Imithetho yokuthutha ingaba yinkinga kubazali abambisene nabo. Ngisho nomzali wokulondeka, ukuphuma kwombuso kungacasulwa uma ushintsho luzokhawulela isikhathi sezingane nomunye umzali. Nasi umbuzo ovamile kusuka kumzali oyedwa wokulondoloza mayelana nalokhu kukhishwa:
Umbuzo: "Ngingumzali omele izingane ezintathu. Ngisanda kuthola umsebenzi ongangidinga ukuba ngiphume embusweni.
Ngisho noma lokhu kungasho ukuhambisa izingane zami kude noyise obesezibandakanya empilweni yabo, ngicabanga ukuthi isinqumo sami sokuphuma ngaphandle kwesifunda siyabathanda kakhulu. Okokuqala, kungaba ukunyuka okukhulu kweholo, futhi kungivumela ukuba ngibhalise izingane zami ezikoleni ezingcono. Kodwa ngifuna ukwazi ukuthi uma ufika esitokisini sokuthutha, ubaba angangivimbela ukuba ngingasuki. Ngidinga imvume yakhe? "
Ungakwazi Ukuhamba Ngaphandle Kokuvuma?
Uma kuziwa ekugcinweni kwengane, ukuhanjiswa kuyinkinga yokushisa. Lezi zinhlobo zemibuzo zibuzwa njalo ngabazali abagcina ukufuna ukufuduka nezingane zabo ukuze baphishekele ushintsho lomsebenzi, bebesondelene namalungu omndeni, noma bavele baqale ukuqala. Noma kunjalo, isinqumo sokuphuma ngaphandle kwesimo akufanele sithathwe kalula.
Okokuqala, thatha isikhathi sokuphinda ufunde ngokucophelela umyalelo wakho wokuhlukanisa, ukugcinwa kwabantwana ukulawula, kanye / noma uhlelo lokubeletha ukuze ubone ukuthi ngabe ukukhishwa kwesigwebo kuqondiswe ngqo.
Uma, isibonelo, amadokhumenti akho athi uma ngabe omunye umzali efisa ukuthutha, kumele anikeze isaziso sezinsuku ezingu 60, qiniseka ukuthi uyahambisana. Ukwehluleka ukugcina izinqumo zenkantolo ezikhona kungenzeka kube nomthelela omubi kwisicelo sakho samanje.
Okwesibili, kufanele ucabangele imithetho yokugcina ingane embusweni wakho.
Umbuso ngamunye unemithetho ehlukene yokuthutha, futhi ezinye izidingo zidinga imvume ebhaliwe evela kumzali ongabheki. Ngakho-ke, uzofuna ukwazi noma yiziphi izimiso ezithile ezisezweni lakho ezingathinta isinqumo sakho. Ukufuna iseluleko sommeli wezomthetho ofanelekayo womndeni kuzokusiza ukuthi uqonde ukuthi isinqumo somzali esinqunyiwe sokuthi siphume esivela sini.
Okwesithathu, uma i-ex yakho iphikisana nesicelo sakho sokuthutha esitokisini, kufanele futhi ulungele ukubhekana nokuhlolwa okuphelele kwesigceme. Ikakhulu, zilungele ukukhombisa:
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuthutha kuzoholela ekwenzeni impilo engcono kubantwana bakho
- Ukulinganisela kwakho okwamanje okwenza ilungelo lakhe lokuchitha isikhathi nezingane
- Uzimisele ukuvumela ukuvakashelwa isikhathi eside, okungavamile uma isicelo sakho sokuphuma kuhulumeni sigunyaziwe
- Uzosekela ngentshiseko izinguquko ezinjalo ohlelweni lokuvakashelwa
- Ulungele ukuthatha izindleko zokuhamba
- Ukuthutha kwakho akuyona umzamo wokuvimbela ukufinyelela kwe-ex yakho kubantwana bakho
Cabangela Impendulo Ezinganeni
Cabanga ngokucophelela umthelela lokhu okushiwo ngaphandle kwezwe kuzoba nezingane zakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi izinzuzo zokukhokha okukhudlwana, noma ukusondelana kwamalungu omndeni osondelene, aziqhathanisi izinzuzo izingane zakho ezikujabulelayo njengamanje ngenxa yobuhlobo obuqhubekayo, obuqhubekayo, obunomuntu noyise.
Akunakwenzeka ukunciphisa lobo buhlobo ukwandisa amakholi wefoni nokuvakashelwa isikhathi eside sehlobo sasehlobo ngaphandle kwemiphumela, okuyiqiniso ukuthi izovela ekuziphatheni kwezingane zakho nangesimo sengqondo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume ngokukhululekile nezingane zakho, futhi nge-ex yakho, mayelana nanoma yisiphi isinqumo sokuphuma ngaphandle kombuso, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akukho nhlobo yokuhamba okukhishwa ngokushesha.
Imithombo:
USthl, uFilip Michael. Izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi ekuhloleni kwezingane zabantwana. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications, 1999.
"Kwenzekani uma umzali onogada efuna ukuthuthela kwelinye izwe?" I-American Bar Association. 1 Novemba 2008.