Ukuqonda Izingozi Zokuqomisana Okudlule
Uneminyaka emingaki lapho uqala ukuphola ? Ishumi nesithupha? Kuyishumi nane? Mhlawumbe uhlehlise ukuphola kuze kube yilapho usukhulile eminyakeni engakabiphi noma ngisho nasekolishi. Kodwa akuyona indlela izinto ezisebenza ngayo. Namuhla, izingane ziqala ukuqamba ezinsukwini ezincane kakhulu, kodwa kunezingozi ezihilelekile. Uma i-kati yakho ifuna ukusondelana, yilokhu okumele ukwazi mayelana nokuthandana nokuzicabangela phakathi kobudlelwane.
Yiziphi Tweens Cabanga Ngokuthandana
Yini abantu abacabanga ngayo mayelana nokuphola nokukhula? Sekuphele izinsuku lapho phakathi kobudlelwano kwakusho ukuthinteka izandla, ukugcoba, nokuhlukanisa ice cream sundaes esitolo soda sendawo. Izinsuku ezingu-10 zanamuhla zivezwe kunani elingakaze lenzeke lezithombe zobulili ngethelevishini, amabhayisikobho, imidlalo yevidiyo, ne-Inthanethi. Futhi lezo zithombe zithinta ukuziphatha okuphakathi.
Ngokwesayensi yamuva, eyayiqhutshwa nguLiz Claiborne kanye neNational Teen Dating Abuse Helpline, imiqondo engalingani mayelana nokuthandana ayinacala njengoba ungacabanga. Empeleni, bayashaqeka. Ucwaningo luveze ukuthi cishe umuntu oyedwa kwabayisishiyagalolunye kuthiwa bebekhona ebuhlotsheni besoka / intombi. Ngokudabukisayo, abangaphezu kweyodwa kwabayishumi kulabo abayishumi nambili bathi ukulala ocansini kuyingxenye yokuphola. Kodwa akudingeki uhlale futhi uvumele umphakathi uqondise ukuthi yini phakathi kwakho okufanele ucabange mayelana nokuphola nokuphepha kokuthandana.
Usengumzali, futhi ungasetha imingcele, imithetho futhi wenze imiphumela yengane yakho kufanele ilandelwe imithetho yakho. Amathiphu angezansi kufanele asize.
Okushiwo Abazali
Akumangalisi ukuthi abazali abaneminyaka eyishumi nambili bakhathazeka ngezingozi zomshoshaphansi. Kodwa kunezindlela zokusiza ingane yakho iqonde imingcele yokuphola nokuziphatha okufanele.
- Khuluma. Ingxoxo eyodwa ngeke ibe ngokwanele ukusiza phakathi kwakho ukuqonda izindinganiso zomndeni wakho nokulindela kwakho. Thatha noma yimiphi umzuzu wakho ophakathi kwakho onika kuwe, ephendula imibuzo angase abe nayo. Futhi, yenza imibono yakho icace ngokuphathelene nezingane, ukuthandana nokuthi yini efanele ukuziphatha. Isibonelo, ungase uthi, "Kuhle ukubamba izandla, kodwa usemncanyana kakhulu ukuthi ungamanga." Futhi, gcizelela imithetho yakho yomndeni, njengokungathi umngane wengane yakho uvumelekile ekamelweni lakhe noma yedwa endlini naye. Yiba yiqiniso, kungenjalo, abayishumi nambili bayokwenza imithetho yabo njengoba behamba.
- Qaphela. Hlala uxhumeke kwabanye abazali, ngakho uyazi ukuthi kwenzekani. Uma uzwa ngomsebenzi ongafaneleki, xoxani ngale ndaba ngephakathi kwakho bese ubuza ukuthi ucabangani ngalokhu kuziphatha. Ukugcina ukuxhumana nabanye abazali kungaba yindlela yakho engcono kakhulu yokwazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngephakathi kwakho nombuthano wakhe womphakathi.
- Setha imikhawulo. Uma unquma ukuvumela i-middle yakho ukuba idlule, yiba necacile mayelana nemibandela yakho. Ingabe ama-tweens azoba nokuqondiswa kwabantu abadala? Kuphi abayishumi abavunyelwe ukuhamba?
- Ungacabangi. Abaningi bezinsuku ezingu-13 nezintsha ezithandana nabo bahlanganyela ekuthandweni kweqembu, kodwa ukuphola iqembu akuyona inetha lokuphepha njalo. Ekugcineni, usenomthwalo wokuphatha ingane yakho.
- Hamba ngosuku. Thatha phakathi kwakho ngosuku lokuqala ukuze ufanise ukuziphatha kahle. Chaza umehluko phakathi kobudlelwane obuphilile nabangalungile. Vumela ingane yakho ukuthi uhlale ukhona ukuze uxoxe ngezinto ezibalulekile kuye, nokuthi ulindele ukwaziswa ngokuphila kwengane yakho. Uma ugcina iminyango yokukhulumisana ivulekile, cishe uzofakwa ezingxoxweni ezibalulekile, nezenzakalo empilweni yengane yakho.