Ingabe kulungile ukulahla ukuvakashelwa?
Ingabe udidekile mayelana nokusekelwa kwengane nokuvakashelwa? Awusodwa. Yenye yezindaba ezivame kakhulu lapho kutholakala ukusekelwa kwengane nokuvakasha. Noma kunjalo, lezi zinkinga ezimbili empeleni zihlukene, futhi abazali bayoba ukuhlakanipha ukuqaphela umehluko phakathi kwabo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumzali ongabambeleli noma umlondolozi oyinhloko onemibuzo mayelana nokusekelwa kwengane, ukuvakashelwa, namalungelo akho womzali, nansi izimpendulo ozidingayo:
Okwenza Izinkantolo Zibone Ukusekelwa Kwabantwana Nokuvakashelwa Ngokwehlukana
Kusukela ekuboneni kwenkantolo, ukusekelwa kwengane nokugcinwa kwengane kuyizinkinga ezimbili ezihlukene. Ukusifingqa, ukusekelwa kwengane kuyisibopho somzali kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyini ulwazi noma umzali wakhe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isinqumo sokugcina izingane, sisekelwe ekuvikeleni okuhle komntanakho. Yize izici eziningi zidlalwa, ukuphepha nokuvumelana kuyavame kakhulu ohlwini.
Kuncike emithethweni yokugcina izingane ezithathwe yizwe elithile, izinkantolo zingase zihloniphe kakhulu nethuba lokuvumela izingane ukuba zigcine okungenani ukuxhumana nabazali bobabili njengoba bejabulela ngaphambi kokuhlukaniswa noma ukuhlukaniswa. Ngakho-ke, izinkantolo zingancoma ukuvakashelwa ngokukhululekile noma ngisho nokwabelana ngesigceme kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umzali odinga ukukhokhela ukusekelwa kwabantwana empeleni kuyisimanje ekukhokheni kwakhe.
Lokhu kuvame ukushaqeka abazali abaye balinda ize ngezimali zokuxhasa izingane ezingakafiki.
Umthelela wezokuvakasha okungabonakali
Nasi elinye iphuzu elivamile lokukhungatheka: ukungabonisi ukuvakasha. Yini umzali okufanele ayenze? Qhubeka ukubeka eceleni isikhathi futhi ukhuthazelele ubuhlungu obubuhlungu ngemuva kokungabonisi noma ukuphazamiseka?
Ngeshwa, uma umzali ongabambeleli ukukhetha ukungahambisani nesimiso sokuvakashelwa enkantolo, umzali wokulondoloza unezinketho ezimbalwa kakhulu.
Ungakwazi:
- Thatha isikhashana sakho emuva enkantolo bese ucela isimiso sokuvakasha esibuyekeziwe
- Yenza umzamo wokuvula imigqa yokuxhumana ne-ex yakho ukuze ufunde ukuthi kungani engabambi iqhaza ekuvakasheni okuhleliwe
Ukunqatshwa kwezingane nokuvakashelwa
Masibhekane nakho: akekho ongakwazi (noma kufanele) ukuphoqa ingane ukuba ivakashele nomzali wayo. Noma kunjalo, kungase kube nemigomo esemthethweni yokusekela ukugxila kwengane ekuhambeni kokuvakasha. Noma kunini lapho ingane yakho yenqaba ukubamba iqhaza ekuvakasheni okuhleliwe nge-ex yakho, kufanele:
- Khuluma nengane yakho ngokuthi kungani engafuni ukubamba iqhaza ekuvakasheni
- Qinisekisa ingane yakho ukuthi wombili umthanda
- Chaza umqondo wokuhambela nokuthi kungani kubalulekile ukuchitha isikhathi nabazali bobabili
- Njengendlela yokugcina: khuluma nomunye wakho mayelana nokuvumela ingane yakho ukuthatha ikhefu noma ifinyeze ubude bokuvakasha.
Kuthiwani Uma Umzali Ophephile Efuna Ukungafuni Ukuvumela Amalungelo Wokuvakasha?
Umzali wokulondeka ugcinwe esimisweni sokuvakashelwa esiyalelwe enkantolo. Umzali angenqaba ukuvumela u-ex ukuba asebenzise amalungelo akhe okuvakasha ngezizathu ezilandelayo:
- Ukwesaba ukulimala okuseduze , njengokungathi usolwa ngokuhlukumeza noma ukunganaki ingane
- Ingane ayifuni ukuvakashela nomzali ongabambeleli
Ukuze uthole olunye ulwazi mayelana namalungelo okuvakasha nokugcinwa kwengane, bhekisela ezinsizeni ezengeziwe noma ukhulume nommeli ofanelekayo esifundazweni sakho.