Kuvame ukucatshangwa ukuthi abazali abalwela ukugcinwa kwengane bahlala bephikisana ngokugcinwa komzimba. Kodwa-ke, kukhona olunye uhlobo lokugcinwa kwengane abazali abadingayo ukuba bacabangele, futhi lokho kuyisibopho somthetho. Umzali onesibopho somthetho kuphela umuntu onamandla okusemthethweni ukwenza izinqumo ezinkulu egameni lomntanakhe. Lezi zinhlobo zezinqumo zihlanganisa imfundo, inkolo, kanye nokunakekelwa kwezempilo.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukugcinwa kwezomthetho kuhluke ngokugcinwa ngokomzimba. Ngamanye amazwi, kungenzeka-futhi evamile-kubazali-co-parents ukwabelana ngesitokisi somthetho kodwa hhayi ukwabelana ngokugcina ngokomzimba.
Izinzuzo
- Kulula ukwenza izinqumo ezinkulu uma kukhona umzali oyedwa kuphela obhekene ngokomthetho ngokuzikhethela.
- Lokhu kungenzeka, kwezinye izimo, kubangele ukuvumelana okukhulu kwengane.
- Imindeni lapho umzali oyedwa engekho ngokuphelele, kuyadingeka ngempela ukuthi umzali osele akwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezibucayi ngaphandle kokuba axoxe nomzali ozibophe yena ngokwakhe.
I-Cons
- Kungaba nzima ukuxhumana nomunye umzali ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo esikhulu, ikakhulu uma kuziwa esimisweni somntwana noma ukunakekelwa kwezempilo okuphuthumayo.
- Lapho kungezwani ukungavumelani ngezinqumo ezihlukahlukene, ngokuvamile akucaci ukuthi yikuphi umzali okumelwe abe yilokho okumele akhulume noma akwehlise ngokuvumelana nezinkolelo zakhe.
- Ngezinye izikhathi kungacacisi ukuthi yiziphi izinqumo zokubeletha ezibhekwa njengezinqumo "ezinkulu". Isibonelo, ingabe isinqumo sokufuna ukwelulekwa kwengane sidinga bobabili umzali ukuba bavumelane ngaphambi kwendlela yokwelapha?
Iseluleko Sabazali Abafuna Imithetho Esemthethweni Yomthetho
Abazali abafuna ukugcinwa kwezomthetho kuphela bangase bafise ukugwema ukuphazamiseka nokudideka okungafika nalolu lungiselelo.
Kodwa-ke, ngaphambi kokuba unqume ukuphishekela ukugcinwa kwecala kuphela enkantolo, cabangela lezi zinto ezilandelayo:
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali bobabili bafinyeleleka ekuthathweni kwezinqumo; uma bobabili bekhona ngokuvamile, kungase kungadingeki ukuba umzali oyedwa abe nesigceme somthetho kuphela.
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyasiza yini kokubili abazali ukuba bahlanganyele ekwenzeni izinqumo (isibonelo, ukwabelana ngokugcinwa kwelinye isikhathi ezindaweni ezingafani kungaba yinselele ngokungenazo izinkinga)
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukwabelana ngesitokisi somthetho kungukungathinteki okuzuzisa izingane kanye / noma icala lakho lokugcinwa kuphela ngokomzimba (uma lokho kuyisisusa sakho)
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona yini izingozi ezinganeni zakho ngokukwabelana ngokugcinwa komthetho okuhlangene (isibonelo, uma i-ex yakho ibonise ukuziphatha okubi kakhulu esikhathini esedlule okungenza kube nzima ukwenza izinqumo)
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umzali ufuna ukugcinwa kuphela kwezomthetho kuphela ukugwema ukuhlupheka kokubambisana nomunye umzali
Lapho Umthetho Wezomthetho Osebenzayo Usebenza Kakhulu Futhi Uma Ungenayo
Ngokuvamile, ukugcinwa kuphela kwezomthetho kulungile ezimweni lapho omunye umzali engatholakali khona ukubonisana ngezinqumo ezibalulekile ezihilela impilo yengane, imfundo, nokukhuliselwa kwezenkolo. Akubhekwa njengendlela engcono kakhulu uma umzali oyedwa efuna ukugcinwa esitokisini kuphela ukugwema ukubonisana nomunye.
Ngokuvamile, lapho umzali ekhuthazwa isifiso sokugwema ukungqubuzana noma ukuxhumana nomunye umzali, kodwa bobabili abazali bayatholakala futhi bafanelane ngokulinganayo, izinkantolo ziyonqaba isicelo sokugcinwa kuphela kwezomthetho futhi zidinga abazali ukuba bafunde ukusebenzisana ndawonye ngenxa yezingane.