Ukwandisa ukuziphatha kahle ngokusekelwe ezinganeni zakho
Wake wake waphawula ukuthi izingane ezimbili ezivela emndenini owodwa zingahluka kanjani? Ingane eyodwa ingaba ingane ejabule, elula efuna ukujabulisa ngenkathi enye ingase ibe yi-cranky, i-ignant, nokufuna ukunakekelwa.
Ngokusobala, umehluko wokuziphatha awuhlali njalo emvelweni. Ingane ngayinye izalwa ngekhono eliyingqayizivele. Futhi kubalulekile ukuhlela amasu akho okufundisa ezidingo zomuntu ngamunye.
Izici Ezenza Isimo Sezulu
Isimo sezulu sihluke kancane kubuntu. Ubuntu bomntwana buhlanganisa izinto ezifana nokuhlakanipha namakhono. Isimiso sisho izici ezisekuqaleni kuphela. Abacwaningi bathole ukuthambekela komntwana okwakhiwa ngezici ezingu-9 ezahlukene:
- Izinga lomsebenzi - Ingabe ingane yakho ivame ukusebenza kahle, isebenza ngokulinganisela noma ingasebenzi kahle uma kuqhathaniswa nezinye izingane ezingaphansi kwayo?
- Ukuhlala njalo - Ingabe ingane yakho ibonakala inesimo somvelo sokuba nesimiso? Ingabe ingane yakho ifuna ukudla nokulala ngezikhathi ezifanayo usuku ngalunye?
- Indlela noma Ukuhoxiswa - Ingabe ingane yakho ijabulela ukuzama izinto ezintsha nokuhlangana nabantu abasha? Noma ingabe uthanda ukugcina abanye futhi abuyele emuva lapho evezwa ngezimo ezintsha?
- Ukuguquguquka - Ingabe ingane yakho ishintsha kangakanani izinguquko? Ingabe ivumelanisa ngokushesha noma ifuthe uma isimiso sakhe sishintshwa?
- Ubuningi bokuziphendulela - Kungakanani ukuphendula okungokomzwelo akubonisayo lapho ehlangabezana nezimo ezihle nezimbi?
- Isigodlo sokuphendula - Ingabe ingane yakho isabela kanjani ekuvuseleleni okunjengezinto ezithandayo, imibala, iphunga, nemisindo?
- Ukungahambi kahle - Ingabe ingane yakho ingagxila emsebenzini noma ingabe iphazamiseka kalula ngomsindo noma umsebenzi oqhubeka naye?
- Ukunakwa nokubekezela - Ingabe ingane yakho ikwazi ukusebenza emsebenzini kuze kube yilapho igcwalisiwe noma ingabe ijwayele ukuyeka noma ukulahlekelwa inzalo ngaphambi kokuba iqede? Ubhekana kanjani nokuguqulwa kusuka komunye umsebenzi ukuya olandelayo?
- Ikhwalithi ye-Mood - Ngokwesilinganiso, ingabe ingane yakho ibonakala sengathi ihlezi kahle noma ingabe isimo sayo sengqondo siyashintsha njalo futhi sibonakala sincike kulokho okuqhubekayo okuzungezile?
Izigaba zesimiso
Ngokusekelwe kulezi zici, abacwaningi bakhulisa izigaba ezintathu eziyinhloko zezingane. Kodwa-ke, baphinde baphawula ukuthi mayelana nama-35% wezingane azivumelani nesigaba esisodwa kodwa kunalokho, kubonakala sengathi inhlanganisela.
- I-Easy or Flexible (40%) - Izingane ezibhekwa njengokuthi "zihamba kalula" zinemizwa enhle kakhulu futhi umbono omuhle empilweni. Ziyashintshashintsha kahle izinguquko esimisweni sabo futhi aziphazanyiswa nakho okusha. Izindlela zabo ezijwayelekile zibikezelwa kahle.
- Okusebenzayo noma Okunzima (10%) - Izingane ezisebenzayo noma ezinzima zivame ukubhekwa ngokuthi "ziyingozi". Abazithandi izinguquko esimweni sabo futhi bangesaba ukuhlangana nabantu abasha. Bavame ukuzwela kakhulu ukugqugquzela, njengokuzwakala okukhulu noma izinto ezithile. Baphinde babonise ukusabela okuphawulekayo ezintweni abangazithandi.
- Ukuphuza Ukufudumala (15%) - Ukuphuza kubantwana abashisayo abasebenza kancane, kungaba 'fussy' futhi besaba kakhulu abantu abasha nezimo. Bafudumala ngokubonakala kancane kancane ezintweni ezintsha emva kokunikezwa isikhathi esanele sokubona nokufunda ngaphambi kokuhlanganyela.
Ukuthola Ukufaneleka Ngokuhleleka
Kubalulekile ukufanisa ukuzithoba kwengane yakho kuhlelo lakho lokuqondisa. Isibonelo, indumiso ingase isebenze kakhulu nengane ephuza ukufudumala njengoba ingase isishukumisele ukuba azame imisebenzi emisha. Ingane ephuza ukufudumala nayo ingaphendula kahle ohlelweni lomvuzo olunikeza ukugqugquzela okunye nokukhuthaza.
Ingane ekhuthele noma enzima ingase isabele kangcono ukungazinaki , ukuphuma kwesikhathi , noma ukulahlekelwa ilungelo . Uhlelo lwezomnotho lwama-token lungase lube ithuluzi elihle lokuqondisa ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha okuhle ngenkathi kugcinwa ukunakekelwa kwengane enzima.
Izingane ezilula noma eziguquguqukayo zingase zenze kahle ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene zokuziphatha.
Inhlanganisela yemiphumela emihle kanye nemiphumela emihle ingaba amathuluzi okuphatha okuziphatha okusebenzayo.
Ngakho ngaphambi kokucabangela indlela yokuyala ingane yakho, cabanga ngezidingo zakhe eziyingqayizivele. Bese uzama ukufanisa ukungenelela kwakho ngesimo sakhe somusa.
> Imithombo:
> Mathewson K, Tang A, Fortier P, Miskovic V, Schmidt L. Ukungqubuzana komuntu ngamunye ngesimo: Incazelo, isilinganiso, nemiphumela. I-Module yesithenjwa ku-Neuroscience ne-Biobehavioral Psychology . September 2016.
> Prokasky A, Rudasill K, Molfese VJ, Putnam S, Gartstein M, Rothbart M. Ukukhomba Izinhlobo Zengane Zasebenzisa Ukuhlaziywa KwamaCluster ngezibonelo ezintathu. Journal of Research in Personality . Okthoba 2016.