Izimpawu ze-Nest Syndrome engenalutho

Izimpawu Umzali KaMeyi Uhlangabezana Nabazali Ngemva Kokuphuma Izingane

Kubonakala sengathi nje izolo, ubambe ingane yakho ezandleni zakho esibhedlela futhi uthembisa ukuthi uyomnakekela futhi umthande kuze kube phakade. Manje, ingane yakho yokugcina ishiya isidleke , futhi awuqiniseki ukuthi ungenzani nawe.

Kungumzwelo ovamile-futhi kukhona igama elivamile kulo: isifo se-nest esingenalutho . Uma uzizwa ukhululekile futhi udabuke kakhulu ingane yakho iphuma ekhaya, kungenzeka ukuthi uhlangabezana nesifo se-nest esingenalutho. Nazi izibonakaliso eziyisihlanu ezivame kakhulu zesidumbu esingenalutho esingenalutho.

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Ukulahlekelwa Injongo

Izinsuku zakho zagcwaliswa ngomdlalo webhola lebhola, izifundo zepiyano, izingqungquthela zabazali-othisha, ukudlala ukudlala, imoto yokudoba kanye namaqembu okuzalwa. Manje, ngaphandle kwakho konke lokho okuphazamisayo, ungahle ungaqiniseki ukuthi ungenzani nawe.

Naphezu kwabangani bakho, umndeni, umsebenzi, neminye imisebenzi, izinsuku zakho zingase zizwe zingenalutho.

Lo mzwa ujwayelekile kubazali abanezingane zabo ezisanda kushiya isidleke. Uke wachazwa ngendima yakho njengomzali, kodwa lokho akusekho okugxile kukho.

Nokho, ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, ungabona ukuthi kuningi kangakanani ongayithola empilweni yakho, ikakhulukazi uma usebenzisa isikhathi esengeziwe oye wathola ukuthatha isimiso sokuzilibazisa esisha noma ukubhekana nenselele entsha.

Okwamanje, kuvamile ukuba uzizwe unesihlungu lapho uvumelana neqiniso lokuthi isahluko esisodwa sokuphila kwakho sesiphelile.

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Ukukhungatheka Ngokuntuleka Kokulawula

Sekuyiminyaka neminyaka, unenqwaba yokulawula ekuhleleni izimpilo zezingane zakho-kodwa asisekho. Ngeke ukwazi ukuthi yini ingane yakho okwenzayo.

Ukuntuleka kokulawula lapho ingane yakho ifunda ekilasini, ukuya emsebenzini, ukuqhubeka nosuku, noma ukuxhuma nabangani kungakhungathekisa. Ungase uzizwe uke ushiye ukushiya uma ungazi mayelana nesimiso somntwana wakho wosuku nosuku.

Gwema ukuba ngumzali we- helicopter futhi ungasebenzisi ukuhamba kwecala enyaneni yakho ukuze umqinisekise ukuba akwazi ukuhileleka ngokwengeziwe empilweni yakhe. Lokho kuzobuyela emuva kuphela ekugcineni. Kunalokho, gxila ekubhekaneni nokungazi kahle kwakho ngezindlela ezinempilo.

Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kungase kube lula. Uzojwayele ukujwayela ingane yakho ukuthi uphathe impilo yakhe futhi ungaqala ukuthuthukisa umqondo omusha wokujwayelekile empilweni yakho.

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Ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo

Uma uhlalisa izinyembezi ngenxa yokuthengiswa kwe-sappy noma ngenkathi ushayela emgwaqeni, ungaxoshwa ngokuphelele. Ukuphila kwakho kuyamangalisa ngokomzwelo njengamanje, futhi lapho kunjalo, izenzakalo noma abantu ozobe usuqedile ukuba yizinto ezinkulu kakhulu.

Ukuba nesterter elingenalutho kungabangela imizwelo ehlukahlukene. Mhlawumbe udabukile ukuthi ingane yakho ikhulile, uzithukuthele ngokuba ungasayi ekhaya kaningi, wesaba ukuthi usakhula, futhi ukhungathekile ukuthi awukho lapho ucabanga khona kulesi sigaba empilweni yakho.

Noma ngabe uzizwa ulungile. Ukuzama ukuphika ubuhlungu bakho noma ukucindezela ukudabuka kwakho ngeke kwenzeke. Vumela ukuthi uzizwe noma yikuphi ukuzwela okwenzelwe wena. Ukubhekana nomzwelo ongenakukhathazeka kungabasiza ukuba bahambe ngokushesha kunokuba baxoshe.

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Ukucindezeleka Komshado

Inqubo yokukhulisa ingane, imibhangqwana eminingi kangaka isetha ubuhlobo bayo eceleni futhi yenza umndeni uhambele izingane. Uma usuqedile iminyaka engakunaki umshado wakho, ungathola ubuhlobo bakho budinga umsebenzi othile uma izingane sezihambile.

Ngeke ukwazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngawe njengombhangqwana uma imisebenzi yakho ihlale iqhutshwa emidlalweni yebhola kanye nama-piano okuphindayo. Ukwazi omunye nomunye kungaba nomuzwa wokuthi kuyinselelo encane.

Eminye imibhangqwana ithola ukuthi isabela ngendlela ehlukile ekubeni yi-nesters engenalutho futhi. Uma omunye wenu elungisa kangcono noma ewazisa impilo ngaphandle kwezingane ekhaya kunokunye, ungase uthole ukuhlukunyezwa okuningi ebuhlotsheni.

Yenze kube umgomo wokuthola impilo efana nokubili. Bheka ngalesi sikhathi njengethuba lokuphinda uxhumane futhi uthole ukuthi yini eyakuholela ekuthandeni kuqala.

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Ukukhathazeka Ngezingane Zakho

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho ihambe ekolishi noma imane isuke endaweni yayo, kuvamile ukukhathazeka ngokuthi uhamba kanjani ngemuva kokushiya isidleke. Okungavamile, noma kunjalo, ukuzwa ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo ngokuthi ingane yakho ithola kanjani.

Ukuhlola ngezikhathi eziningi ngosuku noma amahora okutshala izimali ekuhloleni ama-akhawunti womphakathi wengane yakho ngeke kube usizo kuwe.

Lesi akusona isikhathi sokumemeza futhi simbuze ukuthi ukhumbula yini ukuthi uyamtshela noma uyamkhathaza ngokwenza umsebenzi wesikole. Lena yithuba lomntanakho lokusakaza amaphiko akhe futhi usebenzise wonke lawo amakhono owafundisa ngesikhathi ehlala ekhaya.

Linganisa isifiso sakho sokungena ngemvume ngesidingo somntwana wakho wobumfihlo . Dala uhlelo mayelana nokuthi uzohlala kanjani uxhumekile. Ungasetha ucingo lwamasonto onke, uxoxe kaningi ngombhalo noma nge-imeyli noma, uma ehlala eduze, ube nosuku lokudla ngeviki.

Izwi elivela ku-Verywell

Njengoba uneminyaka engu-18 noma ngaphezulu ngaphansi kwebhande lakho njengomzali onendlini enezingane, lokhu kungaba yisikhathi esesabekayo nesomzwelo empilweni yakho. Qinisekisa ukuthi, imizwa ohlangabezana nayo manje izophela lapho ukhula ujwayele indlu ekhuni futhi impilo igxile ezifisweni zakho.

Uma uzizwa sengathi impilo yakho ayinayo incazelo noma ucabanga ukuthi ukucindezeleka noma ukukhathazeka kungase kube kubi kunalokho okuvamile, cabanga ngokufuna usizo lochwepheshe.

Ukuzungezile nabantu abazi umuzwa-noma ngabe yiqembu elixhasayo noma abangani nje abahamba ngezinqubo ezifanayo-bangakusiza futhi ukuba uhlangabezane nalesi sikhathi esinzima.

Uyenzile umsebenzi wakho njengomzali, futhi sekuyisikhathi sokujabulela ukuphila njengomzali wezingane ezindala, nazo zonke inkululeko namathuba angakunika.

> Imithombo

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