Ukulahlekelwa ukugcinwa kwezingane zakho kuyinhlangano ehlabayo inhliziyo kunoma yimuphi umzali. Kunzima ukwamukela umqondo wokuthi inkantolo ikholelwa ukuthi izingane zakho zingcono nakomunye umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngu-ex yakho, abazali bakho, noma ohlelweni lokunakekela izingane. Kodwa ukulahlekelwa yisitoreji akudingeki ukuba kube unomphela; abantu abaningi baye baphumelela amalungelo abo okugcina.
Akulula, noma kunjalo. Uma lokhu kwenzeka kuwe, yazi ukuthi kunezinyathelo ongazithatha ukuze isinqumo sishintshwe futhi ugcine ukunakekelwa kwezingane zakho emuva.
Thatha i-Honest Bheka ukuthi yini eyalungile
AbaHluleli banesibopho sokuthatha isithakazelo esihle somntwana. Ngalokhu engqondweni, cabanga ukuthi kungani ijaji lenze isinqumo sokunikeza omunye umuntu imvume. Uphule umyalelo? Ingabe usolwa ngokungalungile ngokuhlukumeza izingane noma ukunganakwa? Ukuba nomqondo wokuthi kungani isinqumo senziwe kungakusiza ukuthi uthathe izinyathelo zokulungisa isimo.
Funa iseluleko sezomthetho
Ukuze uthole ukunakekelwa kwezingane zakho emuva, cishe kuzodingeka usebenze nommeli onokuhlangenwe nakho okuwina amacala afanayo omthetho womndeni. Ukuze uthole ummeli omuhle wokugcina ingane, qala ngokucela abangane nezihlobo ngokudluliselwa. Ungaphinde uthinte isahluko sakho sendawo se-American Bar Association noma i-Legal Aid Society ukuze uthole usizo.
Hlola noma yikuphi ukubhekana nakho
Thola ukuthi ukubuyiswa kokugcinwa kwesigceme kuncike kunoma yiziphi izenzo ezikhethekile. Isibonelo, udinga ukufuna ukululekwa, ukuphathwa kwezidakamizwa noma utshwala, noma ukuya emakilasini okubeletha? Uma inkantolo ishicilele noma yikuphi okusemandleni akho okubuyisela ukugcinwa, qhubeka futhi uthathe izinyathelo ekuqedeni lezo zidingo, kunokuba uphikisana nokusebenza kwazo.
Ukulandelana okusheshayo, ngokugcwele kuzokubonisa kahle phambi kwenkantolo.
Cela ukuhlolwa
Uma usuqale ukusebenza nommeli futhi usuqalile ukuqedela noma yiziphi izinyathelo enkantolo eziyidingayo, cela ijaji ngokuhlolwa kwezingane ezisendlini. Lokhu kuzohlinzeka izinkantolo ngokuhlolwa kwesikhashana kwekhaya lakho, okungakusiza ukuthi uphinde ugcine ukugcinwa.
Yenza Konke Inkantolo Ifuna Wena
Unganaki noma yini inkantolo ecela ukuba ukwenze. Yiba khona kuzo zonke izilaleli, bese uzama ukuphindaphinda izincomo ngesikhangiso somlondolozi wengane yakho noma umlamuleli odluliselwe enkantolo.
Yiba nesineke futhi uvumelanise
Ngesikhathi ulindele ukulungiswa kwengane yakho ukuba ihlolwe kabusha, qinisekisa ukuthi usebenzise ilungelo lakho eligcwele ukuvakashelwa nesikhathi sokubeletha. Ungenzi lutho ukuze uthuthukise isimo, futhi wenze konke okusemandleni ukuhlonipha nokuhlonipha lapho ukhetha izingane zakho ukuvakashelwa.
Cabanga ngenye indlela yokuhlelwa kwempahla
Ekugcineni, sebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukuhlola kabusha izifiso zakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi ufune ukugcinwa ngokugcwele ekuqaleni, kepha manje ukuthi ulahlekelwa isitoreji, zibuze ukuthi ngabe uzocabangela yini ukuvuma ukukwabiwa kwesigceme. Uma lokho kuyindlela ongayisebenzisa, sebenze ne-ex yakho (noma noma ubani ozokwabelana nabo) ukuhlola lokho kungenzeka.