Ochwepheshe banikeza iseluleko sabo somzali esibaluleke kakhulu
Kunamawebhusayithi amaningi, amabhuku kanye nemikhiqizo enikeza imibono ehlukene mayelana nesiyalo esingase sizizwe sinzima kakhulu. Uma uzama ukuxazulula izinkinga zokuziphatha kwengane yakho, kubalulekile ukufuna ulwazi olunokwethenjelwa olusekelwe kumasu angcono kakhulu okubeletha.
Ukuze sikusize uthole izimpendulo mayelana nokuthi iziphi izindlela zokuqeqesha zisebenza kahle, ochwepheshe abazali abangu-10 banikeza amathiphu abo abalulekile kunazo zonke zomzali.
Nakhu abakufanele bathi:
Kulungile Ukuze Ingane Yakho Yenze Udumo Kuwe
"Yiba umzali, hhayi umngane. Lokhu kusho ukuthi awukwazi ukwesaba ukuba ngumuntu omubi. Ingane yakho ingase ikuthukuthelele ngezinye izikhathi. Yenza ngayo. Okunye okunye kunomntwana okhuni. Myehluleke ngezinye izikhathi. Uma ungenjalo, ulindele kanjani ukuba afunde ukuthi angabhekana kanjani nokubhekana nezinkinga zokuphila? Akekho ophumelelayo kukho konke. Ngezinye izikhathi, kufanele uhluleke ukuze uphumelele. "
- uLori Freson, Umshayeli Welayisensi Nomshayeli Wezomndeni
2. Phatha Ingane Yakho Ngenhlonipho
"Ungabizi ucingo noma ushaye: Izingane zifunda kuwe, zihlukumeza noma zishaya nje zibafundisa ukuthi zibhekane nokuphikisana nobudlova. Uma uzizwa uthukuthele kakhulu okwamanje, thatha isikhathi futhi uhambe, ubuye kamuva bese uhlela uhlelo lokuqondisa. Uma ulahlekelwa ukupholisa kwakho, chaza ukuthi wenze futhi wenze kucace ukuthi ufisa ukuthi awunayo. Izwi eliqinile futhi elithukuthele kodwa elilinganiselwe liphumelela kangcono kunokuba lizwakala ngaphandle kokulawula futhi livikele. "
- UDkt. Gail Saltz, isazi sezinqondo, i-Psychoanalyst, i-Commentator engcono kakhulu yoMlobi kanye neThelevishini
3. Buka isithombe esikhulu
"Uma ingane yakho ishaya eminyakeni eyishumi nambili, ungalahleki ngemininingwane ngokugxila kakhulu emisebenzini yansuku zonke nemikhuba yengane yakho. Ngalesi sikhathi, zikhumbuze kaningi ukuthi ingane yakho maduze izokwazi ukuphuma endlini futhi iyoba namandla okunquma ukuthi ixhunyiwe ngokomzwelo ufuna ukuhlala nawe impilo yakho yonke.
Uma ugxila ngokwengeziwe ekwakheni ubudlelwane obungokwenhlalo yentando yeningi phakathi neminyaka eyishumi nambili, lapho ingane yakho esanda kukhula iyakuthanda futhi ikuthande iminyaka ezayo. "
- USeth Meyers, isazi sezinqondo
4. Nikeza Iziqondiso Eziphumelelayo
"Uma kufanele utshele ingane yakho into efanayo ngokuphindaphindiwe ngaphambi kokuba iphendule, khona-ke uyabaqeqesha ukuba bakunaki."
-David Johnson, Umshayeli Wemishado Nelayisensi Yomndeni
5. Sebenzisa imiphumela yemvelo
"Basebenzisa imiphumela yemvelo uma kunokwenzeka." Abazali bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi kufanele bajezise izingane ngenxa yeziphambeko noma ukuziphatha okubi kunokuvumela ukuphila kwangempela kuthathe inkambo. Uma ingane yakho yenqaba ukugqoka ingubo yakhe, makabe ibanda. , vumela amathoyizi akhe alahleke. Kuzama ukwenza injini eminye imiphumela, njengokuthatha imidlalo yevidiyo noma isikhathi se-TV, ngoba asihlale sithemba ukuthi imiphumela yemvelo iyosebenza kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi banendlela yokuziphatha. "
- UHeidi Smith Luedtke, Ubuntu Bemiqondo Nezombhali Wengqondo "Yokukhululwa Kwamasosha: Izindlela Zama-33 Zokugcina Ipholile Lakho Lapho Izingane Ziqeda"
6. Inkinga-Sombulula Kanye
" Ukuxazulula inkinga yilokho okumele kuthathe indawo yesigwebo ukuze kuthuthukiswe ukuziphatha okuhloniphekile, okuhloniphekile kubantwana nakubantu abadala. Ukujeziswa kuyindlela ephoqelela ukuxhaphaza esetshenziselwa ukuba izingane zenze lokho esikufunayo.
Akenzi lutho ukuthuthukisa uhlamvu nozwela. Eqinisweni yilokho okuyingxenye yokudala izidakamizwa. Izingane azifundeli ngokwesaba namandla. Ukuziphatha kwabo okungamukeleki kuhloswe ukusitshela ukuthi banenkinga, hhayi inkinga. "
- Bonnie Harris, Umfundisi Wabazali kanye noMqondisi we-Connective Parenting
7. Sebenzisa isiyalo ukufundisa, hhayi ukujezisa
"Qondisisa incazelo yesigwebo sezwi, konke okuphathelene nokufundisa nokufundisa, hhayi ukujeziswa , izinsongo nokuqeqesha. Cabanga ngokwakho njengomfundisi futhi ubonise ingane yakho ukuthi uyabahlonipha ngokuchaza ukuthi kungani umkhawulo kufanele uhlelwe. kungenxa yabo siqu kanye nezinzuzo kubo.
Inhlonipho iyindlela yokubambisana kwengane yakho! "
- UTom Limbert, Umqeqeshi Wokukhulisa Umzali Nombhali we "Dad's Playbook: Ukuhlakanipha Kwabababa Abakhuphuli Abakhulu Kunabo Bonke Isikhathi"
8. Nikeza Indumiso Yokuziphatha Okuhle
"Kungase kubonakale kunzima ukukholelwa lapho unenkinga nezingane zakho, kodwa izingane zifuna ngempela ukujabulisa abazali bazo. Akukho lutho olwenza umntwana ajabule kunokuba aziqhenya lapho ethola indumiso evela kumama noma uyise. abazali banamandla kangangokuthi baqala ukukhula. "
-Dana Obleman, Umbhali we "Kids: Incwadi"
9. Yiba Ngokuvumelana Nesiyalo
"Yiba njalo. Isiyalo esingavumelani singakwazi ukuqinisa ukuziphatha okubi ngoba ingane yakho izoqhubeka izama ngamathemba ukuthi lesi sikhathi ngeke ingene enkingeni."
- uSusan Bartell, isazi sezinqondo kanye nomlobi we "Top 50 Imibuzo Yabazali"
10. Buka Ukuziphatha Okungalungile Njengesignali Ingane Yakho Inenkinga
"Inkinga yengane ikhona into ayidingayo futhi ayifunayo futhi angazi ukuthi enye ingayithola kanjani enye ngaphandle kokuhlukumezeka. Umzali uvame ukuba nenkinga ngokuziphatha kwengane. Ngeshwa umzali uvame ukuqala ngokuzama ukuxazulula inkinga yakhe futhi angalokothi uqala ukuxazulula inkinga yengane. "
- Nancy Buck, Developmental Psychologist noMdali Wezokuthula Parenting Inc.