Inkulumo ebuyela emuva kuyinkinga ekhungathekile kodwa evamile engakwazi futhi efaneleke
Enye yezinkinga ezingcono kakhulu izingane ezibhekene nazo abazali kufanele babhekane nendlela yokubhekana nengane ekhuluma nabo. Inkulumo ebuyela emuva ingenzeka cishe noma yikuphi ubudala, kuqala kusukela cishe lapho izingane ziqala ukuqala ukuqala "Cha!" Ingxenye evamile yokuthuthukiswa kwengane.
Ukukhuluma emuva kungabuye kubangelwe izimbangela ezihlukahlukene. Kungadalwa yingane ezama ukulawula impilo yakhe njengalokho ayigqoke, edla, noma eyenzayo.
Kungaba indlela yengane yokuhlola imingcele yakhe. Noma kungase kube nje ukuhlukaniswa nokulamba noma ukhathele.
Lokho kusho ukuthi ukukhuluma emuva kuyinto abazali okufanele bathathe izinyathelo zokubhekana ngokuphumelelayo futhi ngokushesha. Njengabazali, kuwumsebenzi wethu ukufundisa izingane zethu ukuthi ziveza kanjani izifiso zabo nemibono ngendlela ehloniphayo neyakhayo.
Indlela Yokusingatha Izingane Abakhuluma Ngayo
Thola ukuzola; hlala uzolile. Indlela osabela ngayo ekubuyiseleni kwengane yakho ingabeka ithoni ekuxhumaneni kwakho. Izingane zingaba nezikhono kakhulu ekucindezeleni izinkinobho zabazali bazo . Kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuphendula umuntu oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala othi, "Awusiye umphathi wami!" ngokushesha, "Empeleni, nginguye!" Kodwa uma ubonisa ukuthi uzolile futhi ulawule, lokho kusetha isibonelo kumntanakho futhi umbonise ukuthi kufanele aziphatha kanjani.
Ungangeni empini yamazwi. Lapho abazali besabela enkulumweni yezingane izingane zabo ngokuziphendulela kwabo, basho ngokungaqondile ukuthi lena yindlela eyamukelekayo yokusingatha izingxabano.
Uma ungafuni ukuthi ingane yakho ifunde ukuthi lezo zindlela zokuhweba ziyindlela enhle yokuxoxa ngezinkinga, ungaphenduli kuze kube yilapho ungakhuluma ngendlela ezolile futhi elawulwayo. Ngamafuphi, uma ufuna ukuvimba ukukhuluma emuva kwengane yakho, ungadli isilwane sokukhuluma emuva.
Khumbuza ukuthi lena yingxenye yemvelo yentuthuko. Ukukhuluma emuva kuyinto yonke into engokwemvelo eyenza izingane zikhula njengoba zikhula zizimele futhi ziqinile.
Njengoba kuphazamiseka njengoba lokhu kuziphatha kungase kube, zikhumbuze ukuthi ingane yakho ayikhulumi ngoba wenze okuthile okungalungile noma ngoba ayikuhloniphi.
Gcina ithrekhi yesikhathi lapho inkulumo ebuyela emuva yenzeka. Ingabe ingane yakho iyathukuthela ngemva kwesikole noma ngemuva kwemisebenzi yangaphandle? Ingabe ijwayele ukubonisa ukuziphatha okungalungile njengokukhuluma emuva lapho engakaze alale ngokwanele ? Zama ukugcina amathebhu lapho ingane yakho ibuya khona ukuze uthathe izinyathelo zokushintsha noma ukuqeda lezo zimbangela.
Nikeza futhi ucele inhlonipho. Lapho ingane yakho iveza umbono wakhe ngento ethile, empeleni kuyinto enhle. (Eqinisweni, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izingane ezinengqondo nemibono yazo futhi ezingesabi ukuziveza zingekho engozini yokuhamba nabangane abangase bazame izidakamizwa nokuphuza utshwala.) Lokho kusho ukuthi kubalulekile ukuba abazali balinganise ukuqonda kanye nemfuneko yokuhlonipha. Ngenkathi izingane kufanele zikwazi ukuthi ziphephile ukuveza imibono yazo nokuthi lo mama nomama balalela lokho abakucabangayo nokuzizwa, kumele bazi ukuthi ukukhuluma nawe ngenhlonipho nangokuthula akukwazi ukuxoxisana. Qinisekisa ukuthi ugcizelele umlayezo wokuthi ngeke ulalele lokho okushoyo baze bakwazi ukukhuluma nawe ngendlela ezolile nehloniphayo .
Bonisa ingane yakho ukuthi ulalele. Uma kokubili wena nomntanakho nikhule, nikeza ukunakekela kwengane yakho ngokugcwele. Bonisa ingane yakho ukuthi lapho egcina ukukhulumisana nawe ngendlela ehloniphekile nezolile ukuveza lokho akufunayo noma ukucabanga - uyayitholela futhi uyakunaka. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uvumelane ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa uzofundisa ingane yakho ukuthi uyihlonipha umbono wayo.
Bheka ukuthi ingane yakho ikubona. Yimiphi imibukiso ye-TV ebukayo? Imikhombandlela eminingi namuhla ibonisa ukuthi izingane zikhuluma nabantu abadala futhi zivame ukubonisa ukuhlekisa nokuziphatha okuhle. Yize lokho kungase kube kuhle kumculi, akusilo neze uhlobo oluyisibonelo ofuna ingane yakho ukuba ivezwe kuyo.
Funa usizo. Uma ngabe ingane yakho ixoxa njalo, imizamo yakho yokunciphisa lokhu kuziphatha ayinayo impumelelo, futhi ubona ezinye izinto zokuziphatha ezifana nokuthukuthela, ukuphonsa intukuthelo, nokulahla ukulalela noma ukulandela izinkombandlela, khuluma nodokotela wezingane wengane yakho. Ingane yakho ingaba nenkinga yokuphikisa yokuphikisa, noma i-ODD, engaphathwa futhi iphindwe ngosizo olufanele.
Njengokukhungathekisa nokucasula njengoba inkulumo elandelayo ingase ibe, gcina engqondweni ukuthi impendulo yakho enhle izogcina lokhu kuhlolwa kuhlolwa. Yazi futhi ukuthi abanye abazali abaningi abanjengawe bahamba into efanayo. Okubaluleke kakhulu, zikhumbuze ukuthi ungumuntu ophansi futhi ungaphansi kokuzivumela ukuthi uthinteke yi-sassy emuva, lapho ingane yakho izofunda ukusebenzisa izindlela ezinhle zokuveza imibono yakhe.