Ngokwemigomo yezomthetho, ukukhulunyelwa kwamagama okukhulunywa ngomzali kubhekisela kumzali ogcina ingane yakhe (noma izingane) isikhathi esiningi. Ngenxa yalokho, umzali wokulondeka unomthwalo wemfanelo wokukhulisa ingane, nakuba umzali ongeyena ongabamba iqhaza angabandakanyeka kakhulu noma abazali bavumelane ukusebenza ndawonye njengabazali-co-parent.
Ubani Obhekwa Njengomzali Okhohlisayo
Ngokuvamile, uma izingane zakho zihlala nawe isikhathi esiningi, cishe usuvele uzibona njengomzali wokulondoloza. Kodwa kuthiwani ngezinkantolo? Impendulo ingase ikumangaze: akubona bonke abazali abagcina izingane zabo kuphela ngokomzimba ababhekwa njengabazali abahlukunyezwa emehlweni enkantolo. Isibonelo, ezimweni lapho umama ongamzali ekhulisa ingane eyedwa, futhi ubaba ungaziphendulela ngokuzithandela, izinkantolo zingalindela ukuthi zifake ifayela lokugcina ingane ukuze libhekwe ngokomthetho njengomzali wokulondeka.
Lokhu kusho ukuthini kuwe? Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi ungumzali wokulondeka emehlweni omthetho, kufanele uhlole imithetho yokugcina ingane embusweni wakho futhi ufune iseluleko sommeli womthetho womndeni.
Izinzuzo
Enye yezinzuzo ezinkulu zokuba umzali wokulondeka ukuthi unomuntu owedlula isikhathi esisodwa nezingane zakho.
Ngisho noma uhlanganyela ngesimiso sokuvakasha esivulekile ngesikhatsi sakho sangaphambili, kungenzeka ukuthi uchitha isikhathi esiningi nezingane zakho kunalokho okwenzayo, ngenxa nje yokuthi ungumzali wokulondeka. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uthola ukubona izingane zakho njalo, uhlanganyele ngokujulile emisebenzini yabo yansuku zonke, ukusiza ngomsebenzi wesikole, ukukhulisa izithakazelo zabo, nokunikeza isiqondiso njengoba bebhekene nezinkinga zabo ezinkulu.
Iyini impumelelo? Ungase ucabange ukuthi kuyoba 'u-' omkhulu 'oholele indlela yakho, akunjalo? Ngeshwa, njengoba usuvele usazi (kahle kakhulu), ukuba ngumzali ongabodwa ongumzali kungumsebenzi onzima. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuba khona njalo futhi umthombo wothando olungenamthetho kusho futhi ukuhamba eceleni kwezingane zakho ngezinsuku zabo ezimbi kunazo zonke, uma 'ziphuma,' zikutshela ukuthi 'ziyakuzonda' ngokuphelele, futhi zivivinya yonke imingcele ozibekela yona. Kodwa ... nansi into. Bayakujabulela. Babona okwenzayo-konke ukudela-futhi noma kungathatha iminyaka ukuba bathi ngamazwi abo ukuthi kusho ukuthini kubo, bayithola.
Ukusekelwa kwabantwana
Esikhathini esiningi, umzali wokulondeka ufanelekile ukuthola ukwesekwa kwengane. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kuzoxhomekeka emibhalweni yokusekelwa kwengane kuhulumeni wakho, ukuthi umzali ngamunye uyayithola kangakanani, nokuthi ngabe ukhetha ukufaka isicelo sokusekelwa kwengane.
Indlela Yokuba Umzali Wokulondeka
Ukuze uthathwe ngokomthetho njengomzali wokulondeka, uzodinga ukufaka i-custody enkantolo yomndeni. Ummeli wesigcino wengane angakusiza ngenqubo futhi akusize ekuthuthukiseni isu lokunqoba ingane enkantolo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanye abazali baye baphumelela ukufaka isitifiketi ngokwabo, okuyinto eyaziwa ngokuthi i-pro se.