Ukuqonda Ukuqedwa Kwemalungelo Omzali Nokusekelwa Kwezingane
Ukungena ngemvume kwamalungelo omzali akufanele kuthathwe kalula. Umzali ongabambeleli angase afune ukuqedwa kwamalungelo omzali ezimweni lapho umntwana wakhe engasenalo ubudlelwane nomzali ongekho emthethweni, noma lapho ingane ikholelwa ukuthi isengozini eseduze . Ezimweni ezinjalo, inkantolo izovame ukulalela ukuzwa. Kodwa-ke, abazali abafuna ukuqeda amalungelo omzali abanye abazali kufanele bazi ukuthi ngaphambili ezimweni lapho umzali ongabambeli ngokuzithandela avumelana ukuqeda ilungelo lakhe lomzali (ngamanye amazwi, ukusayina amalungelo omzali ngokuzithandela), izibopho zokusekela izingane ngokuvamile yeka.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi umzali ongekho ukuvikela ngeke asakwazi ukubhekana nezinkokhelo zokukhokhelwa kwengane ezingakhokhelwa noma ezizayo.
Ukucatshangelwa kweNkantolo ekuqedeni kwamacala omalungelo omzali
Abahluleli benkantolo yomndeni baqeda amalungelo omzali kakhulu. Ngokuvamile abacabangi ukuqeda ngaphandle uma bekholelwa ukwenza kanjalo bazokuzuzisa ingane. Lapho ebhekene nezicelo zokuqeda, izinkantolo zicabangela ngokucophelela lokhu okulandelayo:
- Imizamo yokuxhumana: Izinkantolo zivame ukucabangela imizamo yabadala abangenayo yokuvikela ukuba nobuhlobo nengane.
- Izinkokhelo zokusekelwa kwabantwana: Izinkantolo ziphinde zibheke ukuthi ukusekelwa kwengane kunikezwe yini esikhathini esidlule futhi / noma kunikezwa okwamanje.
- Izimfuno zengane: Izinkantolo zivame ukucatshangelwa izifiso zomntwana ezinganeni ezineminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalombili noma ngaphezulu.
- Okuthandekayo kwengane: Lokhu kubhekisela kulokho okubhekwa njengento engcono kakhulu enhlalakahle yomntwana, kuhlanganise nokunakekelwa kokuphepha kwakhe nezidingo eziyisisekelo, imfundo, nokuzinza.
- Ukulahlwa : Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umzali washiya umama ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa noma washiya ingane ngemuva kokuzalwa kwakhe.
- Ukuphepha: Amakhotho abuye ahlolisise ngokucophelela ukuthi ukuziphatha komzali okungelona ukuvikela esikhathini esidlule kwenze ingane ibe yingozi.
Ukulindela izinqumo zeNkantolo
Abazali ezinhlangothini zombili izicelo zokuqeda bavame ukuqonda, beqondakala, bekhathazeka ukubikezela noma bekulindele isinqumo senkantolo.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula, noma kunjalo, ukuthi izinkantolo zizogxila ezintweni ezithandekayo ezinganeni lapho kucatshangelwa ukuqedwa kwamalungelo abazali bomzali. Lokhu kuvame ukusho ukugcina ukulinganisela okuningi empilweni yengane ngangokunokwenzeka. Nokho, akunakwenzeka ukubikezela imiphumela kuzo zonke izimo.
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi izinkantolo ngokuvamile zikhetha ukungaqedi amalungelo omzali, ikakhulukazi uma zikholelwa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ubuhlobo obuhle phakathi komzali nengane, kanye / noma phakathi kwabazali bobabili bukhona. Ngale ndlela, izinkantolo zivame ukuba nethemba futhi zicatshangelwe ukuqedwa kwabazali njengendlela yokugcina yokugcina. Ngaphandle kokuba ingane isesimweni esicacile ngokucacile-noma umzali ongabambeleli ngokuzithandela ucela ukubhalisa ngamalungelo omzali, futhi omunye ulindele ukumamukela ngokushesha-izinkantolo ngokuvamile zikhetha ukugwema ukuqeda amalungelo omzali wegazi. Esikhundleni salokho, izinkantolo eziningi zizozama ukwamukela izidingo nezidingo zomzali, kuze kube nini esidingekayo. Kwezinye izimo, lokhu kusho ukunikeza ukuvakashelwa okuqondisiwe esikhundleni sokuqeda kanye / noma kudinga ukuba umzali ahlanganyele ochungechungeni lwezigaba zokubeletha.
Izwi lokuqapha kwabazali abafisa ukuqeda amalungelo abo omzali
Ukuqedwa kwamalungelo omzali nawo wonke amacala ahlobene akufanele kuthathwe kalula.
Ezimweni lapho izinkokhelo zokuxhaswa kwengane yindlela yokushayela umzali ongenelungelo lokunqamula amalungelo akhe omzali, kufanele azame ukushintsha ukukhokhelwa kwezingane ngaphambi kokucubungula ukukhululwa okuphelele kwamalungelo omzali wakhe.
Ihlelwe nguJennifer Wolf.