Kungenzeka ukuthi ubonile izithombe ezinhle zezingane ezigqoke i-rainbow wraps noma omama ngokuziqhenya babonisa ubugovu T-shirts, izingubo, nezinye izikhumbuzo, kepha abazange baqonde ngempela ukuthi bakhuluma ngani. Iyini ngempela " ingane yomsindo ?"
Yini i-Rainbow Baby?
I-rainbow iyinkulumo yomsana oye wazalwa ngemva kokuba umama ehlangene nokulahlekelwa kokukhulelwa.
Ukulahleka kokukhulelwa kungaba yisisu noma isisu (okuvame ukuchazwa njengengane esedlule emva kwamasonto angu-20). Ingane abazali aba nayo emva kokukhulelwa okulahlekile kuthiwa i-rainbow baby. Njengoba nje ukukhanya komvula kubonakala ngemva kobumnyama bezulu esibhakabhakeni, umntwana we-rainbow uyenzeka ngemuva kokubuhlungu kokulahlekelwa.
Noma yimuphi umntwana ozalwa emva kokulahlekelwa ungabhekwa njengomntwana we-rainbow, ngakho-ke imindeni ethile ingaba nezinsana eziningana zemvula uma zilahlekelwe ukulahleka okuhlukile.
Yini Ongayilindela Uma Ulindele I-Rainbow Baby
Uma ukhulelwe umntwana we-rainbow, cishe uzothola imizwelo eminingi ehlukene. Abesifazane abaningi bayoba nokwesaba nokukhathazeka ngesikhathi bekhulelwe emva kokulahlekelwa, futhi bakhathazeke ngokuthi bazoba nesinye isisu noma ukuthi okuthile kungalungile ngane.
Ukukhuluma nodokotela owazi umlando wakho nokucela izindawo ezithile zokuhlala, njengokusebenza ne-tech ultrasound oyobe ezwela ukwesaba kwakho, kungaba usizo.
Odokotela abaningi nezibhedlela kanye nezinhlelo zokuqeqesha manje benza imizamo eyengeziwe ukuze bazwele izidingo ezihlukile kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okwenziwe owesifazane ngokukhulelwa emva kokulahlekelwa futhi kukhona izindawo ezingahle zenziwe ukuze zikusize ngale ndlela ngendlela ewusizo kakhulu.
Abanye besifazane bangakhetha ukungabonakali ukukhulelwa kwabo ukuze bagweme izingxoxo ezinzima nabanye besifazane bangase bafune ukuvumela ukuthi umndeni wakhe nabangani bakhe bazi ngokushesha lapho ekhulelwe ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kulo lonke uhambo.
Wonke owesifazane uhlukile futhi lokho okutshela abanye mayelana nokukhulelwa kwakho kuphelele kuwe.
Kwezinye izimo, ukukhulelwa emva kokulahlekelwa kungabangela imizwelo eyinkimbinkimbi futhi ukhulume nodokotela oqeqeshiwe noma omunye umhlinzeki wezempilo yengqondo angakusiza ukuphatha ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka kulo lonke lolu hlelo. Kumele ukhulume ne-OB wakho ngomhlinzeki wokudluliselwa uma uthola ukubhekana nokukhuni noma ukulawula imizwelo yakho ngesikhathi ukhulelwe. Kunezinhlangano eziningi ezinhle, kokubili ku-intanethi nangomuntu, okuzinikezele ekusizeni abesifazane ukuba bahambe ngokukhulelwa emva kokulahlekelwa, njengokukhulelwa emva kokusekelwa kokulahlekelwa noma uDkt Jessica Zucker's website ethi "Nganginakho Ukuthutha".
Indlela Yokusekela Umngane Ulindele I-Rainbow Baby
Uma unomngane olindele umntwana we-rainbow, ungase uzibuze ukuthi ungamsekela kangcono kanjani ekukhulekeni kwakhe konke. Kunezindlela eziningi ongabonisa umngane wakho ukuthi uyamsekela futhi uyamkhathalela. Abanye besifazane bangase bakhathazeke ngokuthi uma bengakaze bahambisane nokulahlekelwa isisu noma ukulahlekelwa, ukuthi kufanele bagweme ukufinyelela kumuntu olindele umntwana we-rainbow, kodwa akunjalo.
Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi uzizwa ungahambi kahle noma ungakhululekile ukukhuluma nomngane wakho ngokukhulelwa kwakhe. Kunalokho, mbuze ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi yiziphi ezinye izindlela azizwa ezisekelwayo.
Ungathenga isipho esihlonipha ingane yakhe yokunene , njengesibopho se-rainbow noma i-rainbow baby themed card. Kungase futhi kucabange ngesipho sakhe ngesinye into esingamenza ngesikhathi ekhulelwe futhi amsize ekucindezelekeni, njengokusikhipha isisu noma ukuhamba nge-pedicure. Noma, thola umthwebuli wezithombe obhekene ne-photobow shoot photo amahlumela ngokumangala okhethekile ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane. Abathwebuli bezithombe ababhekene nokuhlangenwe nakho kwemindeni enezingane zokunene ngobuningi banamakhono okuhlonipha izinkumbulo zomndeni zokulahleka kwabo ngezindlela ezibalulekile kubo, ngenkathi begubha uthando nobumnandi bendwangu.
Kodwa-ke, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ungesabi ukuba khona ngenxa yomngane wakho - mvakashele, shayela noma umlobe, futhi menze azi ukuthi ucabanga ngaye.
Indlela Yokusekela Ozakwethu
Uma umlingani wakho engumuntu oye walahlekelwa ukulahlekelwa futhi manje ukhulelwe ngunane we-rainbow, kubalulekile ukugcina umzila ovulekile wokuxhumana phakathi nokukhulelwa kwakhe. Ungase ungabi nokukhulelwa ngokomzimba, kodwa ukulahlekelwa kwakusakho futhi kunempilo ukuxoxa ukuthi ukulahlekelwa kokukhulelwa kungenzeka kukuthinte kanjani-nokuthi uzizwa kanjani manje.
Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa ukhungathekile ukuthi awukwazi ukuthola okuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo nomlingani wakho, noma ekubhekaneni nokulahlekelwa noma imizwelo yokukhulelwa okulandelayo, kodwa wonke umbhangqwana uhlukile. Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukuveza imizwa yakho futhi ubuze ukuthi umlingani wakho angathanda ukuthi umsize kanjani uzizwe exhaswa futhi. Akukho "okulungile" noma indlela engalungile yokuthola ukukhulelwa komkhuhlane nomntwana, kodwa ngokukhuluma ngemizwa yakho futhi uhlole ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi bobabili unomuzwa wokusekelwa, kungaba okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kokubili.