Umzali ongabambeli umzali ungumzali ongenalo ukugcinwa kwezingane zakhe ngokomzimba. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi umzali ongenamkhawulo abe nesitatimende somthetho, nakuba engenalo ukugcinwa ngokomzimba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abazali abaningi abangenalo ukuphepha bajabulela amalungelo okuvakashelwa ngokukhululekile, bakhokhela abantwana, futhi bahileleka ekuziphatheni kwezingane zabo.
Amangakwane
- "Abazali abangenakuqeda ukuhlukunyezwa yizigebengu." Nakuba kwenzeka, akuyona into engavamile kumzali wokulondeka ukuxhaswa kwengane kumzali ongenamkhawulo. Ngakho-ke, kulabo abathintekayo ukusekela izingane futhi bakhethe ukungakhokhi (ngaleyo ndlela bazithola isihloko esithi "izigumbu") iningi lenzeke njengabazali abangenalo ukuvikela. Kodwa-ke, akusilo ngokuphelele ukusho ukuthi abazali abangenalo ukuvikela ngokuvamile ababulalayo abakhetha ukungakhokhisi ukusekelwa kwabantwana. Kukhona abazali abaningi abathintekayo, abanothando, abangenasidingo ngaphandle lapho abakhokha abantwana ngenkathi nyanga zonke.
- "Bonke abazali abangenalo ilungelo lokulondeka babababa." Ngokusho kwezibalo zomzali ongashadile zakamuva, abazali abaningi abangenalo ukuvikela bangamadoda. Kodwa-ke, izinkantolo ezengeziwe ziqaphela indima ebalulekile indima engashadile edlala empilweni yezingane zabo futhi izimisele kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili ukunikeza ukugcinwa okuhlanganyelwe kanye / noma ukugcinwa kwabazali kuphela.
- "Abazali abangenasidingo ababandakanyekile empilweni yabantwana babo." Lena enye indaba ekholelwa kakhulu. Abazali abaningi abangenalo ukuvikela abasebenzi basebenza kanzima kakhulu ukuba bahileleke ekuphileni kwezingane zabo kusukela ngesikhathi behlangene ndawonye.
- "Abazali abangabhekeli abazali abazali abangabodwa." Kuyiqiniso ukuthi abazali abahlukumezayo ngokuvamile babhekana nomsebenzi owenzayo ukukhulisa izingane zodwa, kuhlanganise nesidingo sokunikeza ukudla, indawo yokuhlala, izingubo zokugqoka, imfundo kanye nokwelapha. Kodwa-ke, lapho abazali abangenalo ukuphepha bengenazo izingane zabo noma ukuvakashelwa okude, bangamama nabomama abangashadile, basebenza kanzima ukuhlinzekela ukunakekelwa kwezingane zabo njengomzali ogcina ukugcina.
- "Abazali abangenacala ukuzidela bazinikela ngokuzithandela." Lena enye inkolelo ejwayelekile eyenziwa ngokuvamile engeyona yonke ibhodi. Yebo, abanye abazali abangenalo ilungelo lokuzikhandla bazinikela ngokuzithandela. Abanye bakhetha ukungabandakanyeki ekuphileni kwezingane zabo, kuyilapho abanye ngothando beyeka ukugcina umzimba ngenxa yokuthi babekholelwa ukuthi kwakungcono kakhulu kwengane yabo ukuba baphile kwelinye ikhaya, kunokuba bahambe emuva.
Amathiphu
- Hlala uhilelekile! Izingane zakho zidinga wena, futhi ngisho noma zingabonisi, zifuna wena nxazonke.
- Nika isikhathi. Usalokhu uthola ubunzima ebuhlotsheni bakho ne-ex yakho? Ukuphulukisa kuthatha isikhathi. Ngenxa yokuthi izinto zinzima njengamanje akusho ukuthi bazohlala bekhuni njalo.
- Dala isimiso sokuvakashelwa bese unamathela kuso. Bonisa ukuthembeka kwakho ngokunamathela ohlelweni ovumelene ngalo, ngisho noma ukwenza kanjalo kungase kube nzima noma kungathandeki.
- Hlalani nethemba. Ngisho noma ngabe unqatshiwe, ungakwazi ukukhalaza icala lakho noma ifayela futhi esikhathini esizayo.
- Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo. Ikakhulukazi uma usenqatshelwe isicelo senkantolo ngamacala, uzofuna ukuzungezile nabantu abathandayo futhi abazokulalela njengoba wabelana ngenhliziyo yakho nokudumazeka.