Yeka ukuthi kuvamile kangakanani ukuthola umshado oneminyaka engu-12 ubudala
Ngokuphathelene nokucabangela, ukuthandana okuphakathi kwamabhayisikobho kubonakala sengathi kufana nobuhlobo obusakhulayo nabasemdala ngezindlela eziningi. Ngenye, ubudlelwane obuphakathi kobuhlobo ngokuvamile abugcinwanga ngasese. Abaningi abaneminyaka engu-12 ubudala ababesithandana nabo bathi bathokoza abanye ngobuhlobo babo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi lalabo abathandana nabo bahlangana nabazali bomunye nomunye. Lokhu kungase kusabe ukuvumelanisa, kodwa kubalulekile ukudlala kanye nokunye okuhlukile ukuze ingane yakho izwe ukuthi uyayisekela.
Uma kukhona izici ezithile zomuntu abathandana naye ongazithandi, zigcine wena. Zama ukugxila ekutholeni ukuthi umfana noma intombazane uthatha kanjani uhlangothi lwakho lokuqala. Ingane yakho ngeke ivuleke ngalokhu uma udonsa ukuthi ubani othandana naye.
Amathrendi
Amanye amathandani angaphakathi ahlala emandleni. Ucwaningo olulodwa luthole ukuthi abangama-20% abaneminyaka engu-12 kuya kwengu-14 babe nobuhlobo obuhlala okungenani izinyanga ezingu-11. Njengoba kunikezwe ukuthi ukuphila kwabantu okusheshayo kushintsha kanjani, izinyanga ezingu-11 ngokuqinisekile kuyisikhathi esibalulekile. Nokho, lokho kusho ukuthi ubudlelwane phakathi kwe-tweens cishe bube ngaphezu kokubambisana. Amathanga athambekele ekukhethweni isoka noma intombi yabo ngokusebukeka komuntu, izingubo zakhe, kanye / noma isimo somphakathi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, intsha ingase igxile ezintweni zangaphakathi nezithakazelo ezivamile uma ukhetha umlingani, njengoba nje nabantu abadala bekwenza.
Izingane Ukuqomisana: Kungalindelekile kodwa Okujwayelekile
Kuzo zonke, uhlangothi lwakho aluyedwa ukuba nobuhlobo obunothando obuhlala njalo, obunothando.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izingane zithandana ziphilile noma zingenempilo, noma kunjalo, ziyaqhubeka ziphikisana nabososayensi bezenhlalakahle. Ngakho-ke, kungcono kuwe ukuthola ukuthi ukhululekile yini ngomntanakho futhi ukusetha imithetho yokuthandana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi ezinye izingane ezingase zenze noma ezingenakwenzeka.
Ukusekela Phakathi Kwakho Lapho Baqala Ukuqomisana
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyavuma yini noma cha, ingane yakho izovezwa ukuthi iphola ineminyaka engu-12.
Zama ukuba yizwi lesibongo kunokuba ugxeke. Bangase bangakwazi ukukhuluma nawe mayelana nemizwa yabo noma bacele iseluleko uma usebenzisa isinqumo esiningi kakhulu ngokuthandana ngokujwayelekile, noma mayelana nokulungela kwabo ukuphola. Kubalulekile ukuthi abantu ababili bazizwe benemininingwane ngolwazi olubasiza ukuba bahlele imingcele, izilindelo, kanye nemingcele kubo kanye nomuntu abathandana naye. Hlala ubandakanyeka ngokuhlanganyela okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kokuqala kokuthandana, kanye nomdlalo wokudlala uma i-kati yakho izwa kuyo. Kubalulekile ukuthi bakhe ukuzethemba ngokuthandana kule minyaka yokuqala ukuze bangaphambuki ngolwazi olungelona iqiniso. Futhi qiniseka ukuthi banamasu okubhekana nesimo esifanele uma usuku lungenzi njengoba luhlelwe. Ngokubambisana phakathi kwakho lapho beqala ukuphola, uzogcina imigqa yokuxhumana ivuliwe kusukela othandweni lwabo lokuqala ukuya ekugcineni kwabo.
Umthombo:
Collins, W. Andrew. Okungaphezu kweyinganekwane: Ukubaluleka Okuthuthukako Kobuhlobo Bothando Phakathi Nengane Yokukhula. I-Journal of Research on Adolescence. 2003. 13 (1): 1-24.