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Kuncike ekutheni ufike kanjani ekubambisaneni ngokomzimba wakho, ungase ungacabangi 'ngemali' yalolu hlelo lokugcina ingane okufanele lunikeze. Ngisho noma 'uphoqeleka' ukuba uhambisane nale fomu yokugcinwa kwengane uma kungenjalo ngokukhetha kwakho okuphezulu, lezi zingqinamba ezingalindelekile zingahle ziqiniseke. Nakuba lezi zinzuzo ezingezansi akufanele neze kube yisisekelo esiyinhloko sokukhetha ukugcinwa ngokomzimba, kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi unenkinga ekubhekaneni nohlangothi olukhanyayo lokuhlelwa kwenkantolo okuvunyelwe ngokuhlanganyela.
Izinzuzo Ezincane Okungaziwa Ngokwezifiso Ezihlangene
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Ukwabelana ngomthwalo wemfanelo wokuyala izingane zakho.Ukukhulumisana ngokuhlanganyela kusho ukuhlanganyela ngokujabulisayo, izinselele ... futhi, yebo, ngisho nesiyalo. Uma wabelana ngokugcinwa kwe-50/50, unethuba lokubambisana ne-ex yakho kanye nomunye nomunye ekudaleni imithetho yendlu nokuphoqelela imiphumela efanele. Indlela yeqembu ekuqondiseni ingaba usizo ikakhulukazi njengoba izingane zakho zikhula futhi zivivinye imingcele ngezindlela ezintsha. Ungabe ungene esicupheni sokuthembela ku-ubudala ubudala "Linda kuze ngitshele umama wakho" (noma ubaba) mantra. Iphuzu ukuqinisa igunya lakho lomzali, hhayi ukulikhubaza.
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Ukuhlela isikhathi sokubeletha nge-ex yakho kuzokuphoqa ukuba ube isimiso.Kuyavunywa, ungase ungafuni ukwabelana isikhathi sokubeletha nge-ex yakho. Kodwa uma izinkantolo zibeke ilungiselelo lokubambisana, uzodinga ukusebenza ndawonye ukuthola ukuthi isikhathi sakho sizohlukaniswa kanjani. Amashejuli okugcina othinteka ngokuhlanganyela ahlanganisa njalo ukushintsha izinsuku ezithile zesonto, kodwa kunezinketho eziningi ongakhetha kuzo. Zama ngamashejuli ahlukene ukuze ubone ukuthi yini esebenza kangcono ezinganeni zakho. Omunye ufikile esimisweni esinqunyiwe, sebenzisa iqiniso lokuthi ukwazi kusengaphambili ukuthi yiziphi izinsuku izingane ezizoba nazo kuzokuphoqa ukuba uhlele phambili, futhi. Ngokwesibonelo, uzokwazi ukuthi yiliphi ilonto leviki elihle ukuhlangabezana nomngani wekhofi noma uphume iziphuzo emva komsebenzi nabasebenzi osebenza nabo. Ngisho noma ukugcinwa okuhlanganyelwe akukhona okwakungakhetha, ungasisebenzisa ngokunenzuzo isimiso esisha esakhiwe ngokuzenzakalelayo somndeni wakho.
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Ukuhlanganyela okuhlangene kwenza kube lula ukuphola.Futhi, lokhu akusona isizathu sokukhetha ukugcinwa komzimba okuhlangene, kodwa ngokuqinisekile kuyi-perk. Uma wazi kahle ukuthi nini izingane zakho zizoba ne-ex wakho, khona-ke wazi lapho ukhululekile ukuba uthandane ngaphandle kokuthi uqashe umntanki noma ufike ekhaya ngesikhathi esithile. Kwabaningi bomama nabomama abangashadile bangene kabusha endaweni yokuphola, lokhu kusiza ukususa ukukhathazeka okunye kokusebenza okulukhuni kokuthandana nomzali oyedwa.
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Ukugcinwa okuhlanganyelwe kwandisa ithuba lokubelana ngemali ezintweni zansuku zonke.Nansi ukucabangela okuwusizo kakhulu. Uma wabelana ngokugcinwa ngokuhlanganyela, ngokwemvelo uphela ukuhlanganyela ukwabelana ngezindleko ezihlobene nokukhulisa izingane zakho. Kungani? Ngoba idinga ukuphakama ngokomzimba. Omunye uhlala ecela ibhodi yokuposa yeprojekthi yesikole, isheke lokumboza uhambo olulandelayo, ukudla okulula ukuletha umkhuba webhola ... futhi uhlu luqhubeka. Uma izingane zakho zinezikhathi zakho zangaphambili ezinsukwini zakhe ezinikeziwe, ungalindela ukuthi i-ex yakho ingase ithole lezo zindleko eziyingozi. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uhlele izingane zakho ukuba zimemezele ukuthi zidinga u-$ 400 isheke sokuhamba kwebanga lesishiyagalombili ngesikhathi sokuhamba ebusuku ngenkathi zine-ex yakho, ngoba izindleko ezinkulu kufanele zisabelane noma ziphathwe ngendlela efanayo ekusingatha ngayo ezinye izindleko ezihlobene nengane. Kodwa ngenxa yezinto ezincane, kunengqondo ukulindela ukuthi ngamunye uzophatha izindleko okwamanje, njengoba ephakama.
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Isikhathi esiningi sakho.Akukhona nje ukuthi uzoba nokuningi 'isikhathi' (okulukhuni ukuza njengomzali ongayedwa). Kungukuthi uzokwazi ukuyihlela. Kuyavunywa, kungenzeka ukuthi awuwuthandi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni, izimpelasonto ngokwakho kungakushiya uzizwe unesizungu. Kodwa uma usujwayele ukuhlela phambili ukuze uthole izinto ezingaphezulu, uzothola izinto eziningi ongayenza ... kusukela ekubanjeni ubuthongo, ukuchitha isikhathi nabangani nokukhahlela ukuqala isimiso sakho sokuzivocavoca. Futhi, kungase kungabi yilokho ongakhetha, kodwa isikhathi sakho singakwenzela umzali ongcono.
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Ukulahlekelwa izingane zakho kukusiza ukuba uwazise.Uma uhlangene 24/7, izinsuku ezingu-365 ngosuku, kungaba nzima ukubuyela emuva futhi uthole umbono. Ukuba kude nezingane zakho ukuze uhambisane nesilungiselelo sokubambisana esivumelwaneni kukuvumela ukuba ubone isithombe esikhulu, ukuthi izingane zakho zithuthukisa ngempela nokuthi isikhathi abasisebenzisayo nge-ex yakho sibahle kubo. Yiqiniso, angeke enze zonke izinqumo ngendlela oyifunayo, kodwa lokho kuvumela izingane zakho ukuba zibone ukuthi ngamunye wenu uletha amandla akhe ebuhlotsheni bakho ... okuvumela ukuba nabo bakuzwele phakathi nezinsuku lapho behlukana, futhi!
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Inkululeko yokugxila emsebenzini wakho (noma imfundo).Ukugcinwa kokuhlanganyela kungakunikeza isikhathi namandla okudingayo ukuze uthathe umsebenzi wakho ezingeni elilandelayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunikezela izinsuku ezithile zesonto ukusebenza isikhathi sekwephuzile ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokuthi ubani ozokuthatha izingane, noma ekugcineni ube nesikhathi sokuthatha isitifiketi sokufaka isitifiketi esingakwandisa amathuba akho okuthola imali, usebenzisa isikhathi sokubambisana esivumelwaneni kuwe inzuzo ingakhokha izinzuzo ezinkulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.