Abazali abanamalungiselelo okugcina abantwana abangasasebenzi kuwo kungase kudingeke bacele ukuguqulwa kwezingane ekugcineni. Ngemuva kwemizamo yokukhulumisana nomzali, kunezizathu eziningana ukuthi kungani omunye umzali angase afune ukushintsha isivumelwano samanje sokugcina ingane. Nansi ulwazi oluthe xaxa mayelana nezizathu zokuthi kungani umzali kufanele acabangele ukuguqulwa kwengane yengane:
Lapho Ukuguqulwa Kwempahla Yengane Kuzintshisekelo Ezinhle Zengane Yakho
Ngokuvamile, inkantolo ngeke icabange ukushintsha ilungiselelo lokugcinwa kwengane elibonakala lisebenza kuzo zonke izinhlangano ezibandakanyekile. Ngokuyinhloko, ukukhathazeka kwenkantolo kuyisithakazelo esingcono kakhulu kwengane, okusho ukuthi inkantolo ngeke ifune ukuphazamisa indlela yokuphila kwengane nenhlalakahle yezizathu ezifisayo. Inkantolo izohlola izizathu zokuthi kungani umzali angacabangela ukuguqula ilungiselelo lokugcinwa kwengane ngaphambi kokuyalela ushintsho kumyalelo wokugcina wesitokisi.
Lapho Ukholelwa Ingane Yakho Isengozini
Esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani inkantolo izocubungula ukuguqulwa kwengane yengane uma ingane isengozini esheshayo endlini yamanje. Ekuhloleni ingozi ingane, inkantolo izocabangela lezi zici ezilandelayo:
- Udlame lwasekhaya ekhaya lomzali
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingozi yengane isheshayo
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane ibonise ukungathandi ukuhlala ekhaya lomzali, lapho kungase kube khona ingozi
Ukulandela ukuthuthwa komzimba komzali
Inkantolo izocubungula ukulungiswa kwengane yengane uma omunye wabazali bomntwana ecabangela ukuthuthela endaweni ekude. Ngaphambi kokuguqula izingane, inkantolo izocabangela lokhu okulandelayo:
- Isisusa somzali othutha
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuthutha kwenza uhlelo lokuvakashelwa lungasebenzi noma lungenzeki
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali baxoxe ngendlela yokuvuselela isimiso sokuvakashelwa
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi impilo yengane izophazanyiswa yini (ngemuva kokufunda esikoleni noma ezemidlalo, ubungane, ukukhuliswa okungokwenkolo) ngokuguqulwa kwengane yengane
Uma i-Ex Ex Yakho Iphindaphindiwe Inqaba isimiso Esivunyelwe-Sokuvakashela
Uma omunye wabazali engabambisani nesimiso samanje sokuvakashelwa, inkantolo ingase ibheke ushintsho ekuhlelweni kokugcinwa kwengane. Inkantolo izocabangela lezi zici ezilandelayo ngaphambi kokuhlelwa ukuguqulwa kwengane lapho umzali engabambisani nesimiso sokuvakasha:
- Isivumelwano esenziwe ngabazali ohlelweni lokubeletha
- Izizathu lapho isimiso sokuvakasha samanje esingakaze silandelwe
- Ukuxhumana phakathi kwabazali
Ukulandela Ukufa Komzali
Uma umzali obulala ingane efa, kudingeka ukuguqulwa kwengane njengoba inkantolo izodinga ukucacisa ukuthi umzali ongekho yini ozobamba umthwalo wemfanelo wengane noma uma umuntu wesithathu ethatha ingane yengane. Ngokuvamile, inkantolo ingathanda ukuthi ingane ihlale nomzali ongabheki, ngoba izobangela ubunzima obuncane empilweni yengane. Kodwa-ke, inkantolo izocubungula amalungiselelo ahlukile, uma ingane ingakwazi ukuhlala nomzali ongekho ngaphansi kwesinye sezizathu ezilandelayo:
- Ibanga elivela ekhaya noma emndenini
- Ukuqashwa komzali okungabambisani nomuntu kungenza kube nzima ngaye ukuthatha umthwalo ophelele wengane
- Ingane iveza isifiso sokuhlala nomuntu wesithathu
Amathiphu engeziwe
Ngaphambi kokuqala ukugcinwa kwezingane ezintsha, abazali kufanele bazame ukuxhumana kuqala bese benza isivumelwano esamukelekayo. Ukwengeza, ngaphambi kokucubungula ingane egcinwe icala enkantolo, abazali bangase bazuze ekuhlanganyeleni noma ukuxazululwa, okuyinto enzima kakhulu futhi echitha isikhathi kunenqubo ejwayelekile.
Ukuze uthole ulwazi oluthe xaxa mayelana nokuguqulwa kwezingane ezisemthethweni, bhekisa emibhalweni ethile yokugcina ingane yakho noma ukhulume nommeli oqeqeshiwe esifundazweni sakho.
Ihlelwe nguJennifer Wolf.