Uhlobo olulandelayo olufunwa kakhulu lokugcinwa kwengane phakathi kwabazali abacela izinkantolo ukuba bangenele futhi banqume ukulungiswa kwezingane zabo. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi ukuphela kwesimo kungcono kakhulu kwezingane zakho. Ngaphambi kokuthi ufake i-custody kuphela, qonda izinketho zakho bese ucabangela ukuhleleka nokuqapha kwaloluhlelo oluthile lwesitokisi.
Yini Enhle Yokwenyama?
Ukulondeka okungokwenyama kuyilungiselelo lapho izingane zihlala nomzali oyedwa - okuthiwa umzali oyinhloko wokulondoloza - isikhathi esingaphezu kuka-50% sesikhathi. Lokhu ngokuvamile kuvumela ukuthi izingane zihlale endaweni eyodwa yokuhlala noma 'isisekelo sasekhaya,' ngokumelene nokubuyela emuva naphakathi kwamakhaya amabili. Kodwa-ke, ezimweni ezinjalo, umzali ongabambeleli uvame ukunikezwa isikhathi sokuvakasha esivulekile. Inkulumo ethi "ukugcinwa kuphela" ivame ukusetshenziswa ngokungahambisani "nokugcinwa kuphela ngokomzimba."
Izibalo
Ngokusho kwe-US Census Bureau 1 , ingxenye eyodwa kwekota yazo zonke izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka engu-18 manje zihlala nomzali oyedwa, nakuba zingase zivakashe njalo nomunye umzali. Futhi ngenkathi izinkantolo zingasaboni ngokukhululekile ukunikeza omama ukugcinwa ngokomzimba kuphela, njengomthetho jikelele, izibalo ziphakamisa ukuthi okuncane kushintshile eminyakeni yamuva. Ngokususelwa kwizibalo zakamuva zokubalwa kwabantu, kuphela oyedwa kwabazali abathintekayo abayisithupha ngubaba.
Ezimweni eziningi, umzali ongabambeleli unikezwa amalungelo okuvakasha ovulekile, kufaka phakathi ukukhishwa kwe-sleepovers. Nakuba lokhu kubalulekile ekukhuliseni ubudlelwano obuqhubekayo nabantwana bobabili abazali, noma yiliphi umzali ongekho ngaphansi komunye umuntu ongakutshela ukuthi angakufaneli nokuhlala nezingane zakho.
Izinzuzo
Njenganoma yiliphi elinye ilungiselelo lokugcinwa kwesitokisi, ukugcinwa komzimba kuphela kunenzuzo nokuqeda.
Ezinye zezinzuzo eziyinhloko zifaka:
- Izingane zihlala endaweni eyodwa eyinhloko, ngakho-ke akudingeki ukuba uhambise impahla yabo emuva naphakathi kwezindawo ezimbili zokuhlala.
- Ezimweni eziningi, izingane zikwazi ukuqhubeka zihlala endaweni efanayo lapho zihlala ngaphambi kokuhlukanisa noma ukuhlukaniswa. Lokhu kunciphisa izinga lokuphazanyiswa abatholwa kulo futhi kungenza kube nomqondo wokuzinza.
- Lungiselelo lenza izingane ziqhubeke nezinhlelo zabo ezihleliwe. Isibonelo, kungase kungadingeki bashintshe izikole noma bathole abangane abasha.
- Ezimweni eziningi, umzali ongabambeleli unikwe ilungelo lokuvakashelwa ngokukhululekile, ngakho izingane zingakwazi ukujabulela ubuhlobo obuseduze nabazali bobabili.
I-Cons
Kukhona ukwehla kwamalungiselelo okugcina lolu hlelo, futhi. Ngaphambi kokuba ugcinwe kuphela, cabanga ngalokhu okulandelayo:
- Izingane azisekho nabazali bobabili. Ngisho nangokuvakashelwa okuphakade, lokhu kubonisa ukulahlekelwa okuphawulekayo kubantwana kanye nomzali ongabheki.
- Ngokuvamile, izingane kanye nomzali ongekho ngaphansi komunye nomunye bahlukana kakhulu.
- Ukusebenzisa loluhlelo kungase kube inqubo enzima.
- Kungabonakala sengathi umzali owanikezwa kuphela ukugcinwa ngokomzimba kwakucatshangwa yizinkantolo ukuba "umzali ongcono."
- Umzali ongabambeleli angase abe nomuzwa wokuthi "nje isivakashi" empilweni yabantwana.
- Ukuvakashelwa kungaba yisikhathi sokudlala, ukuphanga izingane ukuthi ngabe kungaba njani ukuhlala nomzali ongekho emthethweni, ukwabelana imisebenzi yansuku zonke nemithwalo yemfanelo.
Ukwenza Ukulungiswa Okuphumelelayo
Njengomzali wengane yakho, unganciphisa imiphumela emibi yelungiselelo lokugcina lokugcina ngokomzimba ngokunamathela ohlelweni lokuvakashelwa njalo futhi wenze konke ongakwenza ukuze ugcine ubuhlobo obuhle bokubeletha nomuntu wakho wangaphambili. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, nikeza izingane zakho imvume yokuveza imizwa yabo njengoba nonke nishintsha isimiso esisha somndeni wakho.