Amazwi akho angashintsha kanjani ukuziphatha kwengane yakho.
Ukudumisa kuyindlela elula kodwa ephumelelayo yesiyalo esandisa ukuziphatha okuhle. Ukuveza ukuthi ingane yakho ilandela imithetho noma ukumtshela ukuthi uyayithokozisa yini ukuhambisana nayo kuyomkhuthaza ukuba aqhubeke nomsebenzi omuhle.
Ukunakekelwa Okuhle Nokungalungi
Cabanga ukuma egumbini elinabantwana abathathu. Izingane ezimbili zidlala ngokuthula ngamathoyizi.
Omunye umntwana ugijima nxazonke, eqa ngefenisha futhi ehlaselwa. Ngumuphi umntanakho ozokwazi ukunakwa? Uma ufana nabazali abaningi, ungase unikeze ukunakekelwa okungcono kwengane.
Kodwa-ke, uma udumisa abantwana abaziphatha, ungashintsha isimo sonke. Ukuthi, "Maye, ngithanda indlela ohlezi ngayo lapho udlala ngokuthula," kungase kushukumise ingane encane ukuba ilandele.
Kodwa kulula ukuvumela ukuziphatha okuhle kuhlale kungabonakali. Kodwa uma izingane zingakutholi ukunakwa, ngokuvamile zizokwenza noma yini edingekayo ukuze ziqaphele-futhi ngezinye izikhathi, lokho kusho ukungalungi. Uma unikeza ingane yakho ukunakekelwa okuhle ngokuziphatha okuhle, ngeke kube lula ukuthi enze okuthile.
Izintandokazi Zidumo Zingasiza Ngayo
Ukudumisa kungakhuthaza ukuziphatha okuhlukahlukene. Thatha ingane yakho ibe yinhle bese uyiveza.
Ukuqiniswa okuhle kuyokukhuthaza ukuba uqhubeke. Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa zokuziphatha ezingasabela ngokukhethekile ekudumiseni:
- Ukuziphatha okungokwemvelo - Dumisani ingane yakho ngokuhlanganyela, ukushintshana, ukusebenzisa amagama anomusa, nokusebenzelana kahle nabanye.
- Ukuthobela - Dumisa ingane yakho ngokulandela imithetho nokulalela imiyalelo yakho. Khumbula ukunaka lapho ingane yakho idlala ngokuthula noma izithokozisa yona.
- Umzamo - Uma ingane yakho ifunda ikhono elisha, udumo lungamkhuthaza ukuba aqhubeke ezama. Isibonelo, uma udumisa ingane yakho ngokuzimisela kwakhe ukuzama kanzima noma ikhono lakhe lokubekezela njengoba efunda, uzothuthukisa isisusa sakhe sokuqhubeka sizama.
Yenza indumiso iphumelele
Ukudumisa nokunakekelwa kahle kunempilo uma kunikezwa ngokufanele. Nazi ezinye izindlela zokwenza udumo lwakho luphumelele ikakhulu ekukhuthazeni ukuziphatha okuhle:
- Nikeza impendulo esheshayo futhi ejwayelekile. Nikeza ukudumisa njalo uma ingane yakho idlala ngokuthula isikhathi esithile noma uma isebenza kanzima kumsebenzi we-ntambama yonke.
- Yenza udumo oluqondile. Esikhundleni sokuthi "Umsebenzi omuhle," uthi, "Umsebenzi omuhle ukubeka ipuleti yakho emanzini lapho ngikucela ukuthi uyenze." Lokhu kwenza kucace ukuthi udumisa ukuthobela kwakhe ngokushesha.
- Hlela indumiso yakho ngokuhle. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Umsebenzi omuhle hhayi ukugcoba ," uthi, "Ngiziqhenya ngawe ngokuhlala uzolile lapho ngithi awukwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle." Khombisa ukuziphatha ofuna ukubona okuningi, hhayi ukuziphatha kwakho ithemba lokunciphisa. Ungalokothi uhlanganise udumo nokugxeka, noma uzolahlekelwa ukusebenza.
- Dumisa umzamo, hhayi umphumela. Ukudumisa kungakha ukuzethemba okunempilo uma uyisebenzisa ukuze ukhombise umzamo wengane yakho. Esikhundleni sokudumisa ingane yakho ngokuthola i-100, dumisa ukuzimisela kwakhe ukutadisha ukuhlolwa.
- Nikeza ukudumisa kwangempela. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Ungumntwana ohlakaniphile kunabo bonke," noma, "Ungumdlali webhola lebhola elihle kunazo zonke esikoleni," unikeze udumo olungokoqobo. Yisho izinto ezifana nokuthi, "Ungumgijimi omuhle," noma "Wena wenza umsebenzi omkhulu wokuthola umsebenzi wesikole owenziwe."
- Gwema amalebula. Amalebula, noma ngabe aphilile, akuwona umbono omuhle. Ukubhekisela kumntanakho ngokuthi "ingqondo yakho encane," noma "inkanyezi yebhola lezinyawo," kungabangela ingane yakho ukuthi icabange ukuthi yiyo yonke into eyaziwa ngayo. Gxilisa udumo lwakho ekuziphatheni kwakhe, hhayi ezimweni zakhe.
Ukwengeza Ukudumisa Kuhlelo Lakho Oluhle Lokuqondisa
Ungavimbela ukungalungi okuningi ngokubamba ingane yakho ibe yinhle. Kodwa, uma ingane yakho iphula imithetho, kubalulekile ukunikeza imiphumela emibi eyoyivimbela ukuba angaboni kahle esikhathini esizayo.
Uma ingane yakho ihlukunyezwa ngendaba ethile yokuziphatha, yenza uhlelo olucacile lokuthi ungasebenzisa kanjani udumo ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha okuhle.
Ngokwesibonelo, uma eshaya umfowabo lapho ethukuthele, faka amandla akho kumdumise ngokusebenzisa amagama anomusa, othinteka kahle, kanye namakhono okuxazulula izinkinga.
Imithombo
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