Amasampula Amashejuli Okubambisana Okuhlanganyela

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50/50 Izinketho Zokwenyama Ezihambisana Nezifiso

"Sinesibopho sokubambisana." Abazali abahlukanisile nabahlukanisiwe baye baphonsa lawa mazwi ngokuzungezile iminyaka eminingi, kodwa ayikho isimiso esisodwa esisodwa segama noma incazelo yegama. A

I-Custody ingaba ngokomzimba, ngokomthetho noma kokubili. Lapho abazali behlanganyela ngokugcinwa komthetho, bobabili basho izinqumo ezinkulu mayelana nokuphila kwengane, njengemfundo, ukukhuliselwa kwezenkolo, nokunakekelwa kwezempilo. Lapho abazali behlala ndawonye, ​​izingane zabo zichitha isikhathi esilingana nesikhathi esiphila emakhaya abo, nakuba kungadingeki ukuba kube ukuhlukaniswa okulingana 50/50. A

Lezi zikhathi eziyisithupha zokugcinwa kokugcina zihlinzekela isikhathi esilingana ngaso sonke isikhathi izingane ezibazali bobabili abazali. Ungakwazi ukulungisa futhi ulungise amashejuli ukuze uhlangabezane nezidingo ezihlukile zomndeni wakho. Kubalulekile ukulungisa isimiso esisebenzela wonke umuntu futhi sithatha izinto eziningana, njengamashidi omsebenzi wombili abazali, izinhlelo zezikole zezingane zakho, imisebenzi yabo yangaphandle, futhi ngisho nokushayela izici uma uhlala ngaphezu kwamamayela angama-30 . Zonke lezi zinhlelo kufanele zikunikeze iphuzu elihle lokuqala.

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Inketho # 1: Amaviki ahlukile

Izingane zihlala endlini kamama ngesonto elilodwa, bese ushintshela indlu kayise ngesonto elilandelayo ngalolu hlelo. Imindeni eminingi ikhetha ukwenza ushintsho ngoLwesihlanu, kodwa ungakhetha noma yiliphi ilanga leviki lisebenza kahle kuwe.

Njengezinhlelo eziningi zokugcinwa komzimba, lokhu kudinga ukuthi izingane zakho zibe namakamelo okulala asebenzayo ngokuphelele nendawo yokuhlala kuyo yonke imizi yakho: Gcina izingubo zokugqoka ezihlukene, amathoyizi kanye ne-elekthronikhi eyintandokazi endaweni ngayinye ngangokunokwenzeka. Awufuni ukuthi izingane zakho zizizwe njenge-vagabonds, zihudula izinto ezizithandayo emuva naphakathi kwemakhaya akho ngesonto lonke.

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Inketho # 2: Ukuvakasha kweMidweek

Imindeni eminingi ingeza ukuvakasha kwamasonto ephakathi kwesikhashana esimisweni sabo sesonto lokushintshana, ngakho-ke abantwana bangalokothi bahambe ngesonto eligcwele bengaboni noma umzali. Isikhathi sesampula esiboniswe lapha sinokuhambela phakathi kwamasonto amabili okwenzeka ngoLwesibili, kodwa ungakhetha noma yikuphi usuku olusebenza kahle emndenini wakho.

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Inketho # 3: I-Midweek Night Night

Ngalesi simiso, izingane zihlala endaweni eyodwa ngesonto (ngokuvamile ngoLwesihlanu), kodwa zijabulela eyodwa phakathi nesonto ngobusuku nomunye umzali. Ukuvakashelwa phakathi kwamasonto amabili kwenzeka ngoLwesibili ekhalendeni eliboniswe lapha, kepha lokhu akuqoshiwe etsheni uma ngabe ubusuku obunye busebenza kangcono ngezinhlelo zezingane zakho kanye nezinhlelo zakho zomsebenzi noma izinhlelo zakho zokusebenza.

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Inketho # 4: Ukushintshaniswa kwe-2-2-3

Ngalesi simiso sokugcina, izingane zihlala noMzali A izinsuku ezimbili, bese kuba nomzali B ezinsukwini ezimbili, bese uchitha isonto elide lamasonto amathathu noMzali A. Ngeviki elilandelayo, izingane ezihlala njalo kanye nezingane zihlala noMzali B izinsuku ezimbili, khona-ke uMzali A izinsuku ezimbili, ngaphambi kokuchitha isonto elide lezinsuku ezintathu ne-Parent B. Lokhu kuvumela ukuthi abazali babe nezinye izimpelasonto ngezingane.

Ukuphazamiseka kungukucindezeleka okungase kubekwe kubantfwana bakho, ikakhulukazi uma intsha yabo noma wena kanye ne-ex yakho ingaphili eduze komunye nomunye. Ukuthuthela komunye umzali womndeni njalo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kungaphazamisa. Kungase kubonakale kubantwana bakho ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuhamba futhi ngokushesha nje lapho behlala khona. Futhi uzobe uchitha isikhathi esiningi emgwaqweni uma wena no-ex uhlala kude kakhulu.

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Option # 5: A 3-3-4-4 Ukujikeleza

Izingane zichitha izinsuku ezintathu no-Parent A, izinsuku ezintathu noMzali B, besezinsuku ezine noMzali A ngalolu hlelo, zilandelwa ezinye izinsuku ezine noMzali B. Inzuzo yukuthi izingane zihlale zihlala endaweni eyodwa ngeSonto kuze kube ngoLwesibili, futhi kwenye indawo yokuhlala ngoLwesithathu kuze kube ngoLwesihlanu. Usuku olulodwa olushintsha kusukela ngesonto ukuya kwesonto yiMigqibelo, unikeza usuku lwamaviki kumzali ngamunye. Ubude obude bendlu yomzali ngamunye kungase kube ukuphazamisa kancane izingane.

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Inketho # 6: Ukushintshaniswa kwe-2-2-5-5

Lesi simiso sifana nesimiso se-3-3-4-4, kodwa izingane zihlala noMzali A izinsuku ezimbili, bese kuba ngumzali B ezinsukwini ezimbili, kulandelwa izinsuku ezinhlanu ne-Parent A nezinsuku ezinhlanu noMzali B. Njenge-3 Ukujikeleza kwamalanga ama-3-4-4, le nqubo ivumela izingane ukuthi zichithe amaSonto noMsombuluko endaweni eyodwa yokuhlala, kanti ngoLwesibili nangoLwesithathu komunye. Izinsuku kuphela eziguqukayo kusukela ngesonto kuya kwesonto yiLwesine, uLwesihlanu, noMgqibelo.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlala isikhathi esingakanani ukhetha, khumbula ukunikeza wonke umuntu ngesikhathi somndeni wakho ukulungisa ngaphambi kokwenza izinguquko. Ukwenza uhlelo oluhlelekile ngokulibhala ohlelweni olusemthethweni lokubeletha lungasiza wonke umuntu ukuba anamathele esimisweni futhi akhumbule imininingwane yayo egciniwe futhi. Cabanga ngokuphinda ubuyekeze uhlelo ngalunye ngesinye isikhathi ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi luqhubeka luhlangabezana nazo zonke izidingo zakho. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, vumela izingane zakho izwi ekuhleleni nasekuxoxweni uma zikhulile ngokwanele.