Ukukhathazeka nokubeletha kungangena ngesandla. Kuvamile ukukhathazeka ngekusasa lomntanakho futhi ukhathazeke ngokuthi ingane yakho ilimale. Kodwa abanye abazali, balwela ukubhekana nokukhathazeka. Ngakho kunokuba babhekane nalesi simo esibuhlungu, baba yiziqhwaga. Ngeshwa, lokho kungabangela ukuthuthukiswa kwengane futhi kumvimbele ekutholeni amakhono adingekayo ukuba abe umuntu omdala onokwethenjelwa.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyingqayizivele yokukhathazeka, noma une-disorder disorder disorder, cabanga ngalezi zindlela ezinhlanu ongakhathazeka ngazo endleleni yokukhulisa ingane enomthwalo wemfanelo:
1. Wenza Konke Okuthandayo
Abazali abakhathazekile bavame ukubikezela ukuthi ingane yabo izophulukisa okuthile noma ukulahla okuthile. Esikhundleni sokumvumela ukuba athathe i-suitcase yakhe noma alayishe umshini wokulahla umfutho wedwa, umzali okhathazayo angase amenzele lokho.
Nakuba kungase kube lula ukwenza konke wena ngokwakho, izingane zifunda amakhono okuphila ngokwenza izinto ngokuzimela. Ngisho noma bazozihlaziya ngezinye izikhathi, amaphutha afunda ngayo. Yamukela ukuthi kuzoba nezikhathi lapho umntwana wakho eyophuza isiphuzo sakhe noma aphule amathoyizi akhe, kodwa wazi ukuthi konke okuyingxenye yenqubo yokufunda.
2. Ungenelela ngokushesha njengoba nje ingane yakho ilwa
Akekho ofuna ukubona ingane ihlupheka, kodwa kubazali, ukubheka ukukhathazeka kwengane kungabangela ukukhathazeka ngokukhethekile.
Ingane evuma kakhulu lapho ewenza umsebenzi wesikole, noma othi, "Angikwazi ukwenza lokhu," uma izithiyo zakhe ziwela phansi, kungenza umzali okhathazekayo angenele ngokushesha.
Izingane zidinga ukufunda indlela yokubhekana nemizwelo engakhululekile , njengokukhungatheka. Bakudinga futhi amathuba okuqhuba amakhono okuxazulula izinkinga ngokwawo.
Ukubasindisa ekubonisweni kokuqala komzabalazo kungavimbela ukuba bangazi ukuthi banganqoba kanjani izinselele.
3. Wena Micromanage Imisebenzi Yengane Yakho
Ukubuka ingane kwenza izinto ngendlela yakhe, futhi ngokwemibandela yakhe, kungabangela ukukhathazeka komzali othile. Banobunzima ukuvumela umntwana enze okuthile ngokuzimela ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi angeke 'akwenze kahle.' Ngomzamo wokugcina ukukhathazeka, abanye abazali bamele ingane, bephikelela ukuthi wenza izinto ngendlela efanele.
Umzali owenza izinto ezincane zemisebenzi yansuku zonke yenze ingane ibe yithembeke kakhulu. Izingane zidinga amathuba okubonisa ukuthi zingaziphatha ngendlela efanele futhi zibe nomzali ukuqapha konke abakwenzayo ezibavimbela ekufundeni ukuthi benzeni izinto ngokwabo.
4. Ngeke Uvumele Ingane Yenze Iminyaka Imisebenzi Efanelekayo
Ukuvumela ingane ukuba ihlale ekhaya yedwa noma iwele emgwaqweni okokuqala, ingaba nokukhathazeka-cishe kunoma yimuphi umzali. Kodwa kunokuba babhekane nokukhathazeka, abanye abazali banciphisa ukukhathazeka kwabo ngokungafuni ukuvumela ingane yabo ukuba iqhaza emisebenzini efanelekayo yobudala.
Ngezinye izikhathi izingane ziphoqa, zilimala futhi zithatha izingozi ezingafanele. Kodwa imiphumela yemvelo ingaba ngumfundisi omuhle. Izingane ngokuvamile zidinga isiqondiso esengeziwe, futhi imingcele embalwa, ngakho bangafunda ukwenza izinqumo eziphilile ngokwabo.
5. Ugcina Imithetho Eqinile Futhi Esheshayo
Ngezinye izikhathi abazali bazizwa bekhululekile uma benemithetho eqinile futhi esheshayo, ngisho nalapho kungekho isizathu sangempela kubo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ugcizelela ukudla kwasemini kumele unikezwe emini ephashaza, noma ungavumeli ingane yakho ukuba ihlale isikhathi sokulala esedlule, imithetho yokuphikisana ingase isebenze kuphela inhloso eyodwa - ugcine ukukhathazeka kwakho.
Nakuba kubalulekile ukuba nemithetho ecacile, ukuqina ngokweqile kanye nokuzibusa kungaba yingozi. Izingane zidinga ukuqonda ukuthi kukhona okuhlukile embusweni - njengokuthi kulungile ukuphazamisa uma indlu isemlilweni. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ukucabanga okubucayi nokuvumelana nezimo ngokubonisa ukuzimisela ukugoba imithetho ngezinye izikhathi.