Wake wake wazibuza ukuthi ingabe uhlangothi lwakho ucabanga ukuthi izwe lizungezile? Ngeke ube kude neqiniso.
I-egocentrism yezingane ezincane iyakholelwa ukuthi intsha iyakholelwa ekuziphatheni nasekubukeni kwayo. Yilokho, izingane ezincane ezithandayo zikholelwa ukuthi zonke amehlo zikhona kuzo zonke izikhathi. I-egocentrism enganezinsana iyimingcele evamile yokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo .
Ngamanye amazwi, intsha kanye nama-tweens asebekhulile angeke bakwazi ukuyeka ukuzikhandla kunabantwana abangakwazi ukulungisa ukungakwazi kwabo ukukhuluma. I-egocentrism enganezinyanga ezitholakalayo ivele ibonakale ineminyaka engu-11 noma engu-12 ubudala futhi igubha iminyaka engaba ngu-15 noma engu-16.
Ngenkathi kungaba nzima ukukhulisa ingane phakathi kwabo ocabanga ukuthi wonke amehlo ayenaye , abazali kumele babe nesineke futhi baqonde ukubona ingane yabo ngalesi sigaba sokuphila ngokusekela nokuqonda.
I-egocentrism enganezinsana ilawulwa yizinhlobo eziningi ezivamile zokuziphatha nokuziphatha kwentsha. Ngokwesibonelo, intsha ivame ukuchitha amahora ukuzivikela ngoba icabanga, "wonke umuntu uzobona uma ngingaboni kahle." Baphinde bathukuthele kakhulu lapho bezwa ukuhlazeka okuncane, njengokushiya i-tray yabo ekudleni, ngoba bacabanga ukuthi, "wonke umuntu uyakubona futhi uzoyikhumbula kuze kube phakade!"
I-egocentrism enganezinsana idala izinkolelo ezimbili ezihlobene nazo ezibonwa eminyakeni ehamba phambili kanye neminyaka eyishumi: " izilaleli ezicabangelayo " nethi " fable ".
Umqondo we-egocentrism osemusha wawuxoxwa okokuqala ngumbhali wengqondo uDaily Elkind.
Ingabe i-Egocentrism Inkinga?
Njengoba kuyasicasula njengokungathi ukufakaza, i-egocentrism yakho yangaphakathi ayiyona ingxenye evamile yentuthuko, kuyadingeka. Yebo, konke ukuziphatha okuzimele kungaba yinto enhle. Bonke abayishumi nambili kanye nentsha bavame ukuzwa ezinye ze-egocentrism ezisencane njengengxenye yentuthuko yabo yokuzicabangela.
Kanti, ukuzimela kungase kusekele ukuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu nokukhula. Ukucabanga ngokuzimela kungakhuthaza intsha ukuthi ihlukane nemindeni yawo futhi idale ubunikazi obuhlukile , inqubo ebizwa ngokuthi umuntu ngamunye. Lokhu kubalulekile ngoba ukuzibandakanya kungenye yemigomo eyinhloko - uma kungenjalo UMgomo oyinhloko - wobusha.
I-Rite of Passage
Njengoba ubona izintathu zakho ziqhubeka ziziphatha, ziqedile ngokwenza konke okuphathelene nazo, zichaza izintandokazi zazo ngaphandle kokubuzwa, futhi zivukela noma yini engafaneleki ezinhlelweni zazo, bheka ukuziphatha kwazo njengokudala uhlelo. Ayikho indawo yokungabi nalutho ukwakha isakhiwo. Uma ungumqambi, kufanele ucacise ngakho yonke imininingwane yesakhiwo. Ngoba ukukhula yisikhathi lapho i-tween yakho ihamba khona kusukela emqondweni kuya ekuhlakanipheni-ohlakaniphile, vumela ukuba basebenze ama-nuances ezinkambiso zabo ezingaphansi komphathi wakho ngaphandle kokucindezela okuningi. Ngenkathi kuphazamisa, konke kubalungiselela abantu abadala nokuthi bebhekene nezwe ngokwabo.
I-Elements ye-Egocentrism
Ukucabanga ngokuzimela kukhuthaza umuntu ngamunye ngezici ezimbili ze-egocentrism: inganekwane yomuntu kanye nezilaleli ezicabangelayo.
Inkolelo yomuntu siqu iyinkolelo yezingane zakudala ukuthi iyingqayizivele futhi iyingqayizivele. Kusiza umuntu ngokukhuthaza ingane ukuba izicabange njengento ehlukile esikhundleni selungu lomndeni. Izilaleli ezicabangela ukuthi ingane ikholelwe ukuthi oontanga bahlolisisa futhi bahlaziye konke okushiwo. Njengenganekwane yomuntu siqu, lokhu ukuziqhenya okukhulu kwenza ingane yakho igxilise kuye njengomuntu ohlukile, ozimele . Ibuye isize umuntu ngamunye ngokubheka ukuxhumana kwabantu okungabandakanyi umndeni - ngisho noma iningi lalezi "zokuxhumana" zingqondweni yengane!
I-Egocentrism ne-Beyond
Kungase kungabi mnandi ukuba nomntwana osemncane endlini yakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngubani ofuna ukuhlala naye eduze nomuntu ocabanga ukuthi uyamangalisa futhi ubuka? Kodwa qiniseka ukuthi ubuntu bomntanakho cishe buzoba ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lokho kusho ukuthi qaphela ukuthi inkinga yokuziphatha ingase ivele ekucabangeni okungokwemvelo - kuhlanganise nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa , ukuthatha ingozi, ukuphazamiseka kokudla, izinkinga zokuzihlonipha, nokubhujiswa - futhi ulungele ukungenelela uma kunesidingo, njalo ube ngumzali ingane yakho idinga wena ube.
Umthombo:
U-Elkind, u-Ph.D., uDavid. I-Egocentrism ku-Adolescence. Ukuthuthukiswa Kwabantwana. 1967. 38: 1025-1034.
UVartanian, Lesa Rae. Ukubukeza izilaleli ezicabangelayo nezakhiwo ezithembekile ezakhiwe nge-egocentrism yentsha: Ukubuyekezwa komqondo. Intsha. (2000). 35 (140): 639-661.