UCarl Jung wasebenzisa igama elithi "individuation" kakhulu emsebenzini wakhe wokuthuthukiswa komuntu. Lapho ukhuluma ngokuthuthukiswa komuntu, umuntu ngamunye ukhuluma ngenqubo yokwakha ubuntu obuzinzile. Njengomuntu oyedwa, uzuza umqondo ocacile woqobo ohlukile kubazali bakhe nakwabanye abazungezile. I-egocentrism yengane engakhula ingase ivele ngenxa yenqubo yokuzikhethela.
Ubuntu buyenzeka kulo lonke impilo, kodwa yingxenye ebalulekile yenkathi ephakathi, ebusheni, nasebancane. Uma ukuvela komuntu kwenzeka, ama-tweens kanye nentsha bangase bafune ubumfihlo obuningi . Ngalesi sikhathi, abazali kufanele bajwayele umqondo wezingane zabo ezifuna ukuchitha isikhathi sodwa ezindlini zabo zokulala. Kungenzeka ukuthi abasakwazi ukuvuleka ngalokho okwenzeka phakathi nosuku lwesikole noma kubangane babo. Bangase babe nobuhlobo bomshado noma ama-crushes ukuthi bahlale bebodwa.
Ngaphezu kokufuna isikhathi esiningi kanye nobumfihlo, abantu abasha abaqhuba inqubo yokuzihlukanisa nabo bangabonakala bevukela abazali babo. Uma abazali babo bengamaKristu alinganiselayo, ingane ingase iqale ukuthuthukisa isithakazelo esiBuddhism noma isimemezele isithakazelo sayo ekukholelwa kuNkulunkulu. Ingane ingamlahla i-conservatism ukwamukela ezombangazwe ezikhululekile.
Izingane ngalesi sikhathi zingase zigqoke, isitayela sezinwele noma zilalele umculo abazali bazo abaphikisayo.
Abazali akufanele bathathe lezi zincumo zesitayela ngokwabo. Uma ingane yakho ikhanda ikhanda noma idonsa izinwele zayo ezibomvu, khumbula lokhu cishe isigaba, futhi uma kungenjalo, uzogcina ukhule ukujwayele kuso.
Ukuyeka ukuhamba
Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bavumele izingane ukuba zibe ngaphansi kwenqubo yokuzihlukanisa. Nakuba abazali bengase bafune ukuthi izingane ziphile ngendlela efanayo noma zamukela izindinganiso ezifanayo ezinayo, kufanele ziqaphele futhi zihloniphe iqiniso lokuthi izingane zabo zihlukile kubantu abanezindlela zabo zokuphila.
Phela, izingane ezingakhazi kahle impilo zingase zicindezeleke njengabantu abadala noma zibe nezinkinga ezikhona. Bangase bazibuze ukuthi kungani bakhetha umsebenzi abawenzayo noma oshade naye futhi bababuze ukuthi bekungadingeka yini bahole indlela ethile yokuphila. Ingabe benza lokhu kukhetha ngokucophelela noma bamane balalele lokho abanye (okungukuthi abazali babo) ababatshele ukuba bakwenze?
Uma unokholo emakhono akho okubeletha nokuthi unike ingane yakho isisekelo esihle sokuziphatha, khona-ke qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho izophuma kahle, noma ngabe impilo yabo ayifani neze.
Ukungenelela nini
Ama-tweens kanye nentsha ayaziwa ukuthi athatha izingozi njengoba ekhula yaba abantu abazimele. Yize kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bahloniphe umehluko phakathi kwezingane zabo kanye nabo, akusiyo ngempela umqondo omuhle ukunikeza ingane yakho inkululeko enkulu kakhulu ngalesi sikhathi. Uma ingane yakho ibonisa izibonakaliso zokuzama izidakamizwa noma utshwala, ungawuxhasi ube yi-individuation. Isikhathi sokungenelela.
Bazise ukuthi uhlonipha iqiniso lokuthi bakhula baba ngabantu abadala kodwa ukuthi ukungabi nabulungisa eminyakeni yobudala kunemiphumela yezwe yangempela engabathinta impilo yabo yonke. Beka imingcele yezingane, njengoba nje behamba ngenqubo yokuzikhethela.
Izingane zingathola ukuzizwa ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izidakamizwa, utshwala, ukuziphatha kabi noma ezinye izinto ezizibeka engozini.
> Umthombo:
I-Rathus, i-PhD, i-Spencer. I-Psychology: Imiqondo nokuxhumeka, i-Brief Version. Umagazini we-8. 2007. Belmont, CA: Thomson, Wadsworth.