa-ke, noma yimuphi umzali onethemba lokunakekelwa kwengane kufanele aqaphele ukuthi kukhona umthwalo ophezulu wokufakazela umzali ofuna ukugcinwa kuphela. Ukuze unikeze ukugcinwa kokuphela, izinkantolo kufanele zenze umzali oyedwa ' njengomzali ongcono ,' okungaba nzima ukukwenza, ikakhulukazi uma abazali bobabili behilelekile kuze kufike leli phuzu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi labahluleli banqika ukuvimbela noma umzali ukuba abe nobuhlobo nengane yabo ngoba okushiwo ukuthi abazali, ndawonye, bakwazi ukuzinakekela ingane.
Ngenxa yalokho, noma yimuphi umzali ofuna ukugcinwa kuphela kufanele abonise ukuthi uyakwazi ukunakekela ingane, noma ngaphandle kokusizwa komunye umzali.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kusukela ekuboneni kwejaji, abazali akufanele 'badibanisane' ngesikhathi bezwa ukugcinwa kwengane. Kunalokho, umzali ofuna ukugcinwa kuphela kufanele agxile ekuboniseni ukuthi ungumzali ongcono ngaphandle kokuhlasela umngane wakhe.
Ukufakazela ukuthi Ungumzali ongcono
Abazali abafuna ukugcinwa kuphela kufanele bagxile kulezi zici ezilandelayo ukusekela isikhalazo sokugcina:
- I-Physical Well-Being Yengane: Ngokwesibonelo, gxila esimisweni somntanakho, imikhuba yokulala, isimiso sokudla, nemisebenzi yangemva kwesikole. Abahluleli bavame ukubona abazali abakhuthaza impilo enempilo.
- I-Psychological Well-Being of the Child: Isibonelo, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ingane ikwazi ukuvakashelwa ngokukhululekile nomunye umzali. Abahluleli bathambekele ekuthandeni abazali abaxhasa obala ukuthi ubuhlobo obuqhubekayo nomunye umzali.
Cabangela Imfanelo Ehlangene
Ngesinye isikhathi akekho umzali ozogcina ingane igcinwe. Esikhundleni salokho, izinkantolo zihluleka ukunquma ukuthi noma ngubani omdala ungumzali ongcono futhi anqume ukubusa ngokuvumela ukugcinwa okuhlanganyelwe, okungaba yisigceme somthetho esivumelwaneni noma ukugcinwa ngokomzimba ngokuhlanganyela. Abazali kufanele baqaphele ukuthi isinqumo sokugcinwa ngokuhlanganyela akuyona ukulahlekelwa. Ezimweni eziningi, empeleni yiyona imeko evumelana kahle nezithakazelo zomntwana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukugcinwa kokubambisana kuvumela abazali bobabili ukuba babelane ngemithwalo elinganayo ekunakekeleni ingane futhi kusize ukwenza isibopho esifanele phakathi kwengane nabazali bobabili.
Vumelanani ohlelweni lokubeletha
Ezimweni lapho kungekho "umzali ongcono" futhi amakhotho alawula ukugcinwa, abazali kufanele basebenze ndawonye ukuze banqume isimiso somzali. Amazwe amaningi adinga ngempela uhlelo olubhaliwe lokubeletha, kodwa noma ngabe isimo sakho asikho, kungaba usizo ukufaka izinhloso zakho phansi ephepheni bese usebenza ndawonye ukuze uhlele isimiso esisebenzela wonke umuntu ohilelekile.
Ihlelwe nguJennifer Wolf