Indlela Ingane Yakho Ethintekayo Ngayo Isinqumo Sakho Ukuhlukanisa
Lapho abazali behlukanisa, kunzima kuwo wonke umndeni. Izingane kufanele zibhekane nokuphazamiseka kwempilo yazo futhi zijwayele ukubhekana nokuphila okusha kwansuku zonke. Uma uthola isahlukaniso, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi yiziphi izinto ongazibona kusuka kumntanakho.
Izinkinga Zengane Ngemva Kokuhlukanisa
Amaphesenti angama-20% kuya kwa-25% wezinsizwa zesehlukaniso ezinzima ezithinta izinguquko ngaphakathi komndeni.
Nakhu ukuthi isehlukaniso sakho singathinta kanjani intsha yakho:
- Izinkinga zemfundo, njengamabanga amabi
- Inkinga yokulala
- Ukucindezeleka okwandayo
- Usizi noma intukuthelo kumzali oyedwa noma kokubili
- Ukwethembeka nokungalaleli
- Ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa
- Ukucindezeleka
- Imiqondo yokuzibulala nemizamo
- Izinkinga zokuziphatha esikoleni
- Ukukhathazeka ukuhambisana nabantwana bakini, ontanga, nabazali
- Kubandakanyeke emsebenzini wokuqala wocansi
- Kunzima ukwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze.
Ingane Yakho Iyoyithinta Kanjani Isehlukaniso?
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi intsha izokwenzani lapho abazali bayo behlukanisa, indlela abazali babo abahlangana ngayo. Sebenzisa nomlingani wakho ekuthuthukiseni isu lokubambisana.
Xoxa nomntanakho ndawonye bese ukhuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ihlanganyele izinkathazo, ukwesaba, nokukhungatheka. Uma ungaqiniseki ngendlela izinto ezizovela ngayo, vumela ukungabi nakanjani kwengane yakho. Uma ubeka indlu, noma ungaqiniseki ukuthi uzohamba kuphi, qaphela ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukungaqiniseki okunjalo.
Yilungele ukuqhuma okungokomzwelo nokuziphatha. Beka imingcele eqinile futhi ulandele nemiphumela uma kunesidingo. Yenza kucacise ingane yakho ukuthi usazokwenza okudingekayo ukuze uyivikele futhi umsize enze ukukhetha okunempilo.
Yiba Njalo Njengoba Izingane Zakho Zithengisa Nge-Divorce
Nakuba ukuhlukaniswa kuyoba nzima kuwe nakwebanye abantu emndenini, yenza okusemandleni akho ukuba ube khona nomntanakho.
Lokhu kusho ukukhuluma, ukuqapha, nokubonisa isithakazelo esiqotho emisebenzini yakho yengane. Kubalulekile ukuthi ingane yakho izwe eduze nawe njengoba uhamba ngesikhathi esibi.
Ngisho noma isehlukaniso sinokuthula, ingane yakho iyodabukisa ukulahlekelwa kwempilo yomndeni wakho ndawonye. Lindela ukubona ulwazi lwakho olusha lwemizwa ehlukahlukene, kusukela ekudumeni kuya ekudakaleni. Menze azi ukuthi kunempilo ukuzwa leyo mizwa, kodwa yenza kucace ukuthi kubalulekile ukuveza leyo mizwa ngendlela enempilo.
Uma ingane yakho ibonisa izinkinga zokuziphatha noma ibhekana nezinguquko kumzwelo wayo, funa usizo lochwepheshe. Angase azuze ekukhulumeni nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo mayelana nezinguquko ahlala nazo. Ngezinye izikhathi, izikhathi ezimbalwa zokwelashwa zingasiza kakhulu ekusizeni intsha ukuthi ihlathulule imizwa yakhe phezu kwendaba enkulu njengokuhlukana.
Umthombo
Patten, Peggy. (1999). Ukwahlukana Nezingane Ingxenye I: Ingxoxo noRobert Hughes, Jr., Ph.D. Imibiko yabazali.